AIBU to think my husband has cheated?

[lovemycatmorethanmyhusband]

I really hope I am being unreasonable! Last night I found a small corner of a condom wrapper on the bathroom floor. Thought this was strange as we haven't used condoms for months (did have plenty left over.) so I looked in the bathroom bin and there was a used condom (hidden in a crisp packet!)

Confronted my husband straight away and he said he'd had a 'posh w**k' ie had used condom to masturbate. (Apologies for the frank language!) I let it go but can't stop thinking about it. AIBU to think he may have cheated? Really hope I am overreacting.

I'd be inclined to believe him. If he was cheating on you he wouldn't have left the condom in the bathroom bin. He'd be very stupid to do that plus people normally cheat away from home and hide the evidence.

YANBU, it doesn't sound like cheating to me.

Meant to say YANBU, but, it doesn't sound like cheating to me.

Definitely a PW I reckon!!

He's just being considerate and making sure there's no mess.

"Crispy socks"

I had no idea.

Has he had the opportunity to cheat in your home?

Crispy socks

Why do some boys and men expect someone else to clear up after them?

OP - it sounds innocent, if a bit bizarre

Why are condoms so unacceptable for sex that men wheedle women into risking pregnancy and STDs by not using them, but enhance a hand shandy

If they're watching internet porn it saves getting the keyboard covered.

dons Sherlock hat

I think he's fancied a packet of crisps and a wank and couldn't be bothered washing his hands in between.

I kind of hope he ate the crisps first.

Crispy sock

I know it's gross isn't it? Thank god he moved out (as much as I love him!).

OP - I've never heard of a posh wank before but this does seem a likely explanation. Just be grateful he's a nice clean boy and doesn't just wipe it on the sheets/pillow/curtains/your hair. My husband's personal choice is his boxers, always assuming he took them off first........

What is it about a condom that makes it "posh"? I'd have thought it was the other way around.

I presume posh because tidy, not messy? Nothing much to clean up?

Any news, OP? I can see that this was started over a month ago, have there been any other suspicious activities?

I do think you are over reacting, if he had cheated I don't think he'd bring the condom
home with him.

Oh and I never thought guys used condoms to masturbate

I get the not cleaning up but wanking with a plastic bag on doesn't sound fun.

Thumb - btw can I PM you. I've news.

It is odd that he would throw a used affair condom into your bathroom bin, though

Yeah, if that's what he did then I'd LTB immediately for being a) thick and b) weird enough to transport a used condom home from wherever he did the nasty.

OP do you have any other suspicions?

If I found this then I would be surprised, but not unduly worried. I am as confident as I can be that my OH is not having an affair. We get along really well, he seeks out my company when he is not working and he treats me like a goddess in the bedroom ( I have no option but to act like one )
If he was having posh wanks then I would accept it.

But then I am not you. Trust your own judement.

I keep meaning to ask DH about PWs, as this is a concept only found by me on MN. My RL friends are too buttoned up for us to discuss it too!

Op, i hope you are ok and your concerns unfounded.

I'm not sure I believe in posh wanks TBH.

'I don't believe in "posh" wanks'

Why not?

Posh wanks are definitely a thing. As is the stranger wank. Why do I know this?

My husband has posh wanks with condoms too. Finds it easier to clean up afterwards.

I get the not cleaning up but wanking with a plastic bag on doesn't sound fun

Well most of the actual wanking can be done before you put the condom on.

Lordy, I'm now spending Sunday afternoons explaining posh wanks to mumsnetters. This is not what I thought would happen when I grew up.

What in the name of God is a stranger wank?

Gavilán .