to not want to do self-catering holidays every time?

[MotherofPearl]

DP and I have opposing views on this. He has what I regard as an irrational hatred of hotels (says he doesn't like being around 'all the other people in hotels' ). Also says he doesn't like being cramped in with the DC (we have 3). I think interconnected rooms solves the latter problem, and feel quite strongly that self-catering holidays aren't really a break for me! Although we share the cooking, I end up doing most of the other stuff (laundry, making beds, general cleaning up).
I'd just like it if sometimes we could opt for a hotel, and someone else could think of the meals, make the beds, and supply the clean towels! All-inclusive is something I can only dream of! And it's not a money issue; I've asked him about that. So, AIBU to desperately hanker for a hotel holiday?

I'm also with your DH. I loathe being around loads of other people and hate staying in hotels for longer than two nights.

I much prefer SC, but yep, he's got to muck in more.

There are plenty of compromises, if you're willing to look around. This hotel in portugal has villas which are self catering, but there's an onsite fabulous restaurant. It's quiet but stunning. Loads of other options out there, have a chat with somewhere like James Villas and ask.
Or go fully self catering but near somewhere with loads of restaurants and agree all meals other than breakfast will be eaten out. Chores will be shared and you get at least 1 full day off!

Room service would get you around the problem of being around 'other people' at mealtimes. I can't see the point of going on holiday if it isn't a proper break from cooking and cleaning for you.

We do serviced apartments with pub meals, takeaways and ready meals.

Relaxing, but minimal effort.

No YANBU. I bloody hate self catering. Even a pizza in the oven means thinking about what to cook, going to supermarket to get it, putting it in oven (not taxing) but then cleaning up plates, glasses cutlery. I do that every day of every week and I don't want to do it on holiday. H would help clean up but it'd still be me who does most of it.

I like the idea of the Pierre De Vacances set up - last year we had an apartment on a complex for one week (with a private pool so we did the skinny dipping and drinking once the kids were in bed as mentioned above) and then the 2nd week we went into a hotel - got quite a large family room which was split level with large terrace, so sat and had a drink there at night. It worked really well.

We've only ever done self-catering. I have to admit to taking sleeping bags for the beds though, and we eat lots of easy (packet & tins) foods that we wouldn't eat at home.

If you can stand a caravan, Haven make the beds up for you, and they seem to have lots of places to eat on site too, from what my recent investigations show anyway.

Why are you doing housework on holiday? 😳 Bed making, hoovering, mopping, why?
Why not just eat breakfast in the s.c then eat out for dinner?
If you've got kids, hotels are not much fun, even with interconnecting rooms.
We have done all these, but atm are lucky enough to go all inclusive.
The only drawback to that is loads of other people around you.......but you don't have to lift a finger and there's loads to keep the kids out of your hair if you like.

We always go self catering. Like your DH I hate the thought of a hotel, I don't like being round loads of people and I like space. All inclusive hotels are my worst nightmare holidays.

Saying that I never cook, clean or anything else. We eat out every night and someone comes in to clean. We have breakfast in and fill the fridge with drinks and snacks and that's it

You don't have to cook if you go self catering. I would suggest letting him choose somewhere self catering but tell him you are not going to cook as it;s your holiday too.

How about a 2 bedroom family suite on one of the big cruise ships? Lots of people but they are so huge there's always somewhere quiet. Lots of eating options including room service if you don't want to say in a big restaurant of buffet.

I love self catering. I get bored with all inclusive eating in the same place the whole holiday I like a change

I don't cook on self catering holidays we go out for dinner somewhere different each night and I don't do washing on holiday it waits until I get home

Cooking, doing washing on holiday What kind of hell is this

We always go self catering even since we had ds. Holiday cottage, hotel, apartment etc but we go out to dinner each night to try out different restaurants rather than cook and I've never done washing on holiday.

We don't do any laundry, making beds or any more general tidying up than we would in a hotel room.

But then we don't clean our house more than weekly really at home (except picking up after ourselves). I guess if you go for two weeks you might need to clean the bathroom mid holiday.

I like the space of SC, I dislike living in 1/2 rooms, tiny balcony/terrace, having to leave the room for most of the day & having to dress properly for breakfast.

We sometimes rent villas or apartments but I don't do any cleaning or cooking or bed making. We do make breakfast (cereal) and sometimes lunch if we're not out (fresh bread, cold meat/cheese, toms, cuce, crisps bunged on the table, fruit/yoghurt/ice cream for dessert) & we eat out every night without fail, with the exception of the odd takeaway. We make cups of tea & wine & nibbles.
No cleaning is needed, you are paying for that to be done!

I don't cook or clean on holiday
I love a hotel / all inclusive type holiday though
A compromise would be a villa on a complex with restaurants , take away , bars etc and a cleaning service ?

Just a quick disclaimer: I certainly don't do 'full' housework on a self-catering holiday! A bit of basic food prep, some meals, and general tidying up (can't relax in total chaos). If it's for 2 weeks I'd do the bathroom, and put on a couple of washes if we're running low on clean clothes. But even this minimal stuff is more than I want to do when on holiday.

HP, that place in Portugal looks amazing! Am going to show it to DP.

It is amazing! We stayed in this one which was even better than the photos. The pool isn't heated but the kids didn't mind even in spring. It is quiet, not her kids around, so depends what you're after. Easy drive to Seville and loads of other interesting places. Nice beaches not too far too. Had a great holiday.

Oh and daily housekeeping too - no washing up!

Self catering is not a holiday, and i would rather not go.

We like our privacy too, so have always gone to all inclusive resorts with villa style accommodation.
It needn't be expensive. Many resorts in Greece and Turkey have switched to AI but still have self catering accommodation, so large rooms, outdoor space, at least a fridge, often a small kitchen.

Hotel holidays are my idea of hell so I get where your DH is coming from. Luckily my DH hates them too, but as you and your DH have different ideas, it seems unfair that he wouldn't at least try it out. Can you not do it once, then agree to a different arrangement next time (like the many compromises suggested) if he doesn't like it? He doesn't know if he hasn't tried it.

We always self cater as we prefer having a fridge. Breakfast is croissants etc, lunch bread, cheese ham and olives and we eat dinner out. We tend to go to Tenerife so we find a supermarket the first day and fill the fridge with beer wine and cheeses.

The apartments are cleaned daily so all we have to do is wash up the few glasses and plates we've used.

Even eating out every day on self catering means a certain amount of work.
Breakfasts, snacks and drinks ( especially as it's hot) have to be bought from shops. Rooms have to be cleared and rubbish taken out. A certain amount of dishes and glasses have to be washed.
Usually in self catering your room is not cleaned every day/ fresh towels/floor and bathroom cleaned.

With AI you are not chained to the hotel. We eat out one meal most days, but what I love is the convenience of food and drink available around the clock, with food, snacks, drinks, coffee, ice creams on tap. It;s these incedentals that often add greatly to the holiday cost. All AI hotels I have been to also offer a packed lunch service if you order the night before, so if you go out for the day ( and even plan to have lunch out) you have a supply of snacks and drinks in your packed lunch.

All inclusive with kids is the way for us.

I prefer self-catering for the space that you just don't get in a hotel - but there's virtually no cooking involved (unless we actively want a quiet night in). The money saved by not going to a hotel is spent entirely on eating out. And housework is the absolute bear minimum - but I don't actually mind it as I would at home because the house is different, IYSWIM. There's a novelty value to cleaning it.

Yanbu. I do not go on holiday to cook and clean. Other than the odd UK short break I would always choose a hotel over a self catering property. Interconnecting rooms are great for families or as pp have suggested, some complexes offer self contained villas but with the convenience of maid service and meals.
Some people are suggesting that they don't like being around lots of other people. This doesn't really bother me tbh and I like the fact there are other families with children for my 2 to socialise with.

tibba- all the AI resorts I have been to have had a fridge.

croissants etc, lunch bread, cheese ham and olives

That menu wouldn't cut it with my bunch. DD likes a cooked breakfast and a hot lunch. Bread cheese and ham sounds like a workday lunch at home to me.