to not want to eat 2 meals mixed together

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I'm almost sure ianbu! Dh is big on eating together as a family. Which is great. So yesterday I made pasta for lunch. Big plate in the middle of the table for people to help themselves to. But I had realised there wasn't enough pasta for all of us, so I thought dh and the kids could eat that, and I got a 1 portion sized bowl of leftover biryani from yesterday to eat. I didn't offer that to anyone else as dh doesn't like leftovers and I know the kids prefer pasta. Then before I could stop him dh took the bowl of biryani and mixed it into the pasta!!! So that we were 'all eating together'. O wad fuming, they were both nice home cooked meals, and now both ruined! Dh and kids are the weird mixture while I sat stony faced. I had a sandwich later. Dh can't see the problem and thinks I am just picking arguments. Surtly ianbu?!

I don't understand how a mixed in biryani suddenly made the pasta go further. I know it's more food, but surely the volume of rice and sauce dispersed throughout the bowl of pasta would have been negligible

But the pp hasn't returned to comment anyway

sounds rubbish

there should at least have been a discussion imo

I'm not saying he is evil or it was abuse, but he is definitely a twat. That's not a normal thing to do. It's overbearing and rude to interfere when another person has spent time cooking you a meal and I would have been really pissed off had he ruined the nice food I'd just prepared for the family without any input from him. They could have all had a bit of each on the same plate if anyone really wanted to. But I doubt they would have chosen to do that. Hopefully he won't do it again.

Did you tell him how you feel about what he did? What did he say?

I don't quite see the problem with eating the curry and pasta together.....unless your pasta was flavoured with something strong like pesto?

However, what would have been more sensible, was if your DH had simply served himself curry and pasta onto his plate rather than mixing the bowls together.

Do you often put basmati rice into your pasta dishes?

Nope but looking at how people are moaning makes me feel sad that there are so many people who would be grateful for rice and pasta in one bowl.

" he just did it without thinking "

What, take a bowl away from someone & mix the contents in with a different meal?

I've accidentally not made enough before.

So I say "OK, you lot eat that & I'll have something else"

Why in the world someone would think that that means taking someone's meal off them & mixing it into evertyone elses!

That's not the point here. It's irrelevant. It's ok not to personally want to eat biriyani and tomato pasta mixed together without having to flagellate oneself over it as other people don't have enough to eat.

The husband ruined the food the OP had prepared so that the OP didn't want to eat it. It's perfectly reasonable for her to be pissed off.

Yes the point I was annoyed about was that I felt both meals were ruined, and also that it wasn't fair to do that without considering whether everyone else there would be happy to eat it.
DH is not want to admit verbally to his mistakes, but neither of us tend to hang on arguments so its forgotten today (except from on here ). He's cooking today, I'm tempted to our the half tin of tomato soup that's in the fridge over whatever he cooks (but I won't).
Verbena37, that's a very good point, we were lucky to have enough food to eat at least.

our = pour

Pasta and biryani sounds like an OK mix to me so not sure I understand the trauma about it - perhaps your DH also thought it sounded like an ok thing to eat and so mixed them up.

YADNBU. He should've asked or at least said what he was doing.

By the way, did you make that Briyani, OP. Do you have a recipe for it?

I don't think sitting there stony faced was OTT.

I think it was very much BTT (beneath the top)! If DH took my lovely biriyani leftovers from me to ruin, sitting there quietly fuming is the least of what I'd do.