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To despise putting babies to bed

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Rollonbedtime7pm · 08/08/2016 20:07

3 babies. All crap at going to sleep. Moaning, whining, rubbing eyes but fighting it til the last.
I've just walked out of the bedroom having spent the last hour attempting to get 15 week old DD2 to sleep. She's shut her eyes on numerous occasions and then shaken herself awake again.
She has a bedtime routine, as pointless as it appears to be.
WIBU to just have plans every night between 6 and 9pm?! Confused

(And also to go out and stab the neighbour who has spent the whole time angle grinding and clanging metal in the garden, which has really helped the situation)

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Rollonbedtime7pm · 09/08/2016 22:17

Woah ladies - I am starting to feel like a fraud! My DC can kick up a stink as babies about going to sleep but some of you have had seriously bad times!

They are pretty good once we get over this hump (touch wood DD2 will follow suit!) so i'll just shush now... Grin

Lots of WineWine for you all!

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orangebee1 · 09/08/2016 22:20

Three words.
Cry.It.Out.

I decided that rather than see my child frustrated trying to sleep and ending in tears each night I may as well commit myself to three nights of crying...it took two nights in the end...probably three hours in total and now all my children have the skill of putting themselves to sleep, no fuss.and we do 'pop' them to bed. They are so much happier for it, at some point my youngest would hold my hand and take me to her room pointing at her cot because she knew she was ready for sleep. I know a lot of mothers don't agree with cry it, but the realisation for me was, as I said, my child was crying anyway each night trying to fall asleep...it really transformed everything in our house and made life much easier for myself and dh.

Raaaaaah · 09/08/2016 23:01

lewji that is so interesting about the giggling. DD2 had hysterical giggles in the bath tonight and went down awake but calm tonight with no fuss (this never, ever happens). I wonder if there really is something in this.

storynanny · 09/08/2016 23:22

Oh I really feel for you all there is nothing worse than sleep deprivation. Even though mine are adults I can still remember the dreaded bedtimes
I agree about the gene thing how on earth can they all be so different?
Child 1 would sleep for anyone else except me. The only way he would lie down in his cot for me was if i sat on the top of the stairs in his view. If I tried to slip down the stairs up he would jump and wail. Until the day he moved into his bed and then just went to leep with no fuss.
Child 2 slept all night every night 7pm-6am from 6 weeks old
Child 3 went to sleep ok but woke every 2 hours for the first 2 years of his life.
Didnt do anything different to start with with each baby
Its a mystery

booellesmum · 10/08/2016 07:23

My 2 are now 14 and 11.
DD1 was a rubbish sleeper, I gave up and would let her stay up until she was tired at around 10.00/10.30. I decided I would rather she was up sitting looking at books etc than screaming in her cot and being miserable. Wake up time was still around 7.00 AM. She wasn't over tired in the day.Once she started school her bedtime naturally became a little earlier, but she has never gone before 9.00. She still needs very little sleep now.
DD2 - completely different and would actually ask to go up to bed about 7.30/8.00. She loved her bed!
Do think the whole sleeping thing is completely individual and you just have to work out what works for you.
Good luck.

missmayup · 10/08/2016 07:24

I stand with you in solidarity my sleep deprived Queens! I have a 2yo boy and a 1yo girl, who have both had a routine since day one and both are absolutely awful awful sleepers, sharing a room but waking up independent of each other driving me crackers!! I will nosily follow this post for tips! Xxxx

thenewaveragebear1983 · 10/08/2016 07:32

10 month old here. 3rd baby. Poor sleeper. For the first 6 months he was a dream, in the cot awake, self soothed. Then we had a bout of illnesses, coughs and laryngitis etc. Now he needs cuddled/fed to sleep. We have no evenings. He will sleep at 7 and wake after 20 minutes wide awake til ten. I think he's a very light sleeper, we creep around like mice. Also very poor daytime sleep as well, so he's often tired and grouchy. It's miserable sometimes. When ds1 starts school in September I'm going to first crack the daytime routine and then do controlled crying for the nighttimes!

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