DS's Negative 'award'

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In Suffolk with 3tier moving to 2tier system. We are keeping DS in 2 Tier so will stay at local primary until end of year 6. Only 12 kids staying at his school.
Teacher hand out awards.

Gabriel is Mr Sporty
Mia Miss Sporty
Kyle is Mr Happy
Chloe is Miss helpful.

My DS was Mr Muddle. No one else has a negative Mr or Miss award.

Silly but has upset DH and me.... We think DS 8 ASD or Dyspraxia... Defo some SEN ... Our DS 6 has Severe SEN so we know what we are talking about.

I hate to think he is being portrayed as a negative character.

AIBU to be upset by this label!!!

Wow that's a bit shitty! YANBU I'd be too.

Yes, I'd be pissed off about that too. What were they thinking.

That's shit.

I'd say something.

That is mean. There is no positive spin to be had from that. I'd be straight to the teacher to tell them exactly what they got wrong, and to wait for a sincere apology.

YANBU. I bet your DS has lots of amazing positive qualities that could have been highlighted in his award.
It maybe they thought it was funny and he'd get the joke but just no.
I have a DD with SEN and I'd be livid. I think it's worth a sharp letter (a letter rather than a chat where your sons feelings and yours can be more easily dismissed or minimised)

My Ds got the award for falling down the most last year. I took it as funny and true. Is there a chance it's an affectionate funny award?

YANBU. Shocking. Does he know the story? I would complain, very strongly.

YANBU. That is quite cruel actually. I'm sad and cross for your poor DS who I'm sure has many, many positive traits that they could have chosen from.

I'd take it as affectionate and 'trying' to be funny/ cute.
But I see it from your point of view too.

If it was the teacher's attempt at humour then he/she should have done the same for every child in the class, not just singling your DS out. Definitely not on.

My Ds got the award for falling down the most last year.

Presumably other children received similarly jokey awards, which made it an acceptable accolade. It wasn't Miss Perfect, Mr Wonderful, Miss Intelligent, Mr Falls Over All The Time, Miss Shining Star...

Being singled out as the only one the teacher couldn't think of anything positive to say about is not funny.

What bastards. That's awful.

That's really shitty. They should have found something positive - not necessarily academic, could just be about him being cheerful or making people laugh.

I reckon its probably an affectionate term because he probably always is in a muddle and thats what he may be nicknamed in class.

I'd be annoyed about that too.

Your right it's shitty.

If you are highlighting positive personality traits then you highlight everyone's.

I got "most likely to be arrested" when I left school!

Write Mr Thoughtless and letter and point out the obvious to him.

Yanbu.

Op, yanbu I think I would have to say something!

yadnbu. That is horrible. Even if it was meant in an affectionate way, it was at best insensitive, at worst cruel. I am sure they wouldn't be purposefully cruel. But highly insensitive and thoughtless.

Very poorly thought out (or not thought out) by the teacher. I would say something to her or to her line manager, if only to prevent another child being upset in the future.