DS touched by a girl

[StephoooH]

My DS was being bullied for his hair colour, a couple of months ago, things were sorted. I'm not really sure if that's relevant as this doesn't seem like it's related, but the headteacher has been really great and like a mentor to him, has been checking in with him everyday. Can't knock him.

I'm really, really, really frustrated that this happened on the last day of term (Friday) as the head didn't seem fussed at all.

DS told me about this incident in the playground, they were doing a dress up day for the last day and DS went as Thing 1, without a thing 2 (unfortunately his friend was unwell) but there was 2 girls the year above who did the same thing. The girl 'Thing 2' was following around DS. They don't even know each other, DS is in Yr 4, she is in Yr 5.

DS is quite shy and tried to avoid conversation, but she was very persistent and ended up aggressively touching him in an inappropriate way. If that makes sense, really no need to go TMI.

I phoned up the head, who said that he hadn't checked in with DS as it was the last day, which wasn't even the issue, but he seems to think that if he would have checked in with DS it wouldn't have happened so was too focused on that.

I'm not really sure what to do...

I would have posted this on Friday, but then DD got ill . Any advice would be great

Don't listen to anyone telling you to let it go. Your son needs you to advocate for him, the girl in question needs speaking to. Both children need protecting, one at the very best needs help understanding why you can't invade the privacy of/hurt other people in this way, and at worst is at risk herself.

I'm sorry your son went through this.

loopy fuck me, there are no words for what you posted.

Of course this needs reporting today, not just for the OPs son, but for the girl, as this Is a red flag that she is being sexually assaulted herself/witnessing inappropriate behaviour and she needs protecting as well.

I'm not saying advocate my advice it is insane. However I've heard abroad this (not in Europe) this is the way this are done. Not saying it's right.

I can't believe some of the replies on here

I personally would prioritise reporting the incident to the police! It's sexual assault at the end of the day!!!!

Yes, it's a police/social service matter as well as a school matter. If the school can't/won't respond in a timely way, that's not a good enough reason to let this wait 6 weeks. I'm shocked my the minimising of this, and the comments that say that just because the head can't do much other than refer to the Police or SS, you shouldn't bother letting them know!

Loopy I'm sorry you've had a bad experience when you were at school, and glad you've said you think the ways of dealing with the issue abroad are crazy, but not sure why you posted it then as it certainly seemed like advice.

Where does it say that you shouldn't bother letting the headteacher know?

Antique.... Here you go. An example fr the start of the thread... Sorry, but it's 6 weeks off. No one's around. And no one's going to investigate this is September.

I think the police would definitely do something as the girl is 10 she is responsible for her own actions.
I also feel if the genders were reversed this would be taken more seriously and as a mum of boys I feel this is very wrong.

You need to make sure the head is onto it however he will need the girl to admit or fund witnesses. These things are going to be vary hard to do in the school holidays. You can call the police but again unless she admits it they will need to wait till school opens to then see if any of the other children saw or remembering seeing it. It is sadly very unfortunate timing with regards to witnesses however it still needs looking into as far as it can be currently.

Yes I would call the Police, the child is 10, not a reception child.

Try calling and emailing school. If they don't come back to you tomorrow then I'd call social services for advice.

Phone
The
Police

It is their problem to find the head teacher or a deputy, not yours