To cut a very long story short my DM's friend helps to run a charity shop for a small local charity. A few months ago DM told me that her friend, I'll call her Jean, was worried about the future of the shop as they weren't really getting good quality donations. I attend a mother and toddler group and myself and some of the other ladies decided to have a clear out in the hope it would help the charity out.
The shop ended up closing a few weeks ago and there has been suspicion that most of the donations never made it out onto the shop floor. Jean is a prolific EBay seller and also her DD has been spotted pushing the pram around that was donated by one of my friends(very distinctive!)I asked my mum about all this at the weekend and she pretty much confirmed my suspicions but stuck up for Jean saying that they all deserved it for all their hard work and that the charity should have treat them better.
My DM has form for minimising friends and relatives misdemeanors with a bit of victim blaming thrown in for good measure. Years ago she played down her BIL knocking someone over whilst drunk because the victim was also drunk but on the sodding pavement which my uncle mounted with his car! I told my DM that I was disgusted that we'd all tried to do a good thing but just ended lining Jean and her cronies pockets and I would class her actions as criminal. My DM went crazy and said how dare I judge her friend and to get down off my high horse as everyone does it.
I don't think so, I think I'll be low contact with her for a while as her morals are appalling and quite frankly don't want myself or my DC near her whilst she thinks her friends behaviour is acceptable. Have I overreacted? Thanks if you got to the end, it's long and a bit rambling, sorry I'm angry!