To put guests in the attic instead of swapping the rooms around?

[NestJay]

We have 3 bedrooms but the room that used to be the guest room is now an office (crammed with electronic stuff, DH needs access to it for his work project).

DS (10 months) has his own room, with ensuite and double bed. I sleep in with him as he wakes frequently and I'm trying to sleep-train. There's no space in our room for his cot and he hates the travel cot.

We have an attic conversation under the eaves m that's more a storage room. Lots of boxes of stuff and suitcases and I dry washing up there. If I move some boxes I can make space for a double camping mat.

We have guests a lot. When PILs stay I don't mind giving up our bedroom, but I'm fed up of doing this for other guests.

[LadyStarkOfWinterfell]

It's fine, apart from the camping mat idea. You must provide something more comfortable than a camping mat! But the room sounds fine.

[purplefox]

If you're fed up stop having guests.

[LadyStarkOfWinterfell]

Wow. Why would you post an identical thread 2 months later? Weird

[TheAntiBoop]

It's not quite identical as the other thread doesn't have the small bedroom study

[HopelesslydevotedtoGu]

I would be fine sleeping in the attic op, as long as I knew in advance. I would prefer an air bed though. If you have regular guests I recommend getting one.

I would definitely prefer an attic room with air bed over the office. I hate sleeping in rooms full of buzzing computers, and knowing that the host family might need to come in and out my room during the day.

If your baby sleeps better in his own room then I wouldn't move him for guests. My baby was fine moving rooms, but if it had affected her sleep I wouldn't have chosen to move her.

[PanickingwithacapitalP]

I remember this thread too

Sounds like your attic is quite comfortable-surely you could make it into a spare room no still have space for storage ? (Under bed boxes, shelves , ikea type units?). Or just stop having guests ?

[NerrSnerr]

Why don't you go in with your son, your husband in the attic and friends in your room?

[paxillin]

I've done worse than duplicate threads when sleep deprived with a toddler. I've done a duplicate shop once, full weekly. Came home dragging the bags up, wanted to put it away but cupboards and fridge were full with an identical shop from 2 days before .

[Mrsboathook]

Having had 2 non sleepers, can I say I think you are being extremely accommodating even contemplating guests, never mind moving the non sleeping child or yourselves. If I was the guest I certainly wouldn't expect you to give me your bed, nor would I expect the baby's room, and would be perfectly happy in the attic room, though I might bring my own blow up bed. Most surprised so many people think yABU!!

[NestJay]

I guess IABU then and the solution is stop having guests.

It's a shame, I like seeing friends and family. But I'm too tired to keep switching rooms around and coping with the resulting muddle and mess!

I was kind of coping you would all say the attic is fine

The mat is inflatable, a sort of double air bed. But not a deep/fancy one. My friend has one where you adjust the air pressure on each half. I would of course provide clean bedding and pillows.

I think I did post about it before (in Relationships) sorry, it disappeared into the fog of sleep deprivation

Thanks for all the advice

[converseandjeans]

YNBU as long as people know in advance. Try getting an aerobed. They are comfy. Perhaps make the room your DS sleeps in more his room e.g. remove the double bed?
However by 10 months they shouldn't really be waking up multiple times a night or needing you to go in constantly.
It would be easier to resolve that issue if you didn't constantly have visitors. I would be worn out if I was up in the night as well as hosting visitors.

[PurpleCrazyHorse]

Random guests, say no.

Family & close friends, either tidy up the attic loads and get a decent air bed for them or put DH up there and guests use your room. Or ear plugs for DH and both share DS's room.

We don't have a spare room but have a sofa bed the lounge (currently no curtains in the lounge though and on a busy road!).

[PurpleCrazyHorse]

Oh and feel your pain about waking in the night. DS is 12mo and wakes 3 times a night. His sister woke in the night until 18mo!! She sleeps brilliantly now though.

[PuraVida]

We always put our friends in the attic room. When we stay at friends we sleep variously in cramped offices / attics / living room floors. We're mates, none of us live in large houses, we bed down wherever. We're there to see each other and have fun together, can't see that it matters that they and we aren't able to supply a guest suite. Perhaps we're all still a bit studenty still

[CremeEggThief]

I second the suggestion of using the attic as the office.

[DampSqid]

If it were a mattress in the attic then I'd be absolutely fine with it. It's carpeted, has windows and there is a bathroom so the fact there are boxes around really doesn't matter.

I'd like to stay somewhere where I'm not putting anyone out.

[GreenRut]

We have regular visits from friends / family and depending on the configuration of who's coming we will either give up our bedroom and decamp to floor in dcs room or we bring dcs in with us to sleep on our floor. It's only ever one night and yes doing new sheets is a hassle but you can't invite/ accept a request to stay over and put them among your storage space on a camping mattress. If it doesn't suit you, say no!

[Nuuni]

Why don't you go in with your son, your husband in the attic and friends in your room?

Because it's such a hassle making our room into a guestroom. Changing bedlinen twice, deep cleaning ensuite before and after, moving all our clothes and the things off my dressing table, then realising I need something when they're here and having to knock and ask for it. And I don't like people sleeping in our bed TBH! I scrub down the headboard etc when they leave.

Aerobed was the one I looked at but its £80 minimum and then needs to be stored somewhere.

[Nuuni]

Attic is too small for all the office stuff and hard to run cables up there

[coolaschmoola]

I think the suggestion I would personally go with is to move the double bed to the attic room and buy a single for your ds' room.

It is HIS room, so you shouldn't have to move him out. Likewise I loathe giving up our bed. When ds is bigger he will want play space over a double bed, but he will also need somewhere to sleep, so by getting him a single bed now you are preparing for his next stage and you will also have somewhere to sleep in the interim, but you can still have a prepped and ready to go guest room which would also reduce your stress.

Perhaps put all of the boxes and stuff to one side and screen it off to improve the appearance if you are concerned.

[coolaschmoola]

Fwiw I just couldn't put guests on a floor.

[DeathStare]

I don't think what you are suggesting is unreasonable.

I think the problem is the way you describe it.

You used to have your bedroom, two guest rooms and some room in the attic. You now have your bedroom, your DS's bedroom a study and a guest room in the attic which happens to have some boxes in it.

It has an end suite, it has windows, it is clean, it has an an air bed. It is a guest room. Stop calling it (and thinking of it as) the attic room and remind yourself that it is your guest room now and you have nothing to feel bad about.

[Thomasisintraining]

I don't get why you don't sleep in the spare room and leave your guests in your room. I am sure you are fine with the office electronics. The mattress in the loft is weird so I would say no. Changing 2 beds is not a big deal. Is there some other reason it has all become a but much? Are you in an 'exhaustion' phase with the little one because they do end and maybe hold off a short while for guests until things improve.

[merrymouse]

It sounds as though you have a 4 bedroom house, one bedroom being a loft conversion. The 4th bedroom isn't so much the attic as just full of stuff, and one bedroom is used as a study.

I think coola's suggestion is good, but if you don't want guests, just say no.

[Believeitornot]

Having a guest room is for people with massive houses.

If you don't, then you accept that you have to accommodate them by making temporary changes when they do visit.

When your ds is older, which room will he have?

Why does your dh have his own study?