My daughter is 16 and has left school. She has dyed her hair before, there is usually a little mess but I moan and she clears it up. The other day I came home and our newly-decorated (white) bathroom was covered in dark brown hair dye. I mean covered. White bath, white sink, white tiles, white walls, white floor, white cabinet, white wall rack, white towels dumped on floor... all covered. Hair dye bottles on sink, floor, dirty gloves on floor... I was very upset.
I don't know if I overreacted. I have bipolar disorder which is made worse by pregnancy hormones. I'm also having a horrible pregnancy which is getting me down no end. But she got an earful. When I demanded she go and clear it up, she said "I have, there's nothing more I can do". I was gobsmacked by her attitude. She eventually went and tidied up a bit more, but basically the floor needs replacing, the walls need repainting, the cabinet, towels and wall rack are ruined and I've tried bleaching the crap out of the rest, all to no avail as she'd left it on there for so long.
After calming down (which I confess took some time, despite me usually being very calm), I asked her very nicely when she was getting paid (she works one day a week) as we are skint and I needed to redo some things in the bathroom. I said not to worry about the extras that I had bought but that the foundations must be made good (we don't own our house).
I don't know now if I've been unfairly harsh. Like I mentioned, hormones and illness have a way of skewing my perspective. I feel tremendously guilty. My dd is lovely, if terminally lazy and sometimes stupendously thoughtless :/ I did have a right go at her when I found it, even swore at her. Very unlike me. Maybe asking forayment was a bridge too far? Or just teaching her to be responsible?
HALP