I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

i think yours are great op i wish i was arty

your friend is a dick how longhave u known her

and like previous pp have said why in the world would you want them back

Honestly, they're really fab.

Your "friend" is a total odd bod for not liking them.

No, our children don't share names, I'm not sure what she thought I'd do with them!

I've known her for 9 months

oh no loss then i wouldnt call that a good friend

this has just shown you what sort of person she is

WillH they really are brilliant! She is,as has been said by so many before me, an ungrateful and incredibly rude woman. To do that for someone you've only known 9 months is so thoughtful. That would be the end of the friendship for me.

Please can we stop referring to women as
Cow
Bitch
Cunt

When they behave badly ?

iminshock You can, but the rest of us are free to think "if the shoe fits".

Agreed Liz09 ...lace that bitch up and wear it

Iminshock Why? If you want women to stand up for each other then women need to stop knocking each over in the first place. If someone acts like a bitch then a bitch they are.

What a very very ungrateful woman. If a friend had gifted me with those letters, it would have took my breath away, honestly would have been so moved that someone had taken the time to do that for me/my child.

Don't waste any more of your time on this spiteful, inconsiderate woman, she's not worth it.

You're a lovely, thoughtful friend and she doesn't deserve you. Beautiful letters, I would have been made up to receive. She's a cow

I think it's fab, I would happily buy the letter from you its my sons initial and he is avengers daft.
A lovely stranger In a car park once gave me a hand painted plaque for a baby boys room, she just said you have a beautiful baby I make these and I'd like you to have this.
When something is handmade and a gift it makes it really special and it's still hanging on my sons wall.

Professional ones? These look professional to me!!

I'm with the stopping the use of cunt just full stop I know many won't agree with me on this site. but bitch and cow well if it barks like a birch or moos like a cow walks like a bitch or cow then let's label it as such wether it's female or male! Just because their women doesn't mean we should be reverent and go oh mustn't be rude, mustn't say what they are

in this case this woman seems nothing to have being rude can't believe you don't think those words are approriote here. She's a rude ungrateful cow! What we can call men a the names under the sun but not women because what their women.

We go on about supporting each other and building each other up and praise and giving each other confidence yet this woman has been unnessaily cruel to another woman, but we shouldn't call her what she is?!
Your letters look beautiful op, forget her, be friends with people who like your creativity and talent!

They look great :)

And she is rude.

As an aside (not an excuse!), I do think such special presents need to fit the friendship type, so maybe she wasn't the right recipient of such a precious and personal gift? Obviously that's with 20:20 hindsight about her and what that might mean for the bond she has with others!

OP I wonder if you should be browsing Etsy and checking out how you could develop your talent further? Fully personalised lettering bespoke fit to complement every child's room would be great. It could become a whole range of personalised styled baby/ child decorations, keep sakes etc?

Your letter is lovely BUT just to check, are the letters she eventual used so bold?

Yours looks a bit "Marvel Comics" which an older child would Love and it's bloody well made, but I wouldn't want it in a babies room. My friend gave me a beautifully painted picture of my DDs name but it's
In really strong dark colours and I just simply don't like it for a baby. So I haven't hung it and hope she never asks.

Just windering if she isn't generally a bitch, could she have just had a different style in mind so out yours to one side so as not to look ungrateful. Then when you called her on it (it would have been polite not to mention it tbh) she stumbled out the first thing that came to mind and is now sat at home thinking "shit why did I say that"

Just coming from an "everyone means well" pov may be totally wrong!

When I saw the letter ''E'' i thought 'that is really well made' and assumed it was the 'professional' one!
It isn't easy to paint stuff like that, and I am shocked at your so called 'friend' for being so appallingly rude.
Yes I would be very upset if I was you, as I cherish the things people make for me.
Don't be downhearted though- those letters are great.

Those letters are gorgeous. I've been looking for something similar so definitely let me know if you start selling them. You are not being over sensitive, don't second guess yourself. Your friend's' behaviour was shocking. Who scrutinises a gift for a perceived imperfection to criticise?! She sounds like someone who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing. A thoughtful handmade present from a friend is worth more than money. Distance yourself from her and stick with friends who appreciate you.

The room is very bright, so it can be used when he gets older. It is Avengers themed, it's very bright. The ones she has are almost the same, but much better painted and do look more detailed.

I know it may have seem rude for me to even mention it, but I suppose it just came out (my fault, I know).

I LOVE them! Please start selling them, you have a real talent :)

Maybe Lou, if I was selling them! However, I'm not.

Even if they were rubbish (which they definitely are NOT) I simply couldn't imagine anyone handing a gift back.....unless she thought you were selling them to her . Even the most mannerless git knows if you get a gift you hate - you smile and say thank you graciously -and hide it away after they have left.

Is she from a different culture (stretching a bit can't think of any culture that doesn't do baby gifts except possibly Klingons)

The bitch in me really hopes someone in your baby group says to the whole group "Did you see that MumsNet post about the rude cow whose friend made her Avengers letters and she threw them back in her face"

So very rude of your 'friend '. I wish I had your talent.

I'm with a previous poster. Even if they were crap, she should be grateful that someone took the time and effort to put some love into a homemade gift.
They're lovely though. She sounds awful. I wouldn't be her friend after this.