AIBU or is this banter

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If some people in your group of friends on a chat says "wish you were here... not" when they're out together and you're stuck at home, is that like a 'bantery' thing or should I be as upset as I am?

I am quite sensitive and don't understand insinuations, etc so willing to be wrong here. Actually hoping I am

FakeBook is full of people pretending their lives are fabulous. I loathe IT! So you made a comment about feeling bored? Because no other parents sometimes crave a night out? Your 'friends' were spiteful and cruel; and rest assured, they were not having an awesome time if they decided to attack you. Happy people do not go out of their way to make others unhappy!

I think you have every right to be upset. They have behaved despicably and I'm so sorry. Have a good cry and then move on. You don't need horrible people in your life so cut them out and focus on those people who you know love you. Make new friends because not everyone is like this. Most people behave well most of the time.

Your status was fine too. The internet is awash with posts from parents bemoaning the less fun aspects of parenting.

What was your DP doing? Why wasn't he in with the kids so you could go out? I'd just arrange a Saturday night with some nice people and forget about this group.

A similar thing happened to me 20 years ago OP when I was at uni, and it still stings when i think about it now. Very mean of your group of friends

for you

Not sure why some posters are giving you a hard time

What you wrote didn't sound particularly passive aggressive.
Your 'friends' (said very sarcastically) sound bloody horrible!
Why would you want anything to do with such nasty people.
I would take up a hobby or one of those meet up things and find new friends. Leave them and their toxic friendship to themselves!

Just remember it's not you it's them!

I would also think your DP might be a bit embarrassed that his DSis doesn't know how to conduct herself in or out of company tbh!

They sound like nasty bullies and there is no excuse for that. I would have nothing to do with them in future. Spiteful, horrible people. I hope your DP is ashamed of his sister.

I would be careful about what you post on social media though. I'm in my late 20s, probably a similar age to you, and I'm not friends with anyone on social media who posts vague, attention seeking statuses. It would irritate me, and I'd end up unfollowing them. I feel like there might be more back story to this than you're letting on to or maybe that you're even aware of...you said they used to invite you out but they don't any more? Your intention may not have been to direct it at them but they may have interpreted it as a passive aggressive attack if they already feel tension or there are issues with past nights out. If they don't know you're autistic they may not understand some of your behaviour.

But I will repeat that you do not deserve what they did, it is inexcusable and bullying behaviour.

It is banter.

Banter is a word used my people to normalise bullying.

What you posted did sound attention seeking and irritating. When I see people do this stuff i roll my eyes or unfollow them. I wouldn't be nasty as to say what these women said to you. Yanbu to feel hurt about it.