To not give a thank you gift to the teacher

[TheRandomer]

I mean, they are doing their job. I don't get gifts for doing mine neither does DH. But there seems to be this pressure to conform and get the teacher yet another box of chocolates/bunch of flowers/plant etc etc that I can only imagine most go in the bin. I got DD's teacher a card that she wrote herself saying thank you, and that was all today. AIBU?

This year my child sent a thank you card extolling Mrs X ' s virtues. It was all heartfelt!

I got a couple of cards this year, it's not common in secondary schools to give gifts to teachers (too many of them!) The cards were written by the kids, and a heartfelt thanks from a teen who would normally be embarrassed by it means more than anything

I'm a teacher (only supply at the moment due to being pregnant) and I don't think it's necessary to give a gift. At the last school in which I taught the vast majority of parents did send thank you cards but only a few would include a gift, a gift definitely wasn't the norm. I think it does vary from area to area and school to school. A card is lovely and I've always kept the cards I've received and I don't think parents/ students should feel pressured to include any more than that.

We just give cards - not always handmade, but always handwritten (I moonpig everything else )

never thought I'd use moonpig as a verb

My 24 year old son has just completed his NQT year teaching in Year 5. He showed me the gifts/cards he has been given by the children and parents and he is so moved and appreciative of the lovely thoughtful gifts he was been given yesterday.
The sentiment in the messages he's received had me welling up! Particularly one from a mother -her child has had obstacles he's managed to overcome with my son's encouragement. My son loves his job and doesn't expect anything but I can only say how touched he's been after a tiring, stressful but exhilarating first year. To know parents and children have taken the time to write a card/buy a gift etc has meant the world to him as well as being a confidence boost in his first year.

I do Christmas gifts too!!! DC1 has just finished his first year in preschool, he started the day after he turned 3 and went full time at 3.2m. Considering he'd never been in formal childcare before and he was so young I cannot believe how much he has thrived. I want to show the staff my appreciation as they have been amazing with my son. I've never given anything flashy or ott - just a card and some wine / choccies.

DS has just finished his first year at school. We got his teacher a bottle of prosecco and the ta's a bottle of white wine each, from DS. Also wrote a card to his teacher, from us, thanking her for making his first year at school so fab. It's just a token our appreciation; on the whole teachers do a fantastic job and most go way above and beyond what they are actually paid to do.
DM was a teacher and always appreciated anything received from her children or their parents at the end of each year.

Ds has just finished year 1, I got his teacher and two assistants a Starbucks voucher so they could get a tea/coffee slice or something etc.

Ds also wrote in his teachers card. I really wanted to get her a little something and have something personal from ds as his class is her first class since she started teaching and she had told me at parents evening she was struggling to 'let go' of them.

She put in so much effort and bought a lot of things out of her own money.

She also got every child a pencil with a handmade label with their name drawn on and attributes for each letter of their name and also a book each with a handwritten message.

So I really didn't mind spending a few pounds to get little token gifts.