to want in laws to correctly pronounce my very ordinary name?

[DrSeuss]

I have a very ordinary, English-of-Greek-origin name. Spelled in the traditional way, couldn't e simpler, really.
For over twenty years, ILs have mispronounced it. For twenty years, I and my husband have periodically corrected them. Not a huge thing, granted but it grates every time they say it wrongly.

AIBU to slightly mispronounce their names just a little, e.g. Sarah becomes Sorah, Jim becomes Jom? Childish, I know, but it is pretty much the only thing I have asked of them in twenty years! Other family members ask for and receive special food despite having no real grounds for this or meals served at a particular time despite having no children. I'd just like them to say my name without me mentally wincing!

Ah. That's where the Hell-in comes from. I thought so!!!

lasttime - I'm a mammy and proud of it! Lots of Northerners, Welsh and Irish use "mammy/mam" rather than the awful (to my Geordie ear'ole) "mum" and the even worse "mom" (Aaaaaaaaaaargh!)

Is it an accent thing?

I've heard Yorkshire people pronounce Helen as Ellen, for example. This caused a bit of confusion at work once when a new starter at work called Helen got introduced to everyone as "Ellen" because the person showing her round and introducing her to everyone was from Yorkshire and always dropped her H's.....

It's a class thing, Helin is seen as more middle class so that may be why they're resisting it.

I'm posh southern too, but can manage Hel-len without any problem!

I'm a Suzanne. I get Susan.

I am Scottish and I am reciting Helen over and over and it always come out as Hel-in.

Dr Seuss - I would pronounce that "Hel-un"

I think it's just their accent and you need to get over it. My dad always pronounced my daughter's 3 syllable name with 2 syllables. It's just the way the name would have been pronounced where he came from. She commented on it once but quite liked it that he had a special way of saying it.

Incidentally, mammy /mam is often used instead of mummy / mum in the north of England.

I'm a Helen and where I am it's often pronounced Heln. In fact I slip into saying it that way myself my family in the north of England call me hellun. I don't mind. It's an accent thing rather than deliberate mispronunciation.

I teach supply and always preface any register I take with an instruction to just correct me if I say their names wrongly. I often note names phonetically as we have a lot of non traditional English names in our area but I always, always, try to get it right. I think a large part of the irritation comes from the fact that I try to be as undemanding as possible. I have never, for example, issued my hosts with a type written list one A4 page in length stating what I will or will not eat and in what combinations (no medical/religious issues, just personal taste). I would just like my name said the way I like.

I don't really think it natters how you naturally pronounce a name, you should always pronounce it the way the person whose name it is pronounces it.
I live in Wales and while naturally would pronounce names in the welsh pronunciation, some people use the anglicised pronunciation so that is how I say there name. Its just good manners isn't it.

which I pronounce Hell-en, not Hell-in!

I can't tell the difference.

I knew it would be that name! Grates, doesn't it? Just repeat the same e sound that you've just made, ffs!

Ah, that's a sort of accent thing, I think

My best friend is Helen, and even her own beloved Grandma pronounced it Hellin . Are they from Essex?

Annoying, though

Sorry, just saw they have posh accents. Yes, I can imagine Hell-in with a posh accent. I can imagine Prince Charles says Hell-in

Thanks, Mamapants, my point exactly! If a child in a class tells me they are called Elle, pronounced Ellie, I don't say, "Are you sure?". I don't continue to say it "Ell" even though I'm a French teacher and have previously taught a girl called Elle who said her name was pronounced "Ell". I make a mental note of how to say the girl's name and do my best to use it correctly. Anything else is rude, surely?

First Shiny Robe, do we may be share a name?

I'm Yvonne - the majority pronounce it as a always a really harsh Eve-on. Hence I never use it.

i think some people genuinley cannot "hear" the difference. it's a phonogical awareness thingy

... and I can genuinely spell

I don't really think it natters how you naturally pronounce a name, you should always pronounce it the way the person whose name it is pronounces it.

Not if you can't. It would sound like I was over stressing it to take the piss.

OP, you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Sanity- that would give my in laws no problems! They also have Japanese relatives and close friends who are Polish. They learned their names just fine!