I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

I actually think a lot of people are being slightly disingenuous here. We have thread after thread taking the piss out of "Facebook selling glittery shit".

It's a bit different when you're selling it though, isn't it? Gifts handmade specifically for you by someone who cares about you are thoughtful and endearing in a way that stuff some randomer without much skill has knocked together because they think they can make a profit are not.

If you're firmly in the market for some Avengers-themed wooden letters spelling out 'ARDEN', which the friend apparently was, I don't think you're going to find much better than what the OP has done quite frankly.

I'm sitting here typing and looking at a life size porcelain daschund do gifted to me by my MIL. She gave it to me as a birthday gift as she knows I would love the real thing. It is not remotely to my taste but he shall sit here in my living room for a few months and gradually move somewhere less visible until eventually his head is knocked off in a terrible cleaning accident.

There is no excuse for what your friend did, I would go as far as calling it deliberately hurtful

YANBU. For a start, what you have made is beautiful. Secondly, even if it weren't, it was a gift and should have been accepted gracefully.

Can you tell her you sold them for an absolute fortune, way more than she payed for her?

hers*

paid*

I would ten times rather have something like this made for my baby by a loving friend than a stranger. You are a sweetheart, your mate's a bitch.

Monkey please don't murder your porcelain dachshund. Send him to me!!! I will love him and care for him 😀

Wow. Your friend is an arse. Your letter was really nice OP. What a seriously rude thing to do.

I would MUCH prefer a hand made present than some shop bought crap from China. Even if it was a bit rough around the edges.
Note- your letter is NOT rough around the edges. Very nice indeed.

Not at all - I would have been incredibly upset.

Wish I had a thoughtful friend like you OP - none of my friends would ever have done something so thoughtful and lