Kirinm No fucking clue what this 'moral high ground' is you're referring to but trust me here, you are not exactly covering yourself in glory in any of your posts directed at OP.
To you - and anyone else that has bizarrely warped thinking somehow thinks OP is at 'fault' in some way here - can I just remind you of the following?
OP has (it would very, very strongly appear) been the victim of a CRIME here. OP HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG.
Likewise, her child - a 4-5 year old baby FFS - has NOT been where she thought he was.
Worse still (criminally - no pun intended - IMHO), her child has had his head fucked with and his age taken advantage of.
Without exaggeration, this is going to impact OP for a very long time and if you have ever been a victim of crime you will know precisely what I'm referring to:
Been burgled? You never feel as safe in your own home as you did previously; you jump at every noise or strange creaking sound; you further fortify the security at your home but you never ever feel the same as you did before being burgled.
Been mugged? You never feel as safe on the streets again and you adapt your normal behaviours in response to that by taking different routes; not being out after 'x' o'clock; only travelling on night buses if someone is with you.
Been assaulted? You believe at some level it was 'our own fault' (for whatever mad reason we tell ourselves these things) - we adapt numerous behaviours in so so many ways; alter our lives dramatically from the way we dress to where we will go; we are never quite as carefree as we once were.
So please recall the above before you deign to have a pop at OP again as right now she will be struggling. She will be struggling with all of the 'might haves' vis things that could have gone (even more horribly) wrong/that should she have checked CM out even more thoroughly/what about the other DC who remain in this woman's care right now?
I do not find it surprising that OP's child is now going into a playscheme as opposed to one on one care - as OPs innate trust & faith in that has been utterly shattered.
Given it is already a natural tendency to blame oneself and to question oneself in the immediate aftermath of any kind of deception &/or crime and OP will likely already be doing that, she does not need some randomer on a forum she trusts laying into her. So, could I - really fucking politely - ask that you please remember all of the above and that OP is a victim of crime here?
A crime that she only learnt of for certain today, and one that involved her child FFS so all the more bruising for that.
FFS