She's a GIRL

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I'm fed up with my 4month old being labelled as a boy. Near enough every time I'm out with her, someone will remain to her as a he: how old is he? Isn't he cute! Oh look at him etc.

AIBU to be increasingly rude to these people when correcting them? Of course it's always random strangers and never the same ones, I'm just hugely fed up with correcting people, especially when she is clearly wearing girls clothes. (Or at the very least, something that identifies her as a girl such as a girls sun hat or cardigan)

Just to illustrate, here are some of the outfits she's been wearing when people have assumed she's a boy. We also have a Cosatto pram with blue and orange pattern but IMO it's very non gender specific.

My son has a pink rabbit and everyone assumes his a girl. An ugly girl, but a girl 😜

My daughter looked like Phil Mitchell for the first year of her life. I avoided putting her in dresses because lets face it, Phil Mitchell in a frock is not a good look

Most babies look like Phil Mitchell, don't they?

And/or Ian Hislop.

I don't think you need to be rude to anyone, it's not like they are mistaking her for a prune.

Mine looked like Alex Salmond. In a frock.

YABVU and missing out on a great opportunity to boot.

Let people assume she is a boy. They will interact with her as a boy and confer many of the advantages society gives boys in terms of their self-confidence in the process!

I was chuffed to bits that DD could pass as a boy for the first 2.5 years. People let her get on with exploring instead of restricting her, gave her mechanical moving toys instead of dolls all the time and complemented her on being big, strong, clever, assertive etc. instead of endless wittering about how pretty or beautiful she was.

What's not to like about your baby being mistaken for a boy?

Oh god my DD2 definitely looked like Phil Mitchell, bless her.

DD1 looked more like Grant.

Both were mistaken for boys on a number of occasions. It didn't bother me. I can't tell what gender many babies are (or I couldn't if I didn't go by clothes) so I am not remotely offended if someone gets it wrong about my baby.

If you really care then stick a Little Princess Tshirt on her please don't

YABU if you are only correcting each person once, they don't know that you've corrected other people in the past.

But what does it matter? She's only a tiny baby, dress her how you like.

My daughter was once in full on pink, in her pram with a large pink pram toy on it. Some woman still said oh what a lovely boy!
Don't worry about it OP x

My son was once called 'she' while he was dressed in tractor wellies, jeans, a navy coat and a blue top with trucks on it. My usual tactic if I'm not sure is to address the baby directly - 'Hello beautiful! what's your name, then?' and hope the parent will say something helpful like 'Max' or 'Sophie'.

I do have some sympathy for people who get it wrong though. A child occasionally see at amutual friend's house only very rarely at chaotic parties has a completely gender-neutral name, beautiful white-blond shoulder-length ringlets and is always in gender-neutral clothes (usually crocs, jeans and plain t-shirts). I've met this child, who must be about 5 now, several times over about three years and I still have absolutely no idea whether it's a boy or a girl - if you put a gun to my head I'd say boy, but I'm really not sure. It's gone on too long for me to be able to ask the parents now!!

That first outfit defo makes me think boy. Try not to care? or ditch blue outfits?

Our travel system was a brown colour, as I didn't find out the sex I often put DD in white or cream in the early days and loads of people thought that she was a boy, it really didn't bother me.

*don't understand why you'd dress her in blue but not expect people to assume she's a boy?

It's only in MN that I see this neurosis of dressing girls in pink.*

Exactly this. Put her in other colours if you don't want people to assume she's a boy. RL is bigger than mn bubble.

My DS's nursery teacher thought DD was a boy for the whole of winter!!

We have a blue foot-muff on the pram and she doesn't have much hair.

It's only in MN that I see this neurosis of dressing girls in pink. In RL all the babies girls I see out and about are in pink/peach/red/lemon/cream.

How would you know? You're assuming all the babies in blue/brown/green are boys...

OP, you can either:
a) go OTT with the pink, ruffles, headbands, fake pigtails;
b) decide you don't care.

I recommend b) myself. If the baby doesn't care, neither should you

You have a gender neutral pram and dress her in lovely, but quite neutral clothing.

So Yabu. If it's so important that people guess she is a girl, dress her in head to toe pink and get a pink pram.

Or keep the pram and dress her how you want and let it go.

What's so awful about a baby girl being mistaken for a boy?

My DS has always been called a girl, even now at 13 . He has masses of red curly hair and chooses to have it long. He just takes it now, sometimes I correct people but I am bored of doing it now. He had a dark green pram and clothing with trucks/fire engines etc on and still people called him a girl!

I dressed my daughter (after a son) neutral for the first few weeks until I kept being asked what my boy's name was...so then I started dressing her all in pink! I had no intention of dressing her in pink before that!

I don't understand why this bothers you. If I happen to be speaking to the owner of a baby whose gender I can't determine, at some point I"m going to have to take a stab at the it and say 'she' or 'he' and I might get it wrong.

Even the doctor at my dd 8 week check said "she hasn't much hair for a girl".
People always get it wrong with her, don't let it bother me anymore tbh.

I dress my toddler in a wide variety of bright colours, but rarely anything frilly, pink, pastel or floral (I wouldn't be seen dead in that kind of stuff, so why would I choose to dress her like that?) She's been mistaken for a boy a number of times since she was born, sometimes I correct the person, sometimes I can't be arsed. What it doesn't do is offend me in any way whatsoever, and I don't really understand why it would, unless you think there is something inherently wrong with being a boy (or vice versa).

Is it because people think that if a girl is mistaken for a boy it implies that she's not pretty? If your son is mistaken for a girl, do you think people implying he's effeminate in some way? Such a ridiculous load of old bollocks, they're babies ffs.

Get a big vile flower bow for her head and a princess t-shirt if it bothers you, but otherwise just crack on, blue is a lovely colour and those clothes are delightful.

So any baby that doesn't have a 'girl' toy/pram/blanket must be a boy?

I dressed my baby girl in blue a lot because I really like blue. Didn't ever bother thinking about colours for pram/toys/blankets...

DD was 18mths and wearing a snowsuit that was blue with great big pink flowers on it. Father Christmas still called her he. Some people just aren't very observant.

My five-month-old frequently gets mistaken for a boy. So what? No one else needs to know what kind of genitals she has at this stage of her life.

She looks more like Bruce Willis than Phil Mitchell though. proud mummy boast

senita hit the nail on the head. It's the default reaction of boy.

But there have probably been a lot of people who have taken a random guess and landed on 'girl', you just haven't noticed.

The clothes you've dressed her in are very cute and not uber-girly (I can't tell if the thing with a kite is a romper or dress?) so it's possibly not that obvious.