Neighbour keeps using my washing line.

[Horsegirl1]

We have only one neighbour as we live rural . Our gardens meet and she keeps using my washing line. Everytime I go out to hang up my washing g she has clothes on my line. She has only just started doing this. She has lived next door for 8 months but rarely speaks despite my efforts to be chatty etc (she is very quiet and private and says no more than hello) . Anyways she has suddenly started using my washing line. It's driving me crazy as I have 5 children so have tons of washing. Plus my husband is a farmer so again many clothes to wash . AIBU to politely ask her to buy/put up her own line ??? I wouldn't dream of doing this but maybe I'm an un reasonable bitch and should share ???

All sorted as iv installed a rotary line in her back garden . She thanked me and we never mentioned my line . All good

Result!

Well Done OP ((((Happy Hugs))))

Well done! Enjoy having your washing line back!

Well done. :-)

My guess would be that you have started digging a hole for yourself. You have now taught your tenant that if they want something you have they should just keep 'borrowing' your item, without asking, and that eventually you will 'give in' and buy her her own.
The fact that neither of you seems capable of having a rational conversation boggles my mind!

Iv had to use tumble dryer and banisters when she is using my line

In the kindest way possible...... thats just silly. You don't have to 'confront' her or do any PA shite. You literally just have to speak to her and ask her not to use your line. Adding to your DHs workload while he is harvesting is crazy if the only reason is that you are too nervous to speak to someone . (BTW is there a reason you can't put a new line up yourself. It's an easy job and there will be a million YouTube videos to guide you )

If you genuinely have a lot of anxiety about this then drop her a little polite note. I've made this suggested note extra polite as I presume you are nervous of offending anyone. Personally I'd just speak to her or send a polite but short and unapologetic note.

Hi, Neighbour, hope you are enjoying the nice weather, I've been meaning to ask about the washing line but I keep missing you so I thought I'd drop you a quick note while I remember. There have been quite a few instances recently where I've gone to hang out my washing only to find you have got there first so I'm going to have to ask you to stop using it. Hopefully it won't be a problem for you as you have plenty of space in your own garden for a line. Thanks OP

Agghhhhhhhhhhh! I didn't read the update

OP

Still read the Assertiveness book though. It will make you much happier to know you can have difficult conversations (been there)

Well done, OP!