I do empathise. My mum often remarks about the shame of having two single-parent daughters. She hated both our partners, so am very confused about what exactly it was she wanted for us
You can't win for losing with these Mums.
I have wanted to share this on this thread a few times, but been a bit 'ehhh' about it
If you ever want to share, please do. Or PM, if you prefer.
I've had a fairly serious relapse since ex left. I'm so cross with myself. I wish I could pick up the phone and tell Mum, but she will be awful. After a while, she will be kinder but I know the first call will involve her hanging up and sulking
It happens in recovery. You are still recovering though. You know what you want and you will get there.
It's hard when you have a parent who makes it even harder. I know I would have left my ex, likely before we even married, if Mum had been different. She stopped speaking to me and I felt even more pushed into his arms. No other family about and my siblings lived abroad by that point. I was so naive after a lifetime of being shut away in the country only seeing Mum and siblings as I grew up.
Is there anyone else you could make your main support person, rather than your Mum? Your main support person really should be someone you don't have to even flinch about telling your problems to.
And please, nobody suggest AA (have got serious issues with AA, could do an entire thread, in fact). Aargh!
I haven't tried it, though I have heard mixed reports. You need to find the right place for you. That's what this is all about.
Bless the portias, the vanillas and the toads who make themselves so emotionally available to their children/toadlets!
We like to muck about on this thread (no-one more than me!) but we are all there for each other too. Aaaaaw!!!!!!! No wonder the threads just run and run.
