Am i? Poor Ds :(

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Arranged with a mum on Sunday night for ds2s friend to come over for the day today. She was going to drop him off and I would drop him back later.
Ds has been soooo excited!
I had a really busy day yesterday so didn't text to remind/confirm.
Roll on 10am...nothing.
It's now after 11 so I texted I answer
I texted again half an hour later...no answer. I asked if he was still coming so if not we could make other plans.
I just rang the number I have been texting on and the person who answered said "wrong number"
So....
Is it the mum just ignoring me and he child not wanting to come?
Fine...but let me know!
Or is it something else I'm not seeing?
I can't have been texting the wrong person!
Don't know the landline and it's not listed.
Poor Ds is so upset and I don't know what to tell him.
This is after last week my own sister dropping us ike stones when a better offer came along.
Sigh.
AIBU?
I feel like going round the house and knocking on the damn door!
(Don't worry I won't!)

trapped I'm not needing to simmer down, I'm good

Do you not think it's a crackers conclusion to draw from the circumstances? Its a bit paranoid IMO. I don't know how people get from one end of the day to the other, I really don't.

Anyway...carry on with your lunacy. I'm off

The wrong number thing is so weird. Could be stolen, I suppose, but usually the sim card would be cancelled/changed so it doesn't seem very likely.

Sorry your DS is upset, we've had no shows on play dates before. Makes me so cross because bar a genuine emergency it's really not difficult to text/call to say they can't make it.

Mjingaxx really isn't the one jumping to odd conclusions here...!

Its the most likely conclusion sadly as there are a good few parents who behave like this otherwise the other boy would have been dropped off this morning.

Yeah.
Takes 10 seconds to send a text doesn't it?
I will see her - if not before once school starts - do I just pretend nothing's happened? Or ask wtf?
Maybe I will just smile serenely and avoid her from now on.

Lol at missgraeme with the "friend" who goes to Maccy D's

YANBU, that's horrible, unless there has been some massive crisis (clutching at straws) then its a shitty thing to do.

I had similar twice with the same woman - yes, I know I should have cottoned on the first time.

First time she calls and asks to take my two DSs out for the day with hers - they go to a holiday thing together, my Dss are a year apart. meant to come at 11 to take them somewhere nice, after calls and texts by which point I'm almost about to just take them myself, she turns up at half 2 and takes them to local park for an hour as that's all she now has time for...if I'd known in advance that's what the deal was, it would have been fine, but making up a picnic and having 8 and 9 years hanging about for hours waiting was really not on.

2nd time was the following summer, by this point her son and DS2 are more friends than boy and DS1 who is a year older. Anyway, she calls and asks if DS1 is free to go out for the day with her son, I say, "did you mean DS2?" she says "No, I don't have room in the car for them both and son would rather invite DS1". Whilst I don't need my children joined at the hip and they are allowed to have different friends and different trips, could she not conceive for an instant how her scenario of a day out would make a 9 year old boy feel? You can insert my response.....

My nephews are coming up in 10 mins so that's cheered ds2 up no end :)
Thanks for all the replies btw...her phone being stolen would never have occurred to me!
I'm saddened to hear of so many similar stories.
Thanks again.

All you can do now is distract your DS with another activity.

However, as it doesn't look as if you fancy turning up at this person's door (and I don't blame you), can you write a note and get your mum to put it through their door? Nothing narky or PA, obviously. You don't know where things have gone wrong at this stage. The mum may be a bitch, or she might have a perfectly good explanation. Even if you hear nothing back, that's kind of an answer in itself.

I think you should suspend judgement, OP, until you know what has really happened. All this 'I'm NEVER inviting him again' stuff - what if the woman's suffered a bereavement? Or a major accident? The last thing on her mind would have been a play date (ugh) which, in the greater scheme of things, is neither here nor there. By all means throw a wobbly and blank her when you know for sure that she's behaved badly, intentionally, to you and DS. But remember - innocent until proved guilty.

I really don't want to go down the door knocking or letter route....it seems like overkill (although I appreciate its the only way to know for sure)
My sister may know her on FB so I will ask if she has seen anything.

the number changing and being reassigned between Sunday and today is a bit weird

It's not really. O2 managed to disconnect a friend by mistake (she'd had the number for 18 years!) and within a couple of hours it had been allocated to a new account. Took her weeks (and loads of hassle) to get the number back.

Leave it till they're back at school. I'd make a beeline for her and say loudly how unfortunate it was that you couldn't get hold of her when she didn't turn up for your prearranged play date.

Oh! Oh!
My sister is FB friends with her!
I've asked her to look at her profile and see if all is ok (if her phones been stolen or whatever)

Oooh! I would have just texted her after the call to say something like

"Weird! I just called but someone said wrong number...give me a call"

And left it at that.

Oh good! Let us know what is going on!

On the subject of wrong numbers from mobiles. I was once having a text conversation with my brother and then decided to ring him instead. So I rang his number, which was in my contacts list and I'd been texting, and it was someone else completely! So I hung up and sent him a text to tell him what had happened and he rang me from his number. It was very bizarre. Maybe it was the same thing? Glad your DS1 is being a sweetie and you've made alternate plans tho

We've had this too. DD was SOOOOO excited and spent the morning preparing her toys etc. Other girl didn't turn up and then I spotted a text saying basically they couldn't be arsed to come round :(

DD was devastated and cried for ages. Luckily I held it together and was polite, and they have had a playdate since - this is her BF at school so I couldn't afford to burn bridges.

This girl has a full-on social life with lots of cousins and grandparents, frequent sleepovers etc. My DD is much more shy and we don't have extended family around (and I'm shy too, so not great at cultivating a big friendship group), so it's a much bigger deal for her having someone over. I think to them it just didn't mean much.

So painful though.

I've asked my sis to message her for me and ask if everything's ok.
Is that alright do you think?
I guess I would have dismissed the phone call had my texts not been ignored too...surely if I'm texting the wrong phone the other person would say?

I would have just sent a text. Too much chance of mixed messages when someone else is reporting back.

How disappointing :( hopefully it's just a misunderstanding rather than malice (or something bad happening for them)

Ok...how about this...
Text;
Hi. Hope everything's ok? Tried to Phone but got wrong number (?)

So is this the sis that's round at yours with your nephews? So it could be a breezy, "I'm round at badders and she was saying that

I reckon she got sacked on the spot from her job and had to give her phone back as it was a work phone.

They wiped it and gave it to someone new, who can't see the message history as its been wiped.

She read your messages today and just assumed it was a wrong number.

The mum has no way of getting hold of you as all her contacts were on her work phone.

She can't make today as she's got an interview/got no money for petrol/can't face getting out of bed.

Solved it!

Plausable scenario:

Mum went to work and left instructions for Gran or someone to drop him at yours, she's in a meeting/doesn't get a phone signal at work so hasn't seen the texts, some weird thing went on when you called so got a wrong number. Gran or whoever forgot, didn't get the right address and doesn't have your contact details.