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To ask for stories about ruined friendships/relationships from holidays

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Spice22 · 07/08/2016 20:13

Just that really. My family is going to Florida with another family next week and I'm slightly nervous. It got me thinking what stories people have. Basically, I'm looking for some Sunday evening entertainment.

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flashheartscanoe · 07/08/2016 20:24

When we'd just left uni my now DH and I went on holiday with another couple. We drove down to my mum's cottage in France. I insured my friend on the car so she could share the driving but it soon became clear that she was totally dangerous and I had to do all the driving. BUT the main issue was that they kept having really loud sex. On the first morning we had to escape so we went for a walk but we could still hear them all through the village, it was excruciating. She hung onto her DP and I was a bit sad as we'd been really good friends and she didn't really bother with me.
It carried on all holiday and our friendship didn't really recover. They broke up shortly after.

99percentchocolate · 07/08/2016 20:26

Broke up with my ex on holiday. On the third day of a week holiday. It was excruciating.

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Spice22 · 07/08/2016 20:30

Oh Gosh, I just remembered I have one - though it's not juicy. My boyfriend and I had a fight during a trip to Paris. He's a lot more energetic than I am which means our ideas of how to spend the day are different. I think I killed his buzz too much and I felt he was harassing me too much. I was perfectly fine with him doing his own thing but he wasn't.

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Hoppinggreen · 07/08/2016 20:31

We have a friend who has consistently fallen out with everyone sits ever been on holiday with. She's actually very nice and fun but a bit highly strung.
Whenever it happens I have to say I'm highly amused by her stories of how terribly the other parties have acted - I know her quite well and can imagine exactly what happened each time .

Optimist1 · 07/08/2016 20:38

My new husband and I went on holiday with my friend who I'd flat-shared with for a couple of years and her long-standing boyfriend. We drove down to south of Spain and it became apparent from day one that their relationship was very different to ours - daily arguments between them that usually ended with her in tears. Not a very relaxing time - I 've never liked shouting in any circumstances. Ironically many, many years later they are still together and we are divorced .

ThePortlyPinUp · 07/08/2016 20:43

We went on holiday last year with my best friend and her family. It didn't end well and we are very distant now. They had set in stone family traditions which must be obeyed on holiday and we just didn't. I wish we hadn't gone tbh and we might still have been as close now.

Charley50 · 07/08/2016 20:44

I've just got back from a lovely holiday with DP and DS. Apart from DP refused to go in the pool the whole week (he went in the sea but not the pool).
He had a couple of really miserable days and I felt like dumping his sorry arse. But I tried to be reflective and realise that holidays mean different things to different people and some people would rather just stay at home
The psychology of holidaying fascinates me.

Bonkerz · 07/08/2016 20:47

Worst holiday ever in October 2005. Went with best friend and her hubby and 2 kids and me and my hubby and 2 kids. I was pregnant with DD (22 weeks). Started off lovely. We had separate caravans s

DownWithThisSortaThing · 07/08/2016 20:50

I went on holiday with an ex boyfriend (we were together at the time obviously), my friend and her boyfriend and another couple we didn't really know who were friends of theirs.
On the first night the couple we didn't know very well broke up, she had been constantly at him from the minute we had set off and he told her he had simply 'had enough of her'
Needless to say the rest of the holiday was excruciatingly awkward. The day after the big argument and break up they agreed to be 'friends' for the rest of the holiday but this basically involved ignoring each other so doing anything as a group was awkward. Me and ex boyfriend and other couple couldn't really go off on our own and leave them so we ended up in groups of girls and boys and doing nothing couple-y.
Never again!

QOD · 07/08/2016 20:50

Annnnnnnnnd

Bonkerz · 07/08/2016 20:52

Sorry posted too soon

Separate caravans. All fine. Till day 4! She decided to go watch football with my DH. Me and her DH took kids to a show and the beach but by 4pm they were still not back and by 7pm I was pissed off. When they rolled in at 9pm I had a right go at hubby who had decided to drink pints despite being diabetic and up till then a tee totaller!

My best friend then got aggressive and grabbed my hair. She went to grab me and her dh pulled her away and back to her caravan. About half hour later I felt a pop and was scared my waters had gone. Cue a trip to a&e with friends husband!!!!! All fine with baby thankfully and next morning there was a note on doorstep saying sorry and they had left.

Unfortunately that day I had a call to say my mum was dying and I had to also abandon the holiday and go to my mum.

Like I said. Worst holiday ever and I won't go on holiday with friends or family ever again

Missgraeme · 07/08/2016 20:54

We had a caravan
They had a trailer tent
We had 6 kids - took food supplies for a week camping.
They had 3 kids and took A COOKED CHICKEN!!
It rained the whole week.

Guessed who played hostess all week??

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 07/08/2016 20:54

Bonkerz... Was it too traumatic to recall?

Flissypixie · 07/08/2016 20:54

I nearly ended my friendship after a weeks holiday with my best friend. We went to a European city where my brother lived at the time and she was a total pain. My brother put us up and provided food etc the whole time, despite him being a poor student. In return I cooked on several days for him and his flat mates, brought wine and chocolate as a gift. She did nothing at all, made a mess , complained constantly.

On the last day we took my brother out for a special (expensive )meal (it was his birthday) and she agreed before hand that the 2 of us would pay as thank you/ birthday gift. When the bill arrived she changed her mind and said it was too much and he was my brother so I should just pay not even an offer of a contribution. Which I obviously did. I was so angry at her I couldn't look at her for the entire journey home. I didn't speak to her for a month but I am rubbish at holding a grudge so I came around. It changed our relationship forever though and I don' t think she has a clue.

SeasonalVag · 07/08/2016 20:55

We went to visit a pair of wankers in Abu Dhabi a couple of years ago. After an eight hour overnight flight with toddler and not even a cup of tea was offered. We'd brought about 200 quid worth of booze and bacon too! We were made to feel so unwelcome that we decamped to a hotel after a few days. 20 year Friendship well over.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 07/08/2016 20:55

Ah sorry, cross posted

Sunnydaysrock · 07/08/2016 20:57

Ah we've been to Florida with other people...very different experience each time. My Dh best friend and then girlfriend came out for second half of holiday. Had a great time. They were amazing with our DD. We all got on great. Fast forward 4 years, again joined us part way through holiday. We had DS by now and they had DD. Parenthood turned them into nightmares. They constantly bickered and fussed like you wouldn't believe over DD. They didn't communicate at all, so when my DH left to go out with his friend one afternoon, his DW knew nothing about it. Awkward! I cried on flight home cos they'd really been arse holes on our holiday that we'd looked forward to so much. But Inbetween these 2 trips, my sister and her kids came out to Florida with us. Could do that holiday all day long. You'll have a great time op.

Missgraeme · 07/08/2016 20:58

Holiday 2
Camping abroad
Top campsite
We had 7kids by then - took a weeks food
Different couple than first story - had 4 kids-had a €50(euro)a day budget for the family
I cooked one night for everyone
Next night was their turn - they said the campsite shop was closed and cancelled tea!!

HarryPottersMagicWand · 07/08/2016 20:58

I went on holiday with friends as a teenager. Disaster. 2 didn't want to hang around with me and the other girl. Other girls was an absolute pita and I got lumbered with her. The 2 literally ran away from us. When we got home I didn't speak to any of them, was awful.

Went on a night away a couple of years ago. One friend was a total pita anyway, always wants her own way and if she doesn't get it she keeps saying what it is she wants until everyone gives in and we do it. She managed to wangle it that I was left behind one day, when they returned I suggested 1 thing that I knew should would usually want to do as well but as usual, she got to dictate as she was driving and refused to do it and we left. Can't go into all of it but she was a cow to me, all done very 'nicely' so no one else really picked up on it. I seem to be the only one who can see her for what she is. She is one of those 'friends to everyone, do anything g and everything, always gets involved' types so everyone thinks she is amazing but she's actually not that great.

I don't really fancy going away with others now, other than my immediate family, too much hard work!

minatiae · 07/08/2016 21:10

holiday with a friend when I was 16. she went out drinking every night and slept all day, leaving me to do everything by myself. never really saw her again after getting home.

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Spice22 · 07/08/2016 21:11

These are actually great (well not for those who experienced it obviously). So far, nothing to make me think our holiday will end up in a fight.

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FinnFamilyMoomintroll · 07/08/2016 21:15

I broke up with my ex on day 3 of a two week, long haul holiday. We were staying with a friend in her tiny studio, she gave us her bed and was on a mattress on the floor. We came back from a night out before her, had 'the conversation' which was v emotional on both our parts, and then she rolled in with a bloke she'd picked up in the bar Blush

Fortunately I think she was a bit too pissed to notice anything majorly wrong and we didn't tell her that we'd broken up so she wouldn't feel awkward. I just remember being horrifically hungover the next day and trying desperately to pretend that everything was normal.

Didn't ruin the friendship fortunately and it was an amicable break-up, but it was a weird old holiday.

Thelaundrylady · 07/08/2016 21:16

My Dsis in law - I love her to bits but holidaying with her is a nightmare. We always go as a family. My DH and our DC, DGC, and both sis in laws and their families and sometimes cousins etc. sis in law 1 always has at least two arguments when we're away either with a member of family or an unsuspecting local - she's a total holiday pita. It's got to the point now where she will be holidaying alone next year. Grin

FinnFamilyMoomintroll · 07/08/2016 21:17

So just realised that was totally not a ruined friendship story, whoops! Grin sorry about heat Blush

FinnFamilyMoomintroll · 07/08/2016 21:18

That not heat

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