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AIBU to wear yellow to a wedding?

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cfje · 11/07/2016 07:57

I'm going to a wedding this week and wanted to wear a new yellow dress to it (with a shawl, nude clutch and shoes etc, pearls).

I was looking for accessories ideas and went down the internet rabbit hole and ended up on a thread where some people were saying you shouldn't wear red to a wedding as you'll stand out in all the wedding photos.

Well, surely yellow would stand out too. It hadn't really occurred to me as yellow is such a happy, sunshiney, summery colour that I thought it would suit. All views most welcome!

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sharknad0 · 11/07/2016 08:28

I wasn't aware you couldn't wear red or yellow to a wedding in our countries (different when you go to a Chinese wedding or others for example). I have seen numerous guests with bright colours, its lovely.

Plain white (beige, ivory, cream etc) are still very rude, even if they are obviously not a bridal gown.

Nowadays, black is even accepted, thankfully. The rule is mainly that you don't upstage the bride. Remember Liz Hurley flashing her boobs and animal print underwear at a wedding? wrong. The colour of her dress was fine however she just needed a bigger size, and a safety pin

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MumOnACornishFarm · 11/07/2016 08:35

I couldn't wear yellow as it drains me, but I say go for it! I'm sure it's gorgeous. A friend wore a bright yellow chiffon dress to a wedding as she looked knock out. I've worn loads of bright dresses to weddings, including red, and I've never felt that it was a mistake. And I've seen people wear white and it didn't appear to be a problem.

I would quite like to see Koala's massive red hat.

DowntonDiva · 11/07/2016 08:36

Yellow sounds lovely! Go for it!

MrsKoala · 11/07/2016 08:36

We had an invitation to a wedding once where they specified what colours were allowed, different for men and women. It was hilarious. (Red wasn't on it, maybe they remembered me at the previous wedding and thought they would get ahead of it). It was pale pink, pale yellow, pale green for ladies and pale blue, cream and pale green for men iirc. The invitation was an a4 instruction manual. They said they wanted a 'soft country feel'. We didn't go.

I also wore bright red to my own wedding. But considering i was recently divorced and carrying a 3 month old baby i just thought 'let's go with it!'

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 11/07/2016 08:40

Well I know of at least two weddings were parents , siblings and neices and nieces of the bride and groom we ASKED to wear WHITE. So even wearing white isn't always rude!

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cfje · 11/07/2016 08:42

MrsKoala wow that sounds prescriptive. Pastels really don't suit me and I don't own any (I like black, white, bright primary colours) so that would have been tricky...!

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Roussette · 11/07/2016 08:42

I wouldn't be going to that wedding MrsKoala either. How ridiculous to stipulate the colours to wear. I look absolutely awful and washed out in pastel shades so would not be complying, sod that!

SteviebunsBottrittrundle · 11/07/2016 08:44

Koala how funny some people can be when they are getting married! Someone I know specified no pastels at her wedding as her wedding dress was a sort of pinkish champagne colour. My sister wore a pale coral anyway and I don't think the bride has forgiven her yet!

Ditsy4 · 11/07/2016 08:45

I would have gone just to see if anyone broke the rules!
Ha ha! Never heard of that before.
At my sister's wedding her new MIL wore the exact same colour as my youngest sister who was bridesmaid. She knew beforehand! She continued to be a nightmare. Sis is now divorced. Turned out son was a lazy nightmare.

Flyingfruit · 11/07/2016 08:47

Ooh yellow is my favourite... Can we have a link to the dress?

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 11/07/2016 08:48

Jeez I wore a white suit to a (church) wedding. No-one arrested me.

Ditsy4 · 11/07/2016 08:49

Oops I moved.
Meant to add yellow sounds lovely for a summer wedding. Enjoy.

Clarabell33 · 11/07/2016 08:57

It sounds lovely but a word of caution - if it's summer and you're outside much, you risk attracting all the insects in the vicinity! My cousin had different coloured bridesmaids and the yellow one was covered in flies, so much that they show up in some of the photos! Was right by a river so perhaps more insects than other venues... So perhaps a dab of deet to fend them off, just in case. Wouldn't stop me wearing yellow otherwise though

Scribblegirl · 11/07/2016 08:58

One of my friends wore a gorgeous bright yellow dress to a wedding we were at a couple of weekends ago. She looked fantastic. The only problem she had was that the wedding took place in a field and the yellow seemed to attract a lot of bugs!!

IMO as long as you're not in anything obviously bridal you're fine. I tend to check what colour the bridesmaids will be in, so I don't wind up looking like I'm trying to be one (!!) but that's mostly my own daft paranoia.

Enjoy wearing your dress!

sharknad0 · 11/07/2016 08:58

Obviously when the bride asks you to wear a certain colour, it's not rude.
Some brides wear red (or black or whatever) for a winter wedding, that's not wrong either.

I have also been invited to a beach wedding where the dress code was white. It's was a lovely day.

No-one will arrest you for wearing white, it's just unnecessary and rude unless told otherwise. Why can't you make an effort for somebody's wedding day? People might be too polite to say anything, but it doesn't mean they are not judging you.The wedding day is not about you, you know.

Scribblegirl · 11/07/2016 08:59

X-post Clara

MumOnACornishFarm · 11/07/2016 09:03

There's no way I would attend a wedding where I was expected to wear a particular colour. They don't sound like much fun. I imagine they would also expect me to not dance naked on the tables. How dull.

Lifeisontheup2 · 11/07/2016 09:16

I got married 26 years ago and can't remember what any of the guests wore, they were dressed, that's all that mattered.
I've got four weddings to go to next year 3 of my nephews and I'll probably wear the same dress to each as I don't often wear dresses so don't want to have to shell out for three outfits I'll probably never wear again.
The fourth wedding is same sex colleagues who are getting married and have specifically said people can wear jeans and flip flops if they want, if you've made the cut then we definitely want you with us and couldn't give a monkeys what you turn up in. My thoughts exactly. Wear what you like and have a great day.

Xenophile · 11/07/2016 09:17

As far as I'm aware the only things you shouldn't go to a wedding in are massive white dresses --unless you're the bride, and often even then== and your birthday suit.

Yellow would be lovely, you're very lucky to be able to carry it off without looking like you have a liver complaint, I am rather jealous.

Solina · 11/07/2016 09:17

I think as long as it isnt all white, all black or revealing it is fine.
I once went to a wedding where one of the guests was wearing a white, very short and tight dress and she had glitter on her body as well. I felt quite judgey that time. She was an evening guest though as not close with the couple. Maybe she was heading to a club after, who knows.

But yeah if it is a yellow and fairly smart I would say go for it.

Queenbean · 11/07/2016 09:17

Scribble and Clara, was it the same wedding?!

MrsKoala · 11/07/2016 09:19

We read the invitation 'pack' with these and faces. Poor dh they were his really good friends.

As for the massive red hat. I packed 2 titfers for the occasion. One was a red clipped to the hair piece which had these red flowers/feathers orbiting it on red wires. But dh said that was too ott (spoilsport) and that the wide brimmed huge red hat was more subtle

Can you do a link to the dress op? I love yellow and there are loads out this season I can't wear as pregnant :(

treaclesoda · 11/07/2016 09:29

I'm impressed at being able to find out in advance what colour the bridesmaids are wearing. All the weddings I have attended, the colour of the bridesmaids dresses have been treated as a secret on a par with something covered by the official secrets act.

Clarabell33 · 11/07/2016 09:30

Scribble
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Queen*, my cousin's wedding was 3 years ago... So probably not But def get some insect repellent OP!

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