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Dh is in the great British towel throw down challenge...

193 replies

Chlorinatedfrontbum · 31/07/2016 20:32

but doesn't know it. A towel was dropped on the bedroom floor 2 days ago. It's still there. I've entered him into the challenge to see when it gets picked up, but not told him. AIBU?

OP posts:
ZansForCans · 01/08/2016 13:42

I honestly have no idea why, it almost a blind spot in my mentality.

Although I do leave them close so that that DW doesn't have far to throw them.

What utter wibble - these two sentences contradict each other. It's not a blind spot if you know you do it and you leave them close enough so that DW can pick them up. It's not even lazy - it's a statement.

"This is your job. Keep playing the role of little wifey. Always deal with my crap. After all you can't leave me over something so trivial. If you get annoyed about this you'll be petty. But it keeps you in your place and reminds you - and me - every day, that you're worth less than me."

NeedACleverNN · 01/08/2016 13:43

If you chucked your clothes on the floor, that's where they would stay until you picked them up yourself.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 01/08/2016 13:55

If someone is going to do your laundry for you, the least you can do is actually collate it all in one place

TyneTeas · 01/08/2016 14:10

Is now a good time to add this link...

She divorced me because I left dishes in the sink

m.huffpost.com/us/entry/9055288

Thingmcthingyface · 01/08/2016 14:14

Place marking. Also REALLY need to enter DH into glass-of-water-left-by-the-bed-throw-down. He also claims 'blindspot' (weirdly neat in all other areas). What happens when I leave said glass on bedside table? Why, it is joined night by night by additional water glass friends!

Bambooshoots14 · 01/08/2016 14:25

DrMorbius if this is true then you sound like a twat Angry

Bambooshoots14 · 01/08/2016 14:29

TyneTeas great article ... dr I suggest you read it

TyneTeas · 01/08/2016 14:29

When my dd started leaving half done things (eg a plate cleared through to the kitchen but apple core not put in bin) I started calling her through and asked her why she had left it, what did she think would happen if she left it. And told her that unless she could imagine writing a note saying 'I left this for you to finish because...' with a credible reason to sort it out herself. No way would I stand for this from a grown-up,!

hellsbellsmelons · 01/08/2016 14:42

Thingmcthingyface me too.
I leave them for a while. Usually until the morning the cleaner is due.
He leaves wine and cans there too.
Although yesterday he went to tidy around the bed and knocked water and wine onto the bed.
I wondered what had happened to him to actually wash bedding without having to be asked and I got my answer.
I'm sure he won't have learnt though as there are 2 there this morning!
Grrrrr........

He does do loads though so I don't let it bother me too much.

DrMorbius · 01/08/2016 14:57

I think some of you are taking this too seriously per hellbells DH ^^ He does do loads though so I don't let it bother me too much

I do loads around the house, so MrsMorbius is cool.

ZansForCans · 01/08/2016 14:59

Oh you have a cool wife, that explains it.

Effendi · 01/08/2016 15:14

May I enter my husband for the beer can event? Leaving an empty beer can on the side, above the bin god dammit.
He usually caves quite quickly.
frontbum please post a photo and stay strong, do not pick it up!

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 01/08/2016 15:15

My husband also does loads around the house Dr M. That's because it's his house as well as mine. I'm not his servant.

Butteredparsnips · 01/08/2016 15:19

I need to know if the towel has used any banned substances. One spec of white powder and it is disqualified.

Bambooshoots14 · 01/08/2016 15:24

DrMorbius but you knowingly leave your clothes for her to pick up?? If you didn't realise then maybe I'd be less bothered but you know you're doing it? And find it funny?

DrWhy · 01/08/2016 16:08

Argh, things like this used to drive me nuts - I'm now 34 weeks pregnant and frankly just cannot be arsed to do certain stuff, I've discovered that DH actually does do it after a while - he just has a higher mess tolerance than me. He's been vacuuming quite happily and stripped the bed and put it in the wash, both jobs I'd normally have done several days earlier whilst being grumpy that he never did them.
To be fair he does hang up his towel (and sometimes mine if I'm already upstairs when he comes out of the en-suite) I think he learnt pretty swiftly that it wasn't worth my moaning! Plus, if he doesn't do any of the morning tidy I bustle around doing it all which makes us late!

SecretNutellaFix · 01/08/2016 16:09

I did this years ago with DH over the washing up. It ended up him buying a dishwasher and us having to use paper plates for a couple of days.

I've been waiting since the first week in January for the Christmas decorations to get put in the cupboard upstairs. They're all packed away and after last year when he told me to stop nagging about it I decided to stop nagging. And every time I see them I fume.

LuluJakey1 · 01/08/2016 16:16

We are on holiday. On Saturday DH removed T shirt and shorts by the pool. They are still there. I am not moving them. I am prepared to leave them there for the next 2 and a bit weeks and go home without them. I have not even mentioned them. We'll see!

Foxedme · 01/08/2016 16:18

We have the great toothpaste lid challenge running in conjunction with the great lid on the tea caddy challenge... I feel that you'll crumble before he does.

justmyview · 01/08/2016 16:18

Stay strong, people. Do not cave in.

BodsAuntieFlo · 01/08/2016 16:20

Only twice has DH left his towels on the floor, both times I burned them outside. I waited until he came home and was getting out his car then put them in the already lit fire pit. I haven't had clothes or towels on my floor for over 25 years now. He now has his own shower and pays someone to do his working clothes laundry including his towels Fuck washing minging vet clothes/scrubs that are covered in all sorts of things. Burn the towel I say.

DrMorbidus I may have lifted your clothes and had a bonfire with them. There really is no need for not putting washing in the basket. Any perfectly capable adult can manage to tidy up after themselves.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 01/08/2016 16:21

And just for the record we are having a house extension and with it I will have an upstairs utility room, which will house The Only laundry basket.
I've already been explaining to kids that I will only wash dirty stuff if they place it in there.
DH is actually better at tidying up (after himself & generally) than I am so no hardship there.
I wouldn't have had 7 children with a fucking slob manchild

theDuchessInTheDodgeCharger · 01/08/2016 16:26

be strong but I'm sure he won't even notice.
I've been doing this with socks for at least 3 years. The multiple half-worn pairs which end up on the floor of our bedroom or front room or corridor every single day. I kick them in the middle of the doorway/path, sometimes there's a little pile and I step around it, quite joyfully ( trying to, it helps ). Sometimes they disappear so I guess they end up in the basket.
There were 2 pairs this morning, I'm expecting at least 3 tonight.
They never learn.

user12785 · 01/08/2016 16:26

My entire life is the great things left on the floor challenge. I have added a new twist recently, I put a post it note on the item with the date it was left. They still get left for days and days after that though... Then I move onto asking for the item to be moved, once a day, in a monotone voice...

clairemgill · 01/08/2016 16:26

You know he doesn't see the towel, right? Men have weird vision.

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