Lifeguards at beach

[laidbackinengland]

Husband took kids surfing earlier today . A sea mist came in and the lifeguards put a call out asking people not to go in the water . He is an experienced surfer and judged it to be safe, so went in anyway . I'm annoyed with him as I feel he has undermined the lifeguards and that the kids might not take notice of them in the future . He thinks I have been critical of his parenting and decision making ! Any thoughts ?

He may be experienced, others around arent and if they see someone else in the water, may ignore the lifeguard and carry on. He was in the wrong and yanbu.

I'm with you on this - your OH was definitely bring unreasonable! I was at the beach today also when the mist came in and heard the warning - I saw some people disregarding it and just thought, Douche Bags.... Poor body lifeguards have their work cut out at this time of year with all the silly tourists knocking about thinking none of it applies to them. Are you guys local to the beach?

christ, what an absolute wanker

Don't know if you're in the same part of the world as me, but my now-ex-but-we're-civil went surfing on a Cornish beach this afternoon, & was called from the water as it had got really misty. He told me most people obeyed the lifeguards but a few didn't. He's pretty experienced and also not usually one to follow orders (!) but he was surprised that there were a few folk who remained in the sea with their kids. YANBU. The sea is a wonderful place for fun, but should also be respected. You have not undermined his parenting; rather he has undermined the judgement of those employed to safeguard beach users. Lifeguards are there for a reason.

Yes we are .... He's there the whole time - it may have been ok - I just think it's poor show to go against what the lifeguards are saying . Sets a bad example ...

Yanbu...like crispbutty says it could encourage others to go in and put them at risk

Well even more shame on him if he's local as he will know the crap those guys put up with this time of year, plus appreciate the safety net they provide for our DC day after day! Super arrogant, IMO.... And as you say, definitely sets a bad example! Booooo, Op's OH!

although the surf was bloody excellent today so half understand why he was trying to justify being such a bugger

Yanbu. I'm a lifelong jaywalker, but when I'm with my four year old, I wait for the green man, purely because I don't want him to think it's a 'use your own judgement' situation and run under a bus. Same with lifeguards.