DS's Negative 'award'

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In Suffolk with 3tier moving to 2tier system. We are keeping DS in 2 Tier so will stay at local primary until end of year 6. Only 12 kids staying at his school.
Teacher hand out awards.

Gabriel is Mr Sporty
Mia Miss Sporty
Kyle is Mr Happy
Chloe is Miss helpful.

My DS was Mr Muddle. No one else has a negative Mr or Miss award.

Silly but has upset DH and me.... We think DS 8 ASD or Dyspraxia... Defo some SEN ... Our DS 6 has Severe SEN so we know what we are talking about.

I hate to think he is being portrayed as a negative character.

AIBU to be upset by this label!!!

Dd has dyspraxia this would upset her i dont think you are u reasonable to be upset or over sensitive . Dd used to get called Bambi in pe in high school it was affectionatly said but she knew how un cordinated she was in PE and she didnt like it.

YANBU.

My DD went to a SEN school and when they were leaving primary, they all got an award.

My DD was Miss Chatterbox. Others were Mr: Thoughtful, Careful, Spontaneous etc.

It is very wrong for the others to be positive and his negative.

""I reckon its probably an affectionate term because he probably always is in a muddle and thats what he may be nicknamed in class.""

If that's the situation, then that needs addressing asap. A classroom should be a positive learning place, not labelling people with what they struggle with.

i'd be sad about this too OP and I would mention it to the teacher. I think they'll have inset tomorrow if today was the end of term so I would phone the office tomorrow morning and ask to speak to them.

I'm a teacher and would never dream of doing something like that. There's no escaping the negative connotations. If tha was my ds I'd be in to see the head immediately. Unacceptable and cruel.

I feel cross on your behalf, OP! Please do go and see the head, the teacher should know better.

YANBU - that's dreadful

My DD got a 'hair award' for being 'most likely to encourage her hair to touch her shoulders'.

I always send her to school with her hair up, she always comes home with it down. I am not sure how quickly this change happens, but I think probably fairly quickly. It is her choice to do that, so she kind of deserves a little mickey taking because of it.

Your DS however, does not.

Think that's really mean unless everyone else's were joke awards eg Mr Sporty is really no good at sport, Miss Helpful doesn't tidy up. Even then it's thoughtless to say the least. Complaint is needed to the head

Write a letter of complaints addressed to Miss Meanie.

OP I think I'd have to say something. I'd be calm though - just point it out. I'm sure they'll be mortified (you would hope).

In another part of me, I at Euphemia's post.

Even if you assume the best of intentions, labelling a child as 'Mr Muddle' is not kind, helpful or encouraging.

Can you hand in a copy of Mr Rude to the teacher as an end-of-term present? Or draw your own one called 'Mr (or Miss) Thoughtless Arse?

Thinking like PPs above - address your response to Mrs Insensitively-Humiliating or was it Mrs Thoughtlessly-Hurtful ?

I'd ask to speak to the head. No competent head would be remotely pleased by this - it's against everything decent schools try to do.

It's unacceptable.

Yanbu - teachers shouldn't be making fun of children whether they think it's a joke or not.

Yes, bypass the sensitive, kind teacher and go straight to the Head. I doubt it was a running joke - younger children tend not to "get" that sort of joke.
Hmm. It was a nasty thing to do and very unkind.

Can you pop in and have a word? I went into school last week because DD2 (8) sucks her hand and she told me a teacher said 'stop sucking your hand, you're not two.' I simply said that as sucking her hand is a compulsion she's had since she was tiny, it gets worse when she's anxious/stressed/tired and she's already gets teased at school, I didn't think it was a great example for a member of staff to embarrass her in front of the other children for doing something she isn't even aware she's doing.

The teacher was very apologetic, we agreed that the general intent to discourage hand sucking was a good thing and I clarified that my only issue was with the reference to toddler behaviour.

Very thoughtless OP. I'm a TA and a teacher I once worked with wanted to do a similar thing. He thought the awards would be funny but luckily the head said no.

How is your DS? Did he laugh about it or is he upset? I think I would say something so they realise and don't make the same mistake again.

That's awful. Not on.

Only read your op but Yanbu as my dd's teacher did the same and i was annoyed. Dd was Little Miss Quiet and yes i know that is not a bad thing to say, but she is quiet and shy and was told by her reception teacher when going over her report that she was "not good at talking" I just think it's unhelpful to label them and make them think it's who they are

My DS won prize for 'best Nigerian' when he left secondary ( he is a white Yorkshireman!)

Moving

YANBU, OP

But snowy.. WTAF??!!