So, my daughters first birthday is coming up on Friday. We're a pretty chilled, low key family so are just going to have a day out with her somewhere nice (weather permitting!)
My brother in law and his wife have 2 little girls, both of which I have ensured both received gifts at birth, birthdays, Christmases etc and we always attended their birthday parties. We were childless at each of them and so faced hoards of screaming kids for several hours at a party that was over an hour away everytime. Not my cup of tea but we did it for their girls.
Said brother in law and wife did not get my DD anything at birth, apart from some second hand cast offs of theirs - some soiled and stained - which we were genuinely grateful for. Although compared to the £100 playpen they specifically requested on the birth of their first daughter and another expensive gift for their second daughter this narked me somewhat.
Anyway to the point - I know that they won't get my DD anything for her first birthday, I have asked them what they want for our niece whose birthday is a few days after DD's and they quickly sent me a list of items, with no mention of my DD's birthday. Would I be an unreasonable, nasty, spiteful, petty cow to withhold said niece's gift if they ignore my DD's first birthday?! They know it's her birthday as we just all had a holiday together a week ago where it was mentioned several times infront of them.
I know it's not the kids fault although she is massively a spoilt brat so would only feel a little guilty
AIBU?