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To ask you to find a suitable term to describe my ex?

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Mycatsabastard · 19/08/2016 10:53

Background is dd is 10.

With ex for nearly 7 years, split finally when she was 2.

He has only ever paid £5 a week for her.

I phoned the CMS and today I get a call saying he should be paying £156 a month but he wants a DNA test.

A fucking DNA test. He is a violent, controlling bully who is now going to put his DD through that. I will have to explain to her why she needs to have her mouth swabbed.

What a bastard. Feel free to add a description of your own. I'm bloody fuming.

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90daychallenger · 19/08/2016 10:54

Cunt

ALemonyPea · 19/08/2016 10:54

Cockwomble

Cuntypants

I don't there is a word to describe what an utter twat he is.

pinkyredrose · 19/08/2016 10:56

Fucking wanker nasty arsehole loser dickhead sperm donating deadbeat waste of oxygen.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 19/08/2016 10:56

Don't have her mouth swabbed. Don't.

Write the money off.

I've had fuck all from my ex. He doesn't care. It's not worth the stress.

MrsFarm · 19/08/2016 10:57

What a DICK

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Mycatsabastard · 19/08/2016 11:10

I can't afford to write the money off unfortunately. I doubt he will go through with it, it's going to cost him £260. Sad that he's willing to pay that in order to attempt to get out of paying for her. He bloody knows she's his.

His mum and sister are travelling to see us next week. I'll talk to his sister about it but she will be livid.

It seems it's his last tiny bit of trying to control me. He hasn't seen DD for nearly 3 years now, I had to take a non-mol order out to protect us, we've had to move house yet again to hide from him. He's a fucking cunt.

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iluvshoes · 19/08/2016 16:35

What a massive knob jockey!! Went through a similar thing with my sons dad so I do feel your pain. I keep getting letters from the CSA telling me how much he owes me in arrears and do you know what I'd rather have nothing to do with that massive C#*!t. Sorry really hate that word Ha ha ha..

GastonsPomPomWrath · 19/08/2016 16:39

He sounds as bad as mine.

Flowers
Fluffsnuts · 19/08/2016 16:39

Twat.

Do it whilst she sleeps. Explain when she's older.

ImperialBlether · 19/08/2016 16:41

I think it would be quite easy to do this without her being aware of what it is. I'd do it so that he had to pay - why should you be financially penalised?

clicknclack · 19/08/2016 16:43

...or don't explain at all, just say it is for "a test" or that "they are checking something".

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 19/08/2016 16:47

Feckless, pathetic excuse of a man. He can't even pretend he's genuine - oh for the past 10 years I've doubted my daughters mine but just happened to request a DNA when I'm told I have to pay for my child's upkeep.

Selfish, heartless, tight arsed cunt. At least she's got one good parent who cares about her feelings Flowers

cantshakeitoff · 19/08/2016 16:47

You don't have to explain it to her. If you do, make up a white lie, that it's an allergy test or something like that.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 19/08/2016 16:49

Nobby McCuntyTwatFace

LaurieFairyCake · 19/08/2016 16:56

Fuckbadger

Agree, tell her it's allergy testing. And do a little dance that he will have to pay for it Grin

LaurieFairyCake · 19/08/2016 16:57

Will the money get backdated?

timelytess · 19/08/2016 17:01

Tell her the truth (including that he's trying to get out of paying) and get on with it. Its practical, not a big deal. He only has power over you if you let it upset you. Say 'Fine', do it, move on. If you're upset, your dd will be upset too.

mum2Bomg · 19/08/2016 17:11

Arsehat 😊

confusedandemployed · 19/08/2016 17:15

Filth. That covers it.

travellinglighter · 19/08/2016 17:19

I’d ask my ex for a DNA test but I’m almost certain she’s the mother.Grin

Grannypants1 · 19/08/2016 17:26

Syphilitic ham dragon

CalleighDoodle · 19/08/2016 17:30

If dd is 10 can you not make it like a science experiment? Explain how dna works and what it can tell us about ourselves and how we test. Then you could both do it as part of the science experiment. You could get yourself one of those ancestry ones for £99 to do at the same time and then youll have some faciniating facts about you (and your daughter) when the results come back. No need for her to know what her test is for specifically. Your results can be for both of you.

Fortybingowings · 19/08/2016 17:34

skanky microdick

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Mycatsabastard · 19/08/2016 19:15

I like the allergy test idea.

DD will not be fobbed off with half truths. She's being assessed for ASD and needs to know everything. Absolutely everything. Anything new or untoward can put her into a massive meltdown. So I need to be prepared.

I need to see if my GP surgery will do the swabs (me and her) and then I think allergy testing may be the way to go. I really don't want to have to tell her that her dad is saying he's not her dad. He's fucked up her little head enough over the years without adding that onto it.

The thing is I will have to think of something really convincing. I hate lying to my children and try not to do it but in this case, I think it's pretty essential if I don't want more nightmares and tears over her useless, feckless father.

He really is a fucking cunt.

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blueturtle6 · 19/08/2016 19:33

Like your idea calleigh.
Not worth name calling, call him irrelevant

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