Dh holiday underpacking

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Aibu that Dh on a 10 day sailing flotilla and city break holiday needs to take more than 2 pairs of shorts &
4 t shits. He had packed his minuscule bag with no consideration of the rest of the stuff that needs taking ie small travel beach towels, sun cream, shampoo etc. I know we are sailing and space is at a minimum but he's now arguing with me that I think he needs a bigger bag. He has no smart clothes for evenings out. We are staying on after sailing for 3 nights in city. It's the same every holiday we take. I'm not an over packer, I've 2 dresses, 1 skirt and 3 shorts plus a variety of tops, deck shoes, flip flops and one pair of nicer shoes.

Ah, fond memories of the time DH and I went to a festival and he'd been gloating all the way about how he'd managed to pack so light, and particularly about his much smaller, lighter and therefore better sleeping bag. I'm not big and was struggling with my overstuffed rucksack and the TENT while he strode ahead.

Got the last laugh later on when we went to bed and discovered the reason his sleeping bag was so compact was that it was a child's one. He's well over 6ft tall, it barely came up to his waist . He had to sleep with a jumper on, no way was I swapping with Gloatius Maximus.

He'd forgotten other stuff too but that was the item that made him a lot more careful in his packing in future.

topseyt you could be my mum. My dad is just like that. A week in Greece and 3 pairs of going out shoes, 8 formal shirts, 2 jumpers, 12 pairs of pants, 12 pairs of socks. The villa had a washing machine.

He moaned the whole way to the airport about how heavy his case was. And we just laughed.

Of course OP can still go out in the evening, DH will just have to go underdressed??

I'm with perfectlyon this one .Of course if you then do leave anything out-the shaving adaptor I forgot one year -it's your fault (I cracked after 3 days of DH and non -designer scuffy stubble and we bought one)
Once took a very large suitcase each on a family holiday to Italy .DH just couldnt 'get'that daughters and I wanted to wear all the nice summer clothes you don't get the chance to wear in UK .And no I wasnt going to wash out anyone's underwear

No windproof jacket? sunglasses? jumper for evenings or something with sleeves for mozzys?
Let him be. he will either regret it, or not...
However, You do not pack his razor, phone adapter, shower gel, reading glasses, camera ...

My DH is the exact opposite. I remember the year fondly we were packing before a long haul holiday and he got all his stuff out in the bed - he had 30 pairs of trainer liners and socks he was about to stuff in...wouldn't have been so bad but we were off to California for a fortnight!

The first time I went on holiday with DH,me had been together for about six months and we were island hopping in Greece. We found somewhere to stay the first night and DH unpacked 8 pairs of black socks, one pair of pants, one pair of shorts and one t-shirt, no swimming trunks, no flip flops/beach shoes - for a fortnight. We had to go shopping.

I too am a light packer, 30 litre rucksack for a fortnight pre-DCs, but its about packing the right things.

He just can't pack, has a blank there and just panics and shoves anythingw in (I kind of get it as I have the same sort of blank about looking for anything, I just cannot do it, ditto packing to move). I just help him out with it now and he does other holiday chores.

I write lists. Note down everything I think we will need (14 X pants, 5 X T shirts, 5 X shorts....toothbrush, toothpaste, shower gel...etc) for each person. Hand that person their list and tell them that it's up to them if they pack it or not.

DH once didn't take a towel or shoes - I told him to go and buy them because I wasn't sharing (or caring). I also refused to 'share' my heartburn tablets as I only had enough for me.

He soon learned. Even DD gets it now (but I do check her case - she's a kid. DH isn't)

My ex was like that.
took with him one t-shirt for a solo week's skiing in Andorra.
then rang me a panic from Andorra when he realised.
i left him to it. still not quite sure what he expected me to do for him what with me all the way over in the UK.
just another symptom of an incompetent male.

Btw the way to stop them just using your stuff is, where possible, to keep it locked in your case.

I relise this makes me a caaah but my DBro was the worst for this sort of stuff when we were holidaying as teens and I just made sure that everything was inaccessible to him. He would use and wear anything if it wasn't packed away. Even other people's pants.

My ex used to do this, but with a slight variation. He'd take just one change of clothes, no towel, toiletries or suncream, but always remembered to pack at least 20 books to read (no exaggeration - if ever a man needed a Kindle it's him). Including textbooks he'd never got round to reading at uni years before.

