To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

[FruitCider]

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Congratulations - what an achievement!
Be very proud and splash it all over Facebook. And delete the twats who made the jealous comment - they're not you're friend or supportive of you.

You should feel very proud of yourself. You have not scraped a first, you have earned it. Women are too used to putting themselves down, most men wouldn't dream of saying they had just achieved something and I suspect others would be less inclined to dismiss a man. Welcome to women in academia, the great sadness is that a number of the detractors are women but soldier on. Let it give you the confidence to be what ever you want to be and sure someone with a 2:1, 2:2, 3rd or no degree might do as well as you in life and good on them if they do. This does not make your achievement any less. It is wonderful, enjoy it and use it. Good luck

Congratulations!

Delete the so-called friends and don't waste any more time on them. You now know who your real friends are, and you can spend more time with those people. Hope you enjoy celebrating!

Congratulations OP, that is a fantastic achievement and you are right to feel proud. Having a first will look great on your CV and I hope it opens doors for you. Also, a first is a first - no need to tell anyone you just scraped it, probably so did most people who got one!

Re the comments on your Facebook wall - are they all from people you actually know and count as friends (in which case, how can they be so mean?) or is it possible you have your FB privacy settings set too loosely so people you don't actually know can see your feed and post crap like that on it? If so I'd go and change them so only your real friends can see your posts.

Anyway, well done you.

Congratulations!

Congratulations!! That's amazing. You don't get a first without being very smart AND working very hard. Well done you. Sorry you haven't had more support! Have you had some nice comments? Go for a cocktail with a couple of those people to mark it properly? Xxx

Ignore. They're all horrible.

YANBU I've said it before and I'll say it again, people are dicks! Well done you!

OP, you should be extremely proud of your achievement. Only a small percentage of graduates gain a First class honours degree. I know from experience. I have recently graduated with a First class degree in Education. I am 42, worked full time as teaching assistant, married, with two teenage daughters. I had to study part time for 5 years to achieve this. I am now looking forward to starting my teacher training in September.

Consequently, I know exactly what it took for you to achieve what you did. Enjoy it! Those who truly love you will be proud. My own sister says similar things about how 70% should not be a First class degree (she ignores the fact that I finished with 85%!). I know that she is envious that I got up off my arse and will make my family's lives better by earning more. She could do it too if she wanted to.

@fruitcider Firstly, well done! Fantastic achievement. I was also told, having earned a First, that it meant I obviously hadn't had fun at uni, and that no-one would ever care about my achievement. He was wrong - as was the former boss who told me i couldn't string a sentence together - it was that goad (one of many) that finally pushed me to re-enter HE as a mature student and kept me going when times got tough. Don't let those who want to put you down succeed - use their negativity to fuel your ambitions. Secondly, you can now get a £10,000 government tuition fee loan for postgraduate courses, so go for it!!

I left school over 15 years ago with no GCSEs! I've had a terrible 3 years. Didn't even think I was going to be able to finish this year let alone do that.

Well done, .
I hate the tall poppy syndrome. Don't let your acquaintances' negativity get to you.

Congratulations!! That is a great achievement!

Ignore the twattish remarks. It often seems like you can't post anything positive on fb without people taking it the 'wrong way'.

Maybe you should have posted some cryptic bollocks first so people had to drag it out of you.

Bloody well done! Those people are just jealous! A first is a massive achievement

Congratulations. All your hard work has obviously paid off. I can't understand why people seem to enjoy being nasty. Good luck in whatever you do next, you deserve it.

I can't bear the inverse snobbery of comments about a piece of paper not making someone a better nurse, and I think the govt's argument that however many extra uni places will now be made available with the abolition of the bursary. It's counter intuitive. For the last few years we've been in a situation in which only the best and demonstrably most committed people have got onto nursing courses and the (deluded) thinking is that now more people will train, diluting the quality of the pool I think.

By the way, my Gran was a RMN pre degree. She also used yo advocate physical beating of her children and was as emotionally vacant as it's possible to be. Having a degree or not says very little about the ability to care.

Excuse the crappy syntax of my post.

And very well done OP 🍾

Be proud of yourself! I see a lot of CVs and qualifications as part of my role and I'm always impressed when I see a 1st...

Another well done. A first is a massive achieve. Congratulations

Congratulations. You've done brilliantly well and now you've got the taste for it you might want to read about this former nurse:

www.imperial.ac.uk/people/m.morrell

Congratulations Fruitcider that's a fantastic achievement. Well done.

Wow, well done FruitCider

(maybe time for some FB pruning? quite easily done I think?)

more congratulations here. It's no mean feat to get a first. They aren't handed out on a plate. It WILL look great on your CV and prospective employers will notice. 2:1's are really great achievements but firsts are the best of the best. Be proud of yourself. And how mean spirited the comments you got on facebook were. Jealousy is not a good trait.

Well done and many many congratulations. You will find that this does open doors for you with employers and they do care. It shows commitment as well as brains, and I bet you had a lot of fun at uni too. I am lucky in that I just finished a degree which I studied part time, and my family are very proud of me and can't wait to come to my graduation. Well done. And yes, others are probably jealous!

I thought you were going to say it was a swimming certificate or knitting trophy or somethng lots of people would think trivial.

Getting a first is a big deal, bloody well done. Sounds like your "friends" have a case of the big, fat green eyed monster to me. I know lots of employers that grade applicants on how much fun they had at uni....