AIBU to think my husband has cheated?

[lovemycatmorethanmyhusband]

I really hope I am being unreasonable! Last night I found a small corner of a condom wrapper on the bathroom floor. Thought this was strange as we haven't used condoms for months (did have plenty left over.) so I looked in the bathroom bin and there was a used condom (hidden in a crisp packet!)

Confronted my husband straight away and he said he'd had a 'posh w**k' ie had used condom to masturbate. (Apologies for the frank language!) I let it go but can't stop thinking about it. AIBU to think he may have cheated? Really hope I am overreacting.

A stranger one?!

A posh wank is none sense my ex boss used this excuse before when he was having sex with one of his employees at his house when his DP went away. He had lost the condom and she had found it personally I would be suscious

I think a stranger wank is when they lie on their arm until it goes numb and then supposedly when they have a wank it feels like they're using someone else's arm instead of their own... if that makes any sense

I think it is less to do about ease of cleaning up and more a case of doing something a bit different from the norm and dare I say doing something a bit taboo and naughty. Much like a women using something other then her hand or a conventional sex toy to climax with.

Flipping 'ell Puddington, that's really weird!

PanGalactic - that is probably true.

Puddington that's what I have heard. Make one's arm numb then wank with the numb hand, the guy can then pretend he's getting a handjob off the titsy one off of Babestation. Presumably. Men eh? Bless them.

" A posh wank is none sense my ex boss used this excuse before when he was having sex with one of his employees at his house when his DP went away. He had lost the condom and she had found it personally I would be suscious"

Well that's settled then, the tale of your boss covering up the tracks of his infidelity should be used as irrefutable proof that every other man knocking one out into a condom in his spare time is in fact having an affair!

It is quite a weird one! I should add I've only really heard about it on the internet, I've never met anyone in real life who was a big fan of it or anything!

"A posh wank is none sense my ex boss used this excuse before when he was having sex with one of his employees at his house when his DP went away. He had lost the condom and she had found it personally I would be suscious"

For a lie to be believable it's better if it's based on the truth. People on here have given various explanations for PWs. Yes, some men then use the idea to cover up an affair. That doesn't mean that PWs don't exist.

But if they can't feel with their numb hand how can they take a tight enough grip? I know if I've had a dead arm I have no control of it - it's literally like someone else's arm....

I learned about 'The Posh Wank' from my husband-to-be about twenty years ago. One of his friends had bought a huge pack of condoms in the expectation of sex with his girlfriend, just before she dumped him. 'Oh, well', he said 'I'll just have a posh wank'.

I think it's posh due to the expenditure. Either that or it's a bit like getting dressed up to go out to eat, rather than wearing your jeans to Pizza Hut.

is the crisp packet a brand you buy? (cant believe im asking that)

Would it make a difference if the crisps were Walkers or Tesco Value?

I love the scene in the Inbetweeners when Jay tries to have a stranger wank and then his mum walks in and he can't shut the laptop as his hand is numb!

In fact, why didn't he just use the crisp packet instead of a condom? Reduce, reuse, recycle (then use the condom to make a water balloon )

Well I can say I learn something new everyday from this site

Call me silly/naive but I didn't think guys in relationships still pleasured themselves

Guys will always pleasure themselves, even with sex on tap 24/7

Ladies do as well coconut! Well this lady does

Im guessing the crisps are 'ready salted' then?!!

Re PW.... I'm dubious.... just asked DH and he reckons they're a cover story.

Are they the brand of crisps your DH eats or that you keep at home?

Ewwww Desmondo! Better than cheesy Wotsit I guess.

My DP does this sometimes, I wouldn't be concerned, I'd rather that than getting it all over the bedsheets!

I don't think he was cheating because he surely would have disposed of it down the loo instead of using the waste basket which he knew the OP would be emptying. Typical male thoughtless behaviour re disposal of most of their rubbishy/failure to properly clean up after themselves -- obviously no guilty conscience involved.

Call me silly/naive but I didn't think guys in relationships still pleasured themselves

Really? That is astonishingly naive!!

You really thought that men always get all the sex they want at all times in all relationships?!?

Give the condom a good sniff. If he has cheated then a woman's vagina will have been wrapped around it and you will be able to smell that. If all you smell is latex then it's a posh wank.