Don't want to post too much detail and out myself (and have NC for the same reason) but who is BU in this situation? Had to cancel attending a social occasion hosted by a friend because of sick DC. Friend has made PA comments about trouble she's gone to etc and it feels like she's trying to make me feel guilty. She has DC herself so I would have thought she would understand that these things happen and genuinely can't be helped, she's also close enough to us that I would have thought concern for DC would outweigh any annoyance at the inconvenience. I know that's how I would feel if the situation was reversed and am a little hurt that she has chosen to try to make me feel bad rather than show some concern for DC. It's no big deal in the grand scheme of things and does seem out of character, I do understand it's annoying when people cancel when you've catered etc but surely she gets that I couldn't have gone with a vomiting child? Am I BU to feel a bit hurt and to think that it was quite rude and U of her to make PA comments when I obviously couldn't help having to cancel?