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To be totally fed up about other people kids bad habits

93 replies

Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 17:35

I'm totally sick of having friends and relatives kids stay who are massively fussy eaters, crap sleepers or just badly behaved and having it rub off on my DC. I know mine aren't perfect and they have their own annoying habits but I am fed up with having to deal with the repercussions of lax parenting.

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WankersHacksandThieves · 03/08/2016 18:00

Christ I'm 50 and I struggle to sleep sometimes when I'm not at home and I quite often don't like other peoples food. As long as I'm not throwing a tantrum about it then it's not an issue.

Continuous bad behaviour with namby pamby responses though would drive me up the wall.

catinthecradle · 03/08/2016 18:02

RebelRogue

to be fair, one of mine can't stand pancakes. I don't know why, but as he's older now, he eats what's in his plate when invited somewhere.

I was talking about fusiness, and it's not a medical condition. It's not the same to deal with a toddler pushing boundaries, and a teen suffering from anorexia for example. I wouldn't let one of my kids starve!

wheresthel1ght · 03/08/2016 18:02

Please provide the credentials that makes you qualified to assess their parenting

WanderingTrolley1 · 03/08/2016 18:05

ODFOD.

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:09

Wheresthel1ght - they feed their kids utter crap with wild abandon and let them do what the hell they like with no attempt to steer them on the path of good behaviour.

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WorraLiberty · 03/08/2016 18:14

They feed them with wild abandon?

I now have a mental image of them scattering nuggets and chips on the floor Grin

wheresthel1ght · 03/08/2016 18:15

Nope sorry you are still utterly unreasonable

happypoobum · 03/08/2016 18:16

Oh you really did marry beneath yourself didn't you OP? How awful Shock

DS used to have a friend to tea who would only eat Heinz Ravioli with bread and butter. I couldn't give a shit what he ate. Not my business. I gave him what I knew he would eat as he was my sons friend and a nice boy.

Sleepover is a misnomer. Nobody expects children to actually sleep on a sleepover. You haven't described any outlandishly dreadful behaviour but I am sure they would be far better little people if they had you as their mother to "steer them on the path of good behaviour."

Pancakes are yucky.

Glitterpegs · 03/08/2016 18:17

Maybe the kids have special needs that you have not been told about

Bahhhhhumbug · 03/08/2016 18:20

I think you'll get a flaming on here for the picky eater and bad sleeper comments but I must admit I hate having 'D'Step GS (nearly 9) round but as you say you can't really say your or your DHs family children can't visit. Nothing to do with his eating or sleeping habits but basically is a blatant liar who openly denies (for one example) having just kicked his half sister and swears blind she just kicked him , to his mother. Even if - as in this instance DH and I are stood a few feet away watching him and he is aware we have seen what has actually happened. DH shouted at him to stop kicking his DS (11) , cue his mother rushing out in his defence and asking what he has done 'now' and him running past us shouting his tale of it being her that kicked him etc. Mother then gives us the silent treatment till we leave as is obviously annoyed DH has told the 'wrong' child off again presumably. He constantly gets his sister in trouble in various similiar ways and causes no end of trouble/bad feeling in the family between his DSis and his DM (her Wicked DSM) and my DH and his son and DIL and so on. Yes I admit the hairs on the back of my neck go up when he visits our house.

ayeokthen · 03/08/2016 18:21

Ooh there's some grumpy folk on here today eh? Before anyone flames me, DS9 has autism and really struggled with sleep until he was about 5 and DS2 had a severe allergy which meant food could be a nightmare. So now that I've covered that, dare I suggest that OP was not slagging off parents who's kids have recognised disabilities/genuine issues and was merely stating that she was sick fed up of bad mannered, spoiled little shits behaving outrageously with no reason and wasn't having it any more??? Like the woman the other day who's DS play date was a wee horror, and everyone sided with her!

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:22

Happypoobum - nah they are all actually far more highly educated than I am which makes it even more galling. I couldn't give a rats what they eat but I do care when they are in my house calling brown bread disgusting in front of my kids and calling them 'weird' for not knowing what McDonalds is..

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MrsBobDylan · 03/08/2016 18:24

Ime bad habits don't really rub off, so could it be your kids are just badly behaved and you are looking for someone to blame?

My two NT sons eat and sleep well, whereas my middle son only eats nuggets or fish fingers and before medication was up all hours of the night. It has not rubbed off on his siblings.

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:24

Thanks ayeokthen! You have hot the nail on the head. I am a parent of a SN child so I'm completely sympathetic to behavioural problems - what I'm talking about is rude little shits.

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WorraLiberty · 03/08/2016 18:25

How old are your kids and the visiting kids?

I too think brown bread is disgusting btw.

As an adult I wouldn't say so. As a child, I probably would have.

ayeokthen · 03/08/2016 18:26

Yeahyeahyeahs I thought that! I've had family members kids over for sleepovers and been horrified at the way they speak to people/behave. And we're by far the least posh members of my family by miles 😂

RebelRogue · 03/08/2016 18:30

Is one of the kids peppa pig?

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/08/2016 18:32

How old are your children that they don't know what McDonalds is? How old are these children? My DD would say things like brown bread is disgusting until very recently. Now she's a little older (8) she has finally learnt not to talk in an inappropriate way. I'm not lax. She's outspoken.

I think that wedgie must be a bit painful. Mine too with my family for different reasons.

Ellybellyboo · 03/08/2016 18:33

Oh, I don't know, we live in a holiday area and as a result are very popular this time of year and we've had a few people to stay who will never darken our doors again due to their kids' behaviour.

I got fed up with people coming here on holiday and thinking that meant they abdicated all responsibility for their kids and let them behave like hooligans

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:34

My children are 1 and 4. The visiting children range from 5-9. Constant negative comments about healthy food does have an impact on my 4 year old as she idolises older kids.

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ApocalypseNowt · 03/08/2016 18:35

I kind of get what the OP is saying. Not about sleepovers because i'm not that daft but there are a niece/nephew that I'm a little wary of my dc spending time with but have to because they're family.

They're just hard work. Low level stuff but always something. Being rude at the table. Telling my dc the tooth fairy isn't real. Spoiling games. Climbing on furniture. It's just wearing and not so much that i think my dc will pick up the bad behaviour.....it's just they're not very easy or pleasant company.

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:36

Ellybellyboo - we live in a holiday area too. Constant visitors, I'm 8 months pregs and had enough!

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Thefitfatty · 03/08/2016 18:38

YABU. Don't have them round. Personally I'd have nothing to do with you if that's how you thought of me and my kids. I'd rather be around struggling or "lenient" parents than goady fuckers.

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Yeahyeahyeahs · 03/08/2016 18:40

Can't 'not have them round' Thefitfatty as they are relatives. They are nwither stuggling nor lenient just lazy.

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Summerbloodyholidays · 03/08/2016 18:43

Your 4 year old will hear loads of stuff worse than this when she starts school.

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