To think karma has served up a lovely cold dish?

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I truly don't mean to be horrible and gloat,
But aibu to have a big on my face after finding out that exdp has been cheating on his gf (ow). She's found out as the ow called her and told her she was sleeping with her bf thinking gf was the ow (all a bit Jeremy Kyle).

What a nasty, gloaty little bitch your ex's gf is! Fancy saying she was coming for your children? She deserves everything she gets. Including your dirty exp.

And there's no such thing as karma. Bad things happen to good people, and some bad people get away with murder. Its just the chaos of the universe. Laugh away. You've already suffered enough at their hands.

Enjoy every minute of it. How dare she say she is coming for your DCs next! I am not normally one to enjoy another's misery but when they bring it on themselves like that it is a different story.

Don't forget 'when a man marries his mistress he creates a vacancy'. I can't remember who said it but it is very true.

Hey, you're human. Enjoy the moment

What are the principles of Karma then?

I did try to google, but every site seems to be blocked by my works forbidden category boringwall.

OP I'm glad your smiling and I would too.

Ooh is too early for Sauvignon?

Gosh, I missed the post about coming for your children! Laugh, laugh and laugh some more. What a thoroughly horrible woman! But then, I always think if people can be that spiteful and unkind, they're never going to experience real happiness anyway.

Horribly misogyny on this thread. The mistress /vacancy quote is outdated shite.

And yet here in 2016 we have women who think that a man cheating twice is 'full circle'. It clearly and logically isn't.

I'm sorry for what you've been through op, your ex sounds like an utter lowlife. You seem glad he's getting plenty sex though, wouldn't you prefer it if his nob fell off?

morris who,where and how often my ex puts his penis into another woman is not my concern, I'm neither glad nor hurt by the amount of sex he's getting. I get plenty myself . So would I prefer his penis fell off?? Meh, if it's meant to happen it will

I would have smiled too - she knew what sort of man he was, perhaps convinced herself she was 'better' than you. Sadly, it would have been better if she'd cheated on him, but I bet he's not happy either - he probably convinced himself he was leaving you for a much better life and would be fulfilled with new woman, then once the novelty has worn off, so has the excitment.

Wouldn't be the first man who didn't realise he didn't love the OW, just the drama.

Bizarelly it's the second time he'd cheated on OW with the same OW and she still took him back !!

I don't see why this is bizarre at all.

It stands to reason that if you were an OW your eyes are fully open and you know your partner is a cheater. That's what you sign up to because you know his character.

That's totally different from starting a relationship in a conventional way that leads to marriage where the W is probably deluded in the first instance that the H is faithful and it all comes as a shock.

I would expect most W who started off as OW have a very high tolerance for infidelity in their H.

Morris I would say that anyone who gloated after causing someone so much misery and threatened to take my children away is a horrible, horrible person, man or woman. That's not woman hating, it's just saying a nasty person is a nasty person.

shox I love that poem.

i remember near my twenties this friend of my guy at the time although she knew we were together went behind my back.As i was friendly with her i warned her the same will happen to you.She just got angry acting like i was jealous for a wile she was a bit of a weird stalker.

A year later i had a new man that treated me right and she had a rat bag that did exactly what i said he would do

i was not going to rub her nose in it but karma is a beach

The awful stuff the OW did was posted later, by which time there were posts already high fiving the op.

Generally, it's woman hating in my view to hope that a cheating husband goes on to cheat on OW. I totally understand the desire for revenge, but that would be the OW cheating on him.

You know I was having a bit of a down day and your post has really cheered me up! Cheers to you and hopefully your very smug face. What goes around comes around and if it doesn't bite you on the arse it sleeps with owt that's gota pulse. I'm delighted but not at all surprised, think everyone I know who has been in a similar position has had this moment eventually - bask in the radiance of your beaming smile

One of dps family members is like this. In the 8 years we have been together he has been through 6 women. It goes like this:

Married, starts sleeping with ow. Wife finds out about ow, they divorce/split up. Ow comes on the scene at family occasions acting like the cat who got the cream. Family member starts sleeping with another Ow. Original Ow finds out, they split up and original Ow looks like a dick as clearly family member was not the prize she thought. Next Ow comes on the scene all proud of herself for winning. Repeat ad nauseum.

Nothing wrong with it at all op ignore painted etc. Most of us would think etc like you are, human nature.

Not as like you're splashing this all over FB I hope but sure you're not doing that!

Agree with morris.

It's human to feel a bit of satisfaction, obviously. But don't forget your ex is the one who actually betrayed you here, and he's the one who's continuing to act in the same old way.

She may be a thoroughly nasty person, but you're focussing your anger on the wrong target if you forget what an arse he is.

Well he sounds a delight!

Morris - that would be better revenge. However, IMO at least there are two guilty parties in an affair (provided the OW is aware of the situation) - while the cheat is worse and deserves "karma" far more, I don't think that being pleased the OW isn't doing so well in love makes you a woman-hater.

I dont think that there is anything wrong with being pleased that the OW also got cheated on. I would hope that they would learn a lesson from it. Firstly that no matter how much of a gift from above you think you are, a cheater will always cheat, and secondly that if he cheated with you then he will cheat on you because you, by your actions, told him that you are ok with that.

And of course, one would hope that they would finally appreciate the pain they caused the ex by being the affair partner. I absolutely do not subscribe to the "save your anger for him, she owes you nothing" point of view.

Ugh, it's not 'woman hating' or misogyny, it's hating one particular woman, man and relationship with good reason! The OW was a total shit to OP.

It's like we're in a 1950s timewarp. I'm aware these views are standard in the mainstream but to see them on MN is depressing. Making men the 'prize', even when they shit on their own families.

Ok Rebecca, can I direct my posts then to the seven or so responders prior to the op saying what the OW did, plus any other mistress/ wife posters.

And I'd say it is woman hating to want the actual perpetrator of the affair to get more nookie while the OW gets humiliation. How could it not be? The man is the winner here.