Aibu to be angry and confused at friend copying my disability

[BeyondSpecialSnowflake]

I know this has potential to go so wrong, but I have to get it out :(
Can I put in a polite preemptive request that general benefits bashing goes in another thread?

I have a series of complex disabilities, I receive high rate ESA and PIP and my DP is my full time carer. I have a friend who has started copying my disabilities, elaborate "fainting" (to quote - "oh you know, just like what beyond has") and puffing and panting in pain. I feel shit that I doubt it is real, but I think she is actually jealous of the benefits I receive and trying to get them for herself. She justitfies her (increasing) drug use and refuses to do things with "I'm so ill, I'm going to end up in a wheelchair like beyond". She has also been caught out lying about seeing specialists

I just don't know what to do. I am so angry at her, but she is obviously having such a hard time to think that my life is something to aim for. I've never encountered someone playing the system before, and have no proof but a gut feeling that she is either.

Possibly related, she also has a very jokey 'thing' for my DP. I don't think she actually does want to 'steal' him, but other friends have been very about it, especially considering the above.

So, yeah, I just had to get that off my chest. Does anyone have a magic wand to make it go away?

CleverQuacks I had the same diagnosis and although my DBT therapist told me it was part of the disease for some sufferers, I have never heard any other sufferer admit to it. thanks for sharing, and I mean this in a genuine way. makes me feel less alone.

Yes she does sound jealous, but I don't know why. I mean I wouldn't say a life on benefits is something to be jealous of.
I mean she might be genuine. Who am I or with the greatest respect you to say other wise, but for her to but he same condition is a massive coincidence,

Absolutely agree with ex wife. I came on here looking for support for my BPD & all I have seen on every single thread is us being demonised. I’m not a liar. I’m not a thief. I’m not a manipulator. It means I feel things a lot more than you do, & things hurt me more. Seeing bpd being thrown around the way it is on here is hurtful. I typed in the search for “bpd” and this thread came up, sorry for the derail but people need to stfu about illnesses they absolutely know nothing about! All the crazies like the woman out of fatal attraction with Michael Douglas get associated with me & it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Just stop being her friend effective NOW
You have enough on your plate as
It is without a
Predatory fraudster

Sounds very Single White Female.

Avoid.

I had a friend call me at work to tell me she had liver failure! Just out of the blue with no previous complaints of any problems! Allegedly her DB was a match for a doner (had no tests and knew nothing about this). There are different stages and she had quoted what stage she was which was one off needing a transplant (I looked it up). As quickly as she developed this life limiting illness she forgot about it. It was one of many terrible lies and things she did. She told me she was diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder (possible that was a lie too). I’m so bloody glad she’s no longer in my life though the lies keep coming to the surface even now as a friend told me recently that she had told my friendship group my DH beat me regularly and she wanted their support (for her not me)

2 year old thread

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@K4THERINE

You might be better to start a new thread as this one is three years old!!

Thank you, I wasn’t aware at the time as I am new, I saw it after I posted & also started my own

@SoundsAboutRight

Ohh she is so not good for your well being, a leech at the best - stealing somebody's disabilities - jesus!

I've actually had words with my 22 year son about this as I get signed off from work maybe for 1 month every two years as I have long term mental health problems and sometimes things get too much or my meds need upping/changing.

He copies my symptoms then gets signed off (then usually loses his job as only been there a few months) he also hangs round with 'friends' who have legitimate reason not to work ie schizophrenia/ severe aspergers...

He told me the other week the gp might think he has aspergers - yeah only cos you went and read out a list of symptoms your friend has!!

Grr I feel for you OP. You do need to ditch friend. Just be honest (sort of ) and say I'm really sorry but all this talk of illness is reminding me of how hard it is and I'm looking for a bit of light relief in my life. I'm not able to support you, but I hope you find someone that can. Bye!

Oh bollocks just seen thread age.

Well I do hope you can update us OP !

There be zombies afoot.

Sorry about that guys. I was a new member & made a mistake by commenting on an old thread.

@K4THERINE No worries. ((((((((Big Hug)))))))🍰🌻🤗😻