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To want to stitch his scrotum to his penis without gas and air?

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SlimCheesy2 · 19/08/2016 11:07

... Okay to be fair I am really angry and am venting on here rather than at my best friend. My best friend is about to have her second child. She is 43, years of IVF for the first and fell for the second naturally. We had coffee yesterday and she said she was hoping to give birth naturally. Her DH who was in the kitchen at the time gave a snort. BF demanded to know what he meant by that and he said that she had hardly given birth naturally LAST time. BF got weepy and reminded him that she had given birth without drugs but had needed gas and air to be stitched back up. His comment was; Yeah. You wimped out'.

He meant it too. He is very anti drugs, medical intervention stuff anyway, though to be fair I am not his greatest fan (as I find him quite obnoxious and controlling) so anything he says winds me up. I left soon after that because BF was getting anxious and upset and it was not helping me being there.

But I want so badly to tell him that until he can pass a watermelon out of his arse he doesn't get to have an opinion on what 'wimping out' means.

I am really really really cross and feeling quite impotent as BF is literally days from giving birth so does not need me to give her my feelings on this so venting 'safely' via MN.

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MsWorthington · 19/08/2016 11:25

I assume he thinks gas and air is "wimping out" because he can get through everyday ailments like a cold or a sprained ankle without taking a pain killer. Until he's gone through the trauma of labour, birth and his genitals tearing he has absolutely no say, that's it. What a massive thunder cunt.

shovetheholly · 19/08/2016 11:26

I would sign him up for one of those pain simulator machines, pronto. What a twat.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 19/08/2016 11:28

Oh oh oh so wait - he gets queasy?!

QUEASY??

So he is actually 'wimping out' of being present at the birth but he thinks his DW is a wimp because she had meds?

The irony is making my head explode.

chinam · 19/08/2016 11:28

He is against medical intervention.
He does realise that IVF is medical intervention and without it his first child wouldn't exist, doest he? Dickhead.

butterfliesandzebras · 19/08/2016 11:28

Ffs it's completely normal to have some sort of pain relief for stitches.

Can't believe a knob like this has managed to even get a partner, let alone one that would have two kids with him.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 19/08/2016 11:28

Also even in his own terms he's being completely illogical. She did give birth completely naturally, she just had some pain meds for a procedure afterwards.

So nasty + stupid. What a catch!

JenLindley · 19/08/2016 11:29

No, her mum's the support this time as he gets queasy

Very glad to hear that but hollow fucking laugh at him getting queasy yet she is the wimp?? Is he for real??

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 19/08/2016 11:30

Yes but jen watching giving birth is, in a very real sense, harder than doing it.

Don't you think so?

mrsfuzzy · 19/08/2016 11:31

he obviously has some redeeming qualities [can't thing what right now] otherwise why is she with the idiot ? we'll probably read her rants on here a few years time 'aibu calling my stexh a complete twunt ?'

Pettywoman · 19/08/2016 11:32

I volunteer to hold him down if someone else is better at needlework than I am.

toadgirl · 19/08/2016 11:33

What happened to men cherishing their partners, especially at such a vulnerable time? (I know lots do)

If I were your friend, I would not be at all sure about the children being brought up by a man who bullies their mother like this.

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SlimCheesy2 · 19/08/2016 11:33

I have just had a nasty image of daily fail getting this. I never post in AIBU but have been really hopping and kind of verbally vomited it out.

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GingerbreadGingerbread · 19/08/2016 11:33

He's a misogynist cunt.

ZansSerif · 19/08/2016 11:34

Oh what a twat. You were very restrained - I'd have started arguing with him (and have done so before with these types).

It's her choice anyway, NOT his and she should have whatever she wants, but even so she only had blimmin gas and air FGS!

And for him to say "yeah you wimped out" - that's not just about his anti-medication views, it's about him demeaning and belittling her and trying to put her in her place. Nasty bullying TWAT. This makes me so mad!

I hope she gets wise to this and is free of him one day.

cjt110 · 19/08/2016 11:35

SlimCheesy2 He's never walked the walk so can go jump. He might not take meds himself but everyones pain threshold is different. Take for instance - I needed an episiotomy and forceps for my 8lb11 son after 24 hours of labour. My SIL needed the same for her 4lb6 daughter after 1 hours labour. I only had G&A. She had a spinal (Cant think of the term - when they put the line into your back).

toadgirl · 19/08/2016 11:36

Your BF might need this meme nearer the time. After all, it's all about her DH, isn't it?

To want to stitch his scrotum to his penis without gas and air?

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SlimCheesy2 · 19/08/2016 11:37

Epidural. Bloody lovely things. :)

I have reported myself with embarrassment. I know my BF is not a MNetter, but if this goes more widely (how stupid am I to even post) it is pretty identifying.

I am such an idiot sometimes.

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DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 19/08/2016 11:38

he would be queasy just being in the room... Jerk!

currentlyunavailable · 19/08/2016 11:39

I hope Karma is up and that lovely individual will need dental work urgently. I am sure he will LOVE having a root canal without pain relief.

furryminkymoo · 19/08/2016 11:40

Next time you see him could you accidently elbow him in the Goolies? or tread on his toe in heels?

SlowJinn · 19/08/2016 11:40

Change your username to something with cunt in it, then the DM won't screenshot your thread for an article. Add some other swears as well just to be on the safe side.

NPowerShitShower · 19/08/2016 11:41

He sounds like an idiot!

And I hope she feels free to use as much medication as she likes and doesn't keep it secret at all. If I were her, I'd take great delight in winding him up about the number of drugs I'd enjoyed...

In all seriousness, what happens if the newborn needs medical intervention?

ZansSerif · 19/08/2016 11:41

I don't think that would be the end of the world, OP. Your friend must know how you feel about him. It might be good for her, ultimately, to know what the world thinks too.

It's a shame to feel you have to shut yourself down for merely describing a misogynist, in case it causes offence. (I don't mean that in a critical way)

WizardOfToss · 19/08/2016 11:41

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Batteriesallgone · 19/08/2016 11:44

Johnny oh yes. In a very real sense. And after all, why add to the inconvenience of birth by asking the father to watch it, when Of Course he will have more important Man Things to do.

Her mother is assisting, let the feeble women get on with it I say, they would only annoy him with their weaknesses if he was there.

Really, in a very real sense, he's doing her a favour not being there and staying strong and rested. She should be grateful.

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