To clean up?

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At a friends house helping out with their 6month old son, I got here at 7am. They are both out working 6pm ish.. I have my DC with me and am too far from home to go home then be back for 6 (140 mile return journey).

The house is a total bomb site. In the kitchen is more fruit flies than I can count. Mouldy food all over and a foul smell in there.

In the bathroom are used sanitary towels out in the open. My youngest needed the toilet but the toilet is so dirty she actually wet herself rather than use the toilet. I was planning on bathing all the kids before we set off home but the bath is so dirty id rather them wait till tomorrow.

Pleas bare in mind we'll be here till 6 so we'll be using the bathroom and I'll be cooking a little later for the kids.

WIBU to clean up to make us a little more comfortable?

I expect it's the dust that has triggered the allergic reaction, too. I'm not allergic to dust as such, but when pulling stuff out of under the bed etc that's a bit fusty, I get a runny nose, cough and itchy eyes etc.

This is something I have done for a friend before. Mind you she had depression from prior to baby and then pnd on top and was actually asleep upstairs. For her it was a sign she wasn't coping -- following cleaning I proceeded to get her up shower and dress her before the health visitor arrived. While the hv was there I informed them how much help I was providing and that I was going back to uni soon so wouldn't be around and it got support she needed. I would definitely report incase it's a similar issue of someone not coping and needing some support.

I totally get struggling to keep up with housework as I had four under five and let it get on top of me when I had a abscess in my ear so couldn't walk. It never got to the stage of rubbishy in kitchen or used San pro in the bathroom.i think you could explain that the baby will be into everything soon so they need to be one step ahead.
I devised a timeline showing what I shout be doing all day to keep the house immaculate as I knew if it got out of hand I would never catch up

I'm going back in a few days and am actually getting my gloves and spare set of clothes ready for me and the DC incase the house is a state again.

I really hope it's not, my house has been overly spotless since we got home though!

pluto I think I remember your thread and I remember think what great, constructive and sympathetic answers you got.

There's obviously a lot going on with the couple. Some of the responses have been pretty unsympathetic, to my surprise. The used sanpro might have been a careless mistake. She may have left it on the side while she was having a pee and forgot to put it in the bin after, for example.

It's lovely that you are such a good friend, OP. Is there any chance that your friend, the guy, can take some leave to sort a few things out. Could he afford a cleaner to come in every 2 weeks for 3 hours? Or take all the waking/ironing to a local launderette and get them to do it? I know that all costs money but would help a hell of a lot.

Tbh, he should be able to keep the kitchen fairly tidy, even if the rest of the house is left. Doesn't take too long to wash a sink full of stuff.

You sound like a fantastic friend op, glad you're able to follow this up soon.