Things you have been bullied or ridiculed about

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My dc is starting school soon and has inherited my wild, curly hair. I'm worried she will be bullied like I was.

Having curls has made me feel ugly and ashamed all my life. I was called names and even had my hair yanked. I was called ugly. All because my hair didn't lie straight. I really hope things have moved on a dc won't go through the same thing.

So I guess I want to know what things you have been picked on about as a child or even now, as these things make you feel
Inferior, things can deeply hurt for years.How did you regain confidence?

Reading through the more recent posts on here have reminded me - I used to suffer from appalling period pains, but I was taught that you didn't show it, you just soldiered on. I remember standing in one classroom talking to the teacher with my hands fisted on my hips (they were actually pressing on my stomach, but I'd learned how to do it discreetly), and the teacher drawing attention to it and having a good laugh at the way I was standing.

And then I went to university. The one I went to was predominantly engineering, so female students were outnumbered by male ones by quite a lot, and having grown up in a quiet village where the only male of my generation I saw regularly was my brother and going to an all-girls grammar school, I became a bit "lad mad"...so rather than have a quiet word, my housemates reacted by "sending me to coventry". It was the first time I'd lived away from home for any length of time, so it hurt. A lot.

Being flat chested, being the new girl, having glasses, having blonde hair until I dyed it then was bullied for dying my hair and for being a "goth", then got bullied by the goths with rich parents because I didn't have all the "branded" goth clothing/shoes and then for being taken into care.

I was bullied horrendously in school to the point I was removed by CAMHS and sent to a CAMHS school as it had left me with an eating disorder and severe anxiety.

The bullies spat on me, pushed my down stairs, into dog shit, burgled my house, stole my stuff, told me to go and kill myself and made up rumours that I'd raped someone.

School was fucking shit for me, ironically all the bullies are either in prison, dead end jobs with loads of out of control children or calling me hun whilst trying to sell me aloe Vera shit. I'm going to make sure my DD grows up being tolerant and kind towards others and stands up against bullies.

op my DD has gorgeous curly hair it seems to be the in thing at the moment so I wouldn't worry.

I got mildly bullied for being quiet and "posh". Im not posh, I just dont have a very broad Yorkshire accent (it is an accent but not very broad, if you see what I mean), and I liked reading. It was worse at high school.
My sister got bullied because she has red, curly hair and is left handed. The bullying was fairly mild.
Compared to some kids at my school it was very mild, I remember one boy who was mercilessly bullied by a group of older boys at school.
I would say I was bullied in my first job, as a sales assistant in a high street shop. The manager (female), and her cronies were a set of bitches. All very subtle, but lots of put downs and snide comments. Id never come across anything like that before and it made my life a misery at first. Ive come across people like that since, but now I just blank them. Ive development a good, cold "couldn't give a fuck" face, which seems to work with this kind of person.

Being Fat
Being Ugly
Having a "Square head".
Having Eczema
Breathing loudly
Having the temerity to have a crush on one of the popular boys - who did I think I was...!!

Not as long a list as many other people, but the bullying for being fat and ugly has completely devastated me all my life.

Being fat/heavy
Being clever
Sticky out ears

Still a bit fat, still have the ears and don't care. Still a bit clever but not nearly as clever as I was, ( big pond now - I'm average)!

Later - being difficult, (ie a stickler for fairness/the rules) - but that was really a power game and I lost. (Too much money at stake)

I have a congenital hip condition and walk with my feet turned in. I got called awful names. The only cute was an operation that may paralyse me. I hated school.

Having glasses, being clever, being shy, not having the latest brands (parents skint, & doing their best by prioritising food & a roof over our heads), playing the violin & flute.
My school had a real mixture of people, but I was the only one in my class (honestly) who wanted to work hard.
I ended up going off the rails at about 14-15, smoking, drinking, sleeping around a bit. Still got into Uni, but dropped out after failing 1st year (see drinking) - I was borderline alcoholic by 19 . My poor parents had no clue.
If I'd not dropped out, I wouldn't have met DH & had our DC, every cloud etc.
Massive downside still (I'm 34) is that I struggle to make friends, I have very little self confidence & im painfully quiet & shy in group situations. Thankfully my family accept me like this as they know the background & DHs family seem to like me ok.

Also, I very rarely drink alcohol now which can't be bad.

Unfortunately, for being short...

Being a 'swot'
Big boobs
Not having the right trainers/bag etc
Being friends with a girl with learning difficulties
Being a 'lesbian'
Grey school shirts (parent crap at laundry)