to not put kisses at the end of my text messages?

[DamnSkippy]

My sister mentioned to me yesterday, in a slightly huffy tone, that I don't put kisses at the end of my text messages. Oh really, I said, I've never really thought about it. Does anyone? Yes they do, she said.

She's right. I checked on my phone and EVERYONE puts kisses on the end of their texts. Except me. Family, friends, work colleagues, even my NDN, on the one occasion when she texted me to ask if she could put some rubbish in my blue bin.

I honestly hadn't noticed. Now I'm aware of it I find I still can't usually be arsed remember. AIBU?

I do to everyone but my bosses at work and make friends

I don't in texts but I have done on Mumsnet posts where I've felt sad for the poster's situation and don't seem to be enough.

I never put kisses. Twee as fuck and not my style

•male friends, not make friends

I never put kisses. I normally end with a smiley face (that's probably worse)

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
My hairdresser said to me that he wasn't going to put an x on his texts to me anyone because I never do when I text him! He was serious!
I've also been told my texts are abrupt because I never start them with 'Hi' or 'How are you?'
I don't know if that's rude or not, but I usually just say what I have to say

Only put kisses on texts to DC.

In a slightly similar vein, DC and I always say 'love you' at the end of a phone call; many's the time I've just managed to stop myself saying it to complete strangers when I've rung up to speak to the bank or similar. It only happens when the person I've spoken to has been particularly helpful or pleasant and I'm feeling well disposed towards them.

Thankfully, up till now I've managed to stop myself just in time, but I just know one awful day it's going to happen.

I put them on, can't seem to help myself. I was arranging getting the house decorated and put them on my text to the decorator. A guy I'd met about twice. I felt like a total arse and had a word with myself.

If I'm texting DD or DS and they do or say something that pisses me off, I withhold the kisses. Both notice it right away and immediately ask "what's wrong Mum?".

Perfectly normal. Although I see where you are coming from and I suppose would we go round kissing every one we meet on the cheek. 😂

I don't. I do sometimes put a random emoticon, like a pig or a cheeseburger or something.

I got bitched at for "not being gentle" when I made an offer on second hand baby clothes. The woman went of whinging to admin because I made an offer (yes, you read that right). Admin got in touch (which shocked me, I'd have asked what was do offensive about an offer) I sent screen shots of our chat. The admin suggested that if I was less formal (included hun/ luv/ kisses or such) I'd come across better. I suggested I'd rather not, but thanked her for her suggestion.
I won't be using that site again!
Some people read between the lines and think that they somehow know what you mean, rather than what you say. It's possible paranoia / anxiety.
Essentially they are unreasonable for not understanding the words in front of them and choosing to infer words/ meaning that don't exsist. They probably think they're very sensitive or that they read people well. Really, they need to improve their comprehension. Really they're assuming kisses = nice. No kisses = bitch. Ridiculous. I only put kisses to those I might want to kiss!
It's part of the putting women into the gentle / sensitive box and any woman not doing that is somehow a bitch. Where a man would just be forthright/ straight talking

I've never done this. I don't even write xxx in birthday cards, so it never occurred to me to do it in text messages. It just looks odd.

My downfall is using too many smiley faces in emails because I worry about coming across as abrupt or unfriendly.

After I split from XH I convinced myself that a male friend fancied me as he put kisses on his messages. First message one kiss, then two, then three...wahey, "I'm in there" I thought!

After I snogged his face off I learned that apparently some people do this to everyone, not just people they fancy . Didn't see him again.

My DP sent me a message today without a kiss. I replied "where's my kiss?" Most unusual for us. In fact most of our text convos end with "love you x" "love you more xxx".

The number of kisses is in direct correlation with the amount you love each other. Fact. Probably.

I absolutely never ever'x 'my boss, who is a perfectly lovely human being who is off on mat leave with her second for whom I did the normal office collection. She's my boss,I don't kiss her in real life so wouldn't kiss her via text.

I actually hate this text kissing nonsense. I had one friend crying because I never sent kisses on my messages! Told her I didn't kiss her in person so wise up. Most of my friends know I don't do it so either don't send them or have the sense not to be offended when I don't. It's total nonsense. Dh gets 3 but then I do actually kiss him a fair bit in rl.

Are you all 12 years old?? Why would I put kisses on my texts??

Just checked. No to friends and family members. I don't even send them to dd even though almost all her texts end in xxx and a couple of emojis. I do send kisses in texts to the man I'm seeing. Usually the last text of a conversation often when we're saying goodnight to one another. I'm pretty sure he started that.

Arfarfanarf - not you xxx.

Depends on the text, I don't always put a X. And when I do, it's only to family and close friends.

I would generally put an x on the end of texts to good friends or family - however I tend to take cues from other people as well.

Someone I have a professional relationship with (colleague, hairdresser etc) I wouldn't put an x on as a matter of course, but would respond with one if they did normally.

I actually find it quite a nice thing, although it's a bit strange and I don't feel offended if someone doesn't do it - unless it's out of character for them not to in which case I might wonder if they were shirty with me.

Just out of curiosity, how do you close a text sent in a professional context? I use a version of "best wishes, Dudsville".