to want in laws to correctly pronounce my very ordinary name?

[DrSeuss]

I have a very ordinary, English-of-Greek-origin name. Spelled in the traditional way, couldn't e simpler, really.
For over twenty years, ILs have mispronounced it. For twenty years, I and my husband have periodically corrected them. Not a huge thing, granted but it grates every time they say it wrongly.

AIBU to slightly mispronounce their names just a little, e.g. Sarah becomes Sorah, Jim becomes Jom? Childish, I know, but it is pretty much the only thing I have asked of them in twenty years! Other family members ask for and receive special food despite having no real grounds for this or meals served at a particular time despite having no children. I'd just like them to say my name without me mentally wincing!

You're right. Sorry

NeedAClever. Barth (bath) isn't posh necessarily otherwise all southerners are therefore by definition posh.

I'm not saying it's posh full stop. Just sayin that around here you would be called posh for saying Barth

" but no one has managed to suggest a regional accent in which that's the case. Very, very few people are going to struggle to say 'un'. It won't 'make them sound like a dick' since that's how most people say it".

Ok. Many people in south or east london would struggle to keep to helen perfectly.

FWIW if 'Hell-in' were an actual regional variation, I'd say to OP to let it lie since it's clearly not deliberate. BUT no one has managed to suggest a regional accent in which that's the case. Very, very few people are going to struggle to say 'un'. It won't 'make them sound like a dick' since that's how most people say it.

Apart from all the Scottish posters who have said exactly that.

Over emphasising a sound to try and say it 'the right way' does make me sound like a dick.

I have this problem with two names 'Craig' and Kathleen. I am American, but with a mixed accent.. The first name is an English family and the second is Scottish family. Each I constantly get wrong with pronunciation and with emphasis. It is to the point that I have to say their name a couple of times to get it right (I see them about once or twice a month). Call me what ever name you would like, but I find it difficult. It is not to be rude. People also get my name wrong, but it does not bother me. I understand and if they are consistent with it, they are not doing it to be rude. ,

...indeed, i venture to suggest that in many parts of London she would be Ellen.

That pronunciation link is weird. I listened to them all. Individually they all sounded different. And the first time I thought they said hellun (the way I think I say it), then I read the other post that said they all sound like Hellin to her - I listened again, and they DO all sound like Hellin.

Aaargh!! Maybe we're all saying the same thing.

jwpetal- Craig? How can one mispronounce or mis-emphasise Craig as it has one syllable? It would be like not pronouncing Tom, or Sam or Dave properly. (Am genuinely curious, not having a go at you!) .

I believe Americans pronounce Craig as Crag. Also they pronounce Graham as Gram.

You also get the "Ceecil" for "Cecil" and "Cohlin" for "Colin"pronounciations in America

DesolateWaist it's actually more like "Creg"

Have you seen the standup routibe of crain campbell the canadian when he says how annoyed je getd when english people correct him? Goes something like...

Hi im craig (creg)
Oh you mean Craig! (CrAIg)
No.

I have a friend called Helen, dh pronounces it hell-in. Drives me nuts and it's not evenly name.

I have a name that people mispronounce immediately after hearing it, after 40 odd years I now tend to be able to ignore it but every now and then I want to rip their head off and yell at them to listen properly - it's not that fucking difficult!

Your ILs abvu