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AIBU?

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Original poster

Am i? Poor Ds :(

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Badders123 · 11/08/2016 11:09

Arranged with a mum on Sunday night for ds2s friend to come over for the day today. She was going to drop him off and I would drop him back later.
Ds has been soooo excited!
I had a really busy day yesterday so didn't text to remind/confirm.
Roll on 10am...nothing.
It's now after 11 so I texted I answer
I texted again half an hour later...no answer. I asked if he was still coming so if not we could make other plans.
I just rang the number I have been texting on and the person who answered said "wrong number"
So....
Is it the mum just ignoring me and he child not wanting to come?
Fine...but let me know!
Or is it something else I'm not seeing?
I can't have been texting the wrong person!
Don't know the landline and it's not listed.
Poor Ds is so upset and I don't know what to tell him.
This is after last week my own sister dropping us ike stones when a better offer came along.
Sigh.
AIBU?
I feel like going round the house and knocking on the damn door!
(Don't worry I won't!)

OP posts:
purplefox · 11/08/2016 18:51

Were you messaging her on Whatsapp rather than via SMS?

MiddleClassProblem · 11/08/2016 18:53

Yeah whatsapp she may not have your number saved, when answered the phone not knowing number just shooed it away?

Original poster
Badders123 · 11/08/2016 19:05

No. Via sms.

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ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/08/2016 19:11

Oh so does she mean she got a new phone this morning and was waiting for the new number to transfer over to the new phone. That can take a small amount of time if you arent just switching the sim. Not too long tho. but she's totally bullshitting.

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/08/2016 19:12

In fact she's definitely talking bullshit cause even if the above was correct her number wouldn't of been assigned to someone else for it to of been the wrong number. I forgot about that.

Sellingyesterdaysnews · 11/08/2016 19:30

I think if she is at work, she may not have been allowed to answer the call...I wouldn't.
Also, if she doesn't know you well and you didn't confirm I think she may have used her other childcare arrangements for safety's sake and have thought your arrangement was just a ' maybe' .
I think you are over thinking it and should have confirmed yesterday.

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/08/2016 19:39

Selling have you read all the ops posts??

toptoe · 11/08/2016 19:41

Maybe she forgot, but after your initial text she would have replied with 'oh no, forgot! Sorry' if she was kind. But she didn't. It is possible she had some sort of family ie. row with a partner that fucked up her day and with the turmoil it all took on low priority. But even that is a stretch.

At least you know now she's at the very least flakey and at the worst unkind.

The 'wrong number' and changed mobile is BS - she had to backtrack once your sister messaged her on same number. It's a lie that she got caught out on.

Sellingyesterdaysnews · 11/08/2016 21:06

No sorry, had missed last few posts !!
Sounds like the wrong number thing was a lie probably... Oh dear

HarryPottersMagicWand · 11/08/2016 21:17

I would have to bring up the "wrong number" call and ask her what that was about. It was her number, she can't pretend it isn't. She sounds flakey and full of shit tbh.

pollymere · 12/08/2016 18:30

If you can pop round, then do. Sort it out face to face. If she slams the door in your face, then you know you've a problem!

Buddahbelly · 12/08/2016 20:06

Why would she act like this if you're going to possibly bump into each other on school runs etc.

Glad your ds is ok, I hated anything like this when I was a only child. anyone coming to play was a massive thing for me so I would have been really disappointed!

Pumpkin2010 · 12/08/2016 21:05

Did she get back in touch? Hmm

bunnyfuller · 12/08/2016 21:14

Cannot stand that. Just say 'we've changed our minds'. Also get it from idiots on FB when you're selling something, ignoring/blocking you etc just because they haven't got the brain or courtesy to say 'sorry, decided no'. DS will get better friends OP. It isn't you, people like this do it all the time.

CeriBerry · 13/08/2016 00:19

I was once texting a friend and all of a sudden in the middle of our text conversation I got a 'sorry who is this, you have the wrong number' text! I texted back saying that I'd been texting my friend (and getting responses) and all of a sudden in the middle of the conversation, I'd had the wrong number text! The person was as perplexed as I was, and was 200 miles away! Most odd. I left it a bit and sent my friend another text and all of a sudden it was her again. Must have been some kind of wrong line situation. Not saying this is likely at all in this case but just saying, it can happen! It was so odd and I've never heard of it happening to anyone else!

Flibjibbet · 13/08/2016 01:59

What's happened is horrible and I know that pain of not knowing while dealing with a gutted child.. but I will say sometimes I've panicked and said something stupid in the spur of the moment which I've then had to back track on!

Original poster
Badders123 · 13/08/2016 08:31

Thank you for all the kind messages
Ds is fine Smile
Sadly he thinks this boy is his "best friend" Sad
It's all very odd Hmm
I'm trying to arrange some more met ups with his other friends next week

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