Is DH BU to let DD1 (12) watch Deadpool?

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We are arguing.

It's an 18. Graphic violence and nudity and a fuckton of swearing.

DD1 of course is claiming that Eeeeevverrryyyyooonnnnne has seen it.

Has anyone seen it? Is it really that bad? I wouldn't mind watching it myself but I don't think we should let her.

Rebel she said it to DH, and according to him she was joking / not serious. She's normally very very very law abiding and rule following (to the point where she gets anxious if I park on a single yellow line for a few minutes) so actually a tiny bit of rebellion finally showing through might not be a bad thing

Once seen things cannot be unseen - she could be scarred for life by some scenes but you will never know - are you willing to take that risk? I'm more bothered that you think she will go ahead and watch it anyway tbh

Think we're watching San Andreas instead.

I like that parent guide because it is just a list and we all parent differently so you can use it to help you.

I'm currently letting my 9 & 6 year old DSs watch Red Dwarf though so what do I know

My 2 year old watched game of thrones with me the other day so don't worry, I am a far worse parent.

My DDs are 13 and 15 and I'm leaning towards watching it with them - but we are a sweary household and we are very open about discussing sex because I am Dutch and I'd rather they got it from me than from elsewhere. They already know about the strap-on scene, we have discussed it and many other inappropriate sex-related things that have been mentioned to them at school. I think it depends very much on your children and on what the 'culture' in your family is whether or not they will be shocked and horrified by it.

In regards to Red Dwarf, I'd much rather explain bumsex to my children then ever have to repeat the conversation where I had to explain what smeg was.

Yea its funny how parents will let boys watch it but girls are somehow.... more vulnerable? I guess this is a self fulling prophecy. That's a really interesting point.

I think HIBU. The fact that lots of 12yos are watching it doesn't make it ok, IMHO.

We don't stick rigidly to age ratings but Deadpool, no way.

honey I still remember that conversation with my mum!

For some reason the DC have not yet asked what smeg is!

Just you wait babber it'll come when you least expect it, on crowded public transport or in front of Mil

I'm going to watch Deadpool tonight

Maybe they'll ask their teachers?

I'm with HomeyDragon.

It is my 13yo favourite film, although she too put a blanket over her head at the sex bits.

We have a fairly open dialogue about sex, it's not something I believe should be hidden from young teens. Obviously I'm not about to sit down and let her watch hardcore pornography but I can't get worked up about sex jokes.

I didn't think the violence was that graphic tbh, it was done in a comic book/humorous style.

"Smeg is a made up futuristic rude word because when they made Red Dwarf they wanted to broadcast it at a time when they couldn't say really rude words. It is also a type of fridge."

Case closed, nothing more to see here, move on.

DD desperately wanted to see Deadpool when she was 13. I've said that 15 means 15 as far as this one goes (though I'm currently letting my 11 year old watch Taskmaster and click the button marked "Yes I'm 15" because I know that's only a 15 for use of rude words he knows already).

However I've said she can start watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer from age 14, because I can't wait to share it with her and because if we only watch it at weekends it'll take the best part of a year to get to the most questionable content, right?

babber I remember my brother asking our sweet old great granny what cunnilingus was.

She told him too!

My (at the time only-just) 14yo ds managed to get into the cinema to see it, and then we watched it at home, with 16yo dd1 (who got ID'd going to the cinema to see it when her little brother didn't!) and 12yo dd2. Dd2 was pretty blasé about it but she's quite mature (as the youngest!) and there was nothing in it she couldn't ask me about. Personally I was quite meh about it.

Red Dwarf on the other hand is a huge favourite here, and I let dh deal with the smeg conversation ("ask your dad, he knows more about it than me")

So relieved I found this thread: 13 year old DS has been wanting to see it and I just read this, read the IMDB guide, and told him: no way. He's fine with that decision. He knows we don't just say no without good reason - we're currently watching Arrow together, which is also rated 15 - and I think he is at a stage of development where he'd find the crude sexual stuff really uncomfortable to watch.

13 yo ds missed all the boobs as he was excitedly bouncing up and down going "Stan, Stan, Stan!!!!!"

Yes. HIBU. HTH

Hang on. Smeg actually has a meaning? How have I reached the ripe old age of 31 and not known this? Off I go to urban dictionary...

...urgh!! Hahaha!

I dont let my DC watch films to be a 'cool' parent. I make the decision based on how mature they are verses what their peer group is doing. I dont see how shielding them from stuff that their friends will describe/show clips to them in graphic detail is particularly helpful. If I am with them they can ask me questions and get honest answers.

I dont see why sex toys are so scary to some people. Sex education is something that should be normalized from a very early age. I have brought my children up to be able to talk to me about it not afraid to think it is something to hide or something wrong.

If they have watched it with me then they dont need to sneak around on the internet trying to find it thinking it some amazing film their parents are cruelly stopping them from watching. This is not an adult movie, its an edgy teenagers film.

Mumma you're so sweet and innocent!