We always got stopped and searched due to his 'unusual' packing habits. And he never read more than 3 pages whilst away as he was generally too drunk to read!

I take everything but the kitchen sink (unless traveling hand luggage only, in which case I take old underwear and nightwear I then chuck and very small containers of everything.,travel towels etc )But I hate having to go shopping on holiday and the one thing you do leave out will sure as hell be the one thing you need
I have A List .

Dh does this! And to everybody saying he's an adult and can make / suffer his own choices, it doesn't work like that!!!! The entire holiday then gets taken up with 'have WE got any sunscreen/ toothpaste/ shampoo / water'. 'Can I just put my x,y and z in YOUR backpack' 'Oh, I forgot to pack my jumper/ raincoat/ sunhat', can we just change all our plans and go shopping'. 'Climbing a mountain in my city shoes has hurt my knee'. 'There's a dress code and I don't have any trousers'.
Tell this guy to use some common sense and pack what he needs!!

My DH gloats at his lightweight packing, but every day will ask me for something he hasn't packed - suncream, antihistamines, cotton buds, shampoo...

Last time, after me checking whether he wanted me to pack his swim stuff with mine and the children's (he didn't) he was outraged that he didn't have a swim towel.

Bran, yes, we laugh too.

These are always the men too who seem to moan about how many clothes women seem to need.

In our house it is the opposite way around. DH has so many clothes that they won't all fit into his wardrobe or chest of drawers so they sit in a heap on top. Same when he travels.

I enjoy the ease of getting through the the airport with my small cabin case. I have never run out on holiday and spend minimal time washing them out. Places we go have always had washing machines.

Laiste, we did the opposite of that... Went to Chicago in October, took jumpers etc. Freak heatwave! Ended up having to buy extra T-shirts. We ditched some outerwear there just to be able to pack our new clothes.

But thanks to this thread I've just realised I might need to pick up a wee bottle of sun cream.

I am planning on going travelling across America with just hand luggage though.

I'm always intrigued by the 'my bag, his bag' thing; especially when flying. Chez Rock everyone puts out what they want to take on the spare bed and then it's all divvied up between the bags. If we're doing a mix of beach/casual and dressy stuff then those are also split as far as possible (eg 1 set of swimming togs per person in each bag). That way if not all the bags make it, everyone has at least some clothes rather than one poor fucker having nothing and having to shop whilst everyone else has all their clothes.

Similarly apart from toothbrushes, contact lens stuff and my make up all toiletries are 'communal' ie sun cream, shampoo, shower gel etc.

have WE got any sunscreen/ toothpaste/ shampoo / water

I have. What about you?

Can I just put my x,y and z in YOUR backpack

Only if YOU carry it

Oh, I forgot to pack my jumper/ raincoat/ sunhat', can we just change all our plans and go shopping

You go shopping love, I'll see you when you get back.

Climbing a mountain in my city shoes has hurt my knee

That's a shame love. Hope it feels better soon.

There's a dress code and I don't have any trousers'

Oh dear. What are you going to do about that?

Actually the best way to deal for me was the day I said "I'm supposed to be your lover, not your mother. Babying you means I just can't imagine having sex with you. It would be too weird and makes me feel a bit sick. I like real men"

Funnily enough, he stopped expecting me to wipe his arse for him then.

I have the opposite problem. Before we go anywhere I have to suffer the fashion parade of all the holiday clothes, are they still ok? How many socks, pants, smart shirts...

I just bung stuff in a bag.

Apart from the sun cream, just pack enough for you and let him sort himself out.

We stayed in a five star hotel recently. Only for 2 nights.
I had packed a naice holdall fit for purpose.
DH on the other hand only needed a few bits apparently so was gonna use a Tesco bag for life
I told him I could not walk into that hotel with him holding a Tesco carrier ala Roy Cropper

The only way he will learn is if he needs to go shopping for clothes whilst away - especially if he hates clothes shopping. Hopefully he will consider it a waste of holiday time. And you can remind him of that next holiday. I would say let him learn (hopefully).

Underpacking is the way to go.

Just remembered the time I forgot my dress for a wedding. I had to wear a trouser suit lent by a 70 yr old aunt.

In afraid we're going to need to see photographs from that wedding Summer

I feel unclean thinking about the smell of clothes worn for several days.