Turning down a party invitation (age 6)

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DS age 6 has been invited to a Fairy party for a friends birthday. Has been buddies with the little girl since babyhood. I had previously told the party girls mother I thought he would want to go.

Turns out when he got the invite in the post this week he did not fancy it at all. The Fairy part put him right off, he said he'd rather do something different just the two of them.

There is a month before the party and party girl's mum has already said he can be replaced if he doesn't want to come.

I let party girls mum know his suggestion and she says my DS is being really mean.

I thought he was being fairy nuff fair enough as if a friend of mine was having a boozy party for example I'd decline an invitation and suggest something we'd both enjoy a different time, since boozy parties are not my thing.

I have had a shit week for unrelated reasons and can't think straight. WhoIBU?

Thank you sleep I will try that.

Good luck - hopefully she's just feeling a bit sensitive on her child's behalf and will calm down and meet you 2/3 of the way.

Pearlman, how on earth would you get a 6 year old to go happily to a party they did not want to go to? Both mine would have acted up and spoiled the party. At the very best they would have sulked. I agree with the OP that her DS should be allowed to decide. But I would have made an excuse rather than give the real reason. Though I also think the friend is being a bit thin skinned and easily upset. Not all children want to go to every party they are invited to, both my DC's have been picky about parties, though DD was a shoe-in for any soft play party when she was 5/6/7.

My 6 yr old ds would absolutely love a fairy party. He doesn't like Star Wars or Superheros but still goes and takes part in his friends parties because it's about the birthday child isn't it? I do think it's a bit mean to not go because you don't like the fancy dress theme.
That being said he's only 6 and if he doesn't want to go then he doesn't want to go. I can see both points of view.

6 year olds are pretty persuadeable and contrary. I often took my 6 year old to things he'd decided were "boring" or he didn't want to go to and when he got there he saw his friends and started enjoying himself.

That said with OP's later information, I don't think you've done anything wrong.