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to think people are arseholes?

111 replies

RosieWithTheGoodHair · 13/08/2016 08:50

Not all of them. But another thread reminded me of something that happened to me when I was young and naïve (pretty much c+p from thread - those who read both aren't having déjà vu!):

In my early twenties I got chatting to and then bought a(n assumed) homeless man a drink in a pub.
My friend took a shine to him and invited him back to his flag where the three of us had an impromptu party - drink, drugs etc. he partook in both.
Woke up on the sofa the next day and our new friend had gone. So had all excess alcohol, plastic bags which had trace amounts of drugs in etc. The flat was actually comparatively tidy.
Went home, two days later went to withdraw some money from the cash point - card gone. Went bank - account empty.

The police had CCTV of him at the cash point down the road that morning, but because he must have seen my PIN when I bought him the drink there was no official crime committed according to the bank, I should have been more careful. Which I agree with.

My passcode on my phone was the same as my card at the time (I knooow) so I've always assumed he saw/kind of saw my PIN and then when I yelled my passcode to my friend who was wanting to change a song he had a lightbulb moment.

People are arseholes sometimes despite your best intentions.

Discuss.

OP posts:
pictish · 13/08/2016 23:20

Rosie I wouldn't bother. Leave the thread be.
A lovely onslaught of victim blaming folks. Well done.

Vickyyyy · 13/08/2016 23:32

99.9% of people are wankers. If you assume that, then you won't be disappointed.

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100% agree Grin

deathandtaxes123 · 13/08/2016 23:52

pictish

so the OP shouldn't take responsibility for her actions? Why do you think the OP is absolved of her Responsibility?

I'm all for stopping victim blaming but there are circumstances where you need to take stock of your own behaviour/ attitude/lifestyle and smarten the fuck up.

The person who robbed her is responsible for commiting a crime but the OP needs to realise she is responsible for her safety and it seems she has a complete disregard for that.

hownottofuckup · 13/08/2016 23:59

Death really, have you read the thread? It was years ago. Not yesterday.

EttaJ · 14/08/2016 00:13

He was awful but you were pretty dumb as was your mate, to I huge him back. A lot worse could have happened than him stealing money , booze and drugs. You invited trouble to your door.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 14/08/2016 00:25

Like other posters have suggested, you do need help. I knew this incident may have been a long time ago but you were getting shitfaced the other night and posting about it, also posting arse pics a few months ago. You talk about manic episodes, so why the hell are you still drinking?

Get help.

BillyDaveysDaughter · 14/08/2016 00:29

Similar experience 25 years ago with different outcome - teenager, messing around with dodgy punk crowd, off my face on alcohol and amphetamines. Ended up at a drugs party with people I didn't recognise, sitting on the lap of a man I didn't know, with no idea what part of town I was in. I had, inexplicably, a bloody nose. Drugs or a fight, maybe both.

Started hallucinating and have vague memory of being dragged/carried back to a house by the man I was lolling all over. He got into bed with me, but when I politely said no thank you, he immediately left me alone. In the morning, he brought me a cup of tea, handed me a crash helmet and took me on the back of his motorbike to the bus station so I could go home.

So in fact, people aren't always arseholes. I was very lucky and I haven't touched drugs or alcohol since! #overreaction

hownottofuckup · 14/08/2016 01:08

Having AS OP I am now quite disappointed to discover no arse (ass?) pics were ever posted (unless they've been removed Shock ). It was a short thread but the link to Cosmo re taking a belfie(?) was worth it.
Cheers OP.

bloodymaria · 14/08/2016 08:26

There have been a few threads she's started with bare bum photos how, deleted for breaking the talk guidelines. Seems to be a pattern of posting (drunk?) at the weekends. Cry for attention perhaps?

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 14/08/2016 08:51

This has taken a turn for the nasty. If you are concerned about the OP's mental health or alcohol use then don't use it as a stick to beat her with.
OP I think you were rediculously naive to do what you did but if it was years ago and you're only 25 now then you were very young when this happened and it sounds like your life was pretty chaotic.
Be kind. The OP was stupid and got robbed- she didn't spit on your granny.

Botanicbaby · 14/08/2016 09:15

ive already acknowledged that I was an idiot. I thought a couple of lines of coke, some cans of red stripe and a few slices of frozen pizza was kindness. I was a stupid hipster cunt

Frozen pizza + red stripe = hipster? Confused

OP of course you were in the wrong but you were young and stupid. Yes, he was an arsehole to do what he did but it's not entirely unexpected.

You live & learn. I hope.

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