to not want to do self-catering holidays every time?

[MotherofPearl]

DP and I have opposing views on this. He has what I regard as an irrational hatred of hotels (says he doesn't like being around 'all the other people in hotels' ). Also says he doesn't like being cramped in with the DC (we have 3). I think interconnected rooms solves the latter problem, and feel quite strongly that self-catering holidays aren't really a break for me! Although we share the cooking, I end up doing most of the other stuff (laundry, making beds, general cleaning up).
I'd just like it if sometimes we could opt for a hotel, and someone else could think of the meals, make the beds, and supply the clean towels! All-inclusive is something I can only dream of! And it's not a money issue; I've asked him about that. So, AIBU to desperately hanker for a hotel holiday?

We have 3 teens and go all inc when abroad - the weather is nice and we spend all our time outside and just shower and sleep in our connecting rooms

Having a lovely self catering holiday. Dishwasher, made up bed, no kids.

Don't mind self catering like this but have been in ones where I have had to wash up, no shower, grim.

Like hotel but prefer to have own facilities

Self catering sounds lovely for your DH, he gets all the benefits of that, with you running around providing maid service.

Have you explained to him that you don't feel that SC holidays are a break for you? What does he say to that?

I'd suggest you tell him that from now on you'll be taking it in turns to choose your preferred holiday - and on your next self catering holiday you do absolutely nothing - his preference so he can do it all.

I'm a SC person. I love going out to eat, eating local food, having a bbq, eating when I want to, having breakfast in my PJ'S on the sofa/terrace....

The idea of having to get up and dressed and down and to a restaurant for breakfast is not a holiday for me. We like lazy mornings. Cup of tea and toast/croissants/ pastry in PJs first thing when DS wakes up then perhaps a late breakfast/ brunch later. Lunch at a cafe, pub or restaurant or a picnic when out and about for the day. Usually give DS an early tea either out while we're having a drink or something simple back at accommodation. Then put him to bed and we'll have grown up dinner once he's asleep. Some nice locally bought delicacy or bbq or something lazy whatever mood were in.

A nice living area for us to eat when DS is in bed and outdoor space like a big terrace or garden and BBQ is a must, idealt with a view to spend our evenings. In the UK a log burner or stove is great too.

Been half board and AI and just found it so boring and resented having to eat in same restaurant all the time and nit getting out to try lovely looking local places. The idea of sharing a room with DS isn't a holiday. What do you do when they're in bed? Sit on the bed and whisper?

It needs have a separate room to put him to bed then we can sit and drink wine and eat a long lazy dinner, play cards, listen to music and watch world go by/ feed the fire with logs etc.

Royal dragon hotel in side turkey. Fab all inclusive and interconnected rooms. Bliss. I made the mistake of a villa this year.. never again....

Always self catering! Love it. I don't do everything, I'm not the only person on holiday! It gets shared out and we either eat out or have food that requires little cooking. Couldn't bear being holed up in just one room.

Plus as grumppy says coffee in pyjamas outside, then wine when the kiddies are in bed! Bliss

We go self catering. I make sandwichy lunch, he clears up. Evenings we eat out. Im on holiday too!
No bed naking.... Fling the duvet back to air, easy to get back in.

Serviced appartments are nice too.

If its not a money thing you should take turns

It doesn't really matter whether other posters like self catering or hotels or whatever best.

The OP likes to stay in a hotel best. Her DH likes to stay in self catering accommodation best. And from the sound of it, they usually end up in self catering every year.

If it was fair they would end up in a hotel one year, and self catering the next (albeit one where the OP's DH does all his fair share of whatever chores are deemed necessary!). The issue seems to be that the OP doesn't ever seem to get her choice of holiday, they always end up doing what her DH wants to do.

Glad to hear that your dh is beginning to contemplate serviced apartments. But just wondering how he can justify always getting his choice and you never getting yours?

Thanks Confuugled, that's just it! We've been together for 13 years and always done SC, but this has only become a major issue for me over the last couple of years as we now have 3 DC and so I find SC increasingly hard work and less and less of a holiday, for all the reasons Pearlylum gives.
On the plus side, I have shown DP the thread and he has agreed that we can give AI a go for our next holiday (next year; too late for this year as we've booked already). I'm banking on it being really great and winning him over for good! Will certainly be checking out the many helpful suggestions on this thread: thanks all!