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Is DH BU to let DD1 (12) watch Deadpool?

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 19/07/2016 19:00

We are arguing.

It's an 18. Graphic violence and nudity and a fuckton of swearing.

DD1 of course is claiming that Eeeeevverrryyyyooonnnnne has seen it.

Has anyone seen it? Is it really that bad? I wouldn't mind watching it myself but I don't think we should let her.

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 19/07/2016 19:41

That other thread is interestingly quite a bit more lenient about a 12 year old boy watching it.

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SkydivingFerret · 19/07/2016 19:44

I wouldn't let a 12 year old watch it, girl or boy. It's in no way suitable for a child

peachpudding · 19/07/2016 19:45

Yea its funny how parents will let boys watch it but girls are somehow.... more vulnerable? I guess this is a self fulling prophecy.

user7755 · 19/07/2016 19:47

Have you seen it? No way in hell would I let a 12 year old watch it. The calendar girl scene in itself is a good enough reason not to watch it with a child. The violence is graphic but a lot of the humour is very very adult. DH keeps saying he thinks DS 1 would like it but when I made him watch it again first he was pleased that DS wasn't there.

Tiggy78 · 19/07/2016 19:47

I watched it with my 12 year old DS. I fast forwarded through the sex scene (which was in one big block and pretty easy to forward through).

redhat · 19/07/2016 19:50

This isn't what children watch now, they shouldn't see far worse on the playstation and it is a biggie peachpudding Hmm She's 12 FFS

user7755 · 19/07/2016 19:51

Agreed Redhat

HoneyDragon · 19/07/2016 19:53

I watched it with 13 yo dos and his bf a 13 yo girl (mum gave permission). I'd seen it and had no issue with the content.

In fact it made me enjoy it all the more when they both picked up on the International Women's day reference and fell about laughing. Grin

I'd suggest (if you're genuinely unsure) watch it first and decide.

Or, watch it all together and if it gets a bit much, tell her to bugger off.

branofthemist · 19/07/2016 19:54

I let my kids watch stuff that they are to young for, going by certificate.

Only if I have seen it first though. It doesn't sound like something I would let my 12 year old watch.

HoneyDragon · 19/07/2016 19:54

The sex scene is consensual and in a committed relationship, which is nice.

branofthemist · 19/07/2016 19:55

I am hoping to watch it soon, so may change my mind though Grin

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 19/07/2016 19:56

Augh I am a bit torn. Part of me thinks it's better to watch it with her, if we take it as a given that she is going to watch it sometime soon regardless (friend's house, on the plane, if she cracks the parental controls code, whatever). But then what everyone is saying - no way! driving DH crazy by dithering

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redhat · 19/07/2016 19:58

Hilarious that two 13 YOs are laughing at a reference to a women shagging her boyfriend with a strap on Hmm

I have no issue with the film for adults. I am by no means a prude. But why is everyone in such a rush to expose their children to inappropriate content? I can only assume it's in some attempt to be the "cool parent".

Wheresthattomoibabber · 19/07/2016 19:59

I let my very mature 12 year old DD watch it because I thought it was a 15 and a comedy so might be ok. She spent 75% of the time with a blanket over her head and her hands over her ears. She says to tell you go ahead but provide a blanket. I cannot tell you how much I regret not watching it first. I just hadn't clocked how bad it was. It has now become the benchmark for our parenting fails.

It should definitely be an 18 - there was violence in it that turned my stomach and extremely graphic sex that made me fancy Ryan Reynolds

Wheresthattomoibabber · 19/07/2016 20:01

I find the IMDB parents guide is usually quite helpful. Would DH let her watch Walking Dead? Because i put it on a par with that.

HoneyDragon · 19/07/2016 20:02

In all honesty, I think the certificate was pushed from a 12 to a 15 because of the nature of the humour. It's black humour, their is a big variation in twelve years olds in maturity. I think the idea of a load of twelve year olds in a cinema alone watching it would've been a bad call.

If it was a twelve accompanied by an adult fine. Shame there isn't a 15a cert.

I absolutely don't think it requires to be an eighteen.

And it is brilliant. We've already added it to our compulsory Christmas movies list with all the Die Hards, Elf and Wonderful Life.

TyneTeas · 19/07/2016 20:02

I was surprised it wasn't an 18

Wheresthattomoibabber · 19/07/2016 20:04

I agree it's brilliant - it is my favourite film of recent years but it is very violent.

HoneyDragon · 19/07/2016 20:04

I didn't realise that using sex toys was such a terrible thing?

Wheresthattomoibabber · 19/07/2016 20:05

I don't understand why Die Hard is an 18 when Deadpool is a 15.

RebelRogue · 19/07/2016 20:05

Tbh op i'd be more worried at her defiance and "i'm gonna watch it anyway" than whether she gets to watch it or not. Dd would be in big shit for that kind of attitude

redhat · 19/07/2016 20:06

Nobody said that honeydragon.

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 19/07/2016 20:06

Wheresthattomoibabber thanks for the parent guide tip - I didn't know it existed! Interesting stuff.

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cbigs · 19/07/2016 20:09

I thought it was fab! And surely it depends on the child in question?

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