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To not want to go holiday in the south west?

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Littlefluffyclouds81 · 17/07/2016 20:33

Mostly because I live in the south west, so it wouldn't seem much like a holiday.

Me and bf have been talking about going on holiday. To begin with, he suggested going to Devon or Cornwall for a week. I wasn't wild about the idea, but thought if we could find a cheap week somewhere it could be fun. So I had a bit of a Google, and was horrified to see that it was going to cost £1k+, even to stay in a caravan park type place. So I suggested maybe a week in France, as for less money we could get a ferry and a nice place with a pool on airbnb, and maybe the weather would actually be nice (it has pissed down with rain fairly consistently in the SW for the last few years).

So that was the plan, but we didn't book it as we've been waiting to find out when we could definitely go because of other commitments. That's now sorted, but he's decided he doesn't want to go to France because of the risk of terror attacks (he lives in London!). So it was back to the drawing board, and I suggested places in Spain and Croatia that were coming in at about £500 each (me and my dd, him and his dd), including flights, so a total of £1k.

But no, after me wasting fuck knows how many hours looking at places abroad, he's said he wants to go to Devon, or Cornwall. The places he's looking at in Devon are about 45 mins away from where I lived for 12 years. My mum had a holiday house in Cornwall for years until last year, and I'd often go down there with the DC if we had nothing else to do, but it never really felt like a holiday.

He says going to Devon would be 'perfect'. I'm imagining forking out £500 to go up the road, and probably forking out loads of money to do inside stuff because it's too rainy for the beach. There wouldn't be a pool, which is instant free entertainment for two six year olds.

We seem to have diametrically opposed ideas of what constitutes a holiday, but am I being a princess? Fully prepared to be told I am. Not sure what the compromise here would be.

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familyfarm · 18/07/2016 16:20

How about Ireland? Flights are very cheap with Ryanair

rollonthesummer · 18/07/2016 16:28

I just need to tell him straight don't I.

Errr, yes!!

EwanWhosearmy · 18/07/2016 18:46

I can see why you don't want to go to the SW. I can also see why he doesn't want to go to France or Spain. We made the mistake of going to the Canaries when DD was little and were absolutely bored stiff. In recent years we've been to Swansea (an hour from home), Durham, Newcastle, York, Sheffield and Southwold. People at work go [shocked] when they ask where we are going.

(We also went to Florida and it was cold and torrential rain, so there's no guarantees of decent weather wherever you go)

It seems that you aren't compatible holiday-wise, but that he particularly won't compromise. Looks like you might be going on your own.

Ditsy4 · 18/07/2016 18:55

What about Jersey, Channel isles or Isles of Scilly?

corythatwas · 18/07/2016 19:15

Your relationship is still very young: you can either make this into a big stumbling stone or start learning ways in which you, in your particular relationship, can compromise and find win-win situations.

Sit down and find out exactly what it is the other person cares deeply about, where they would be willing to accept and equivalent and where they might yield altogether.

How important is it to him that it should be Cornwall or Devon and not something that can offer the same things elsewhere. What is it his ideal holiday place has to offer? Terrorist free? No foreign languages? Not too long to travel? Or something else? Find out what a SW holiday means to him.

Then find out what your foreign holiday means to you. You say, not the same old, but what about things that are not the same old? Do you insist on sunny? Does it have to have pool-type facilities or could you do with more basic? Do you want foreign food? The feel of another country? Does it have to be easy entertainment or could you make it entertaining by just looking at things that are different?

Sunnymeg · 18/07/2016 20:19

We live in Somerset and DH has family in Totnes , who we never visit in the summer by car as there is just too much traffic to make it enjoyable.

Could you consider Dorset? We have enjoyed many lovely holidays there and find it has more to offer sightseeing wise than Cornwall or Devon. Look at somewhere like Wareham or Blandford Forum. There is lots to do close by.

marblestatue · 18/07/2016 20:53

Does he like the sound of anywhere else in the UK? The Lake District, Brighton, Jersey, Norfolk, Peak District, the New Forest?

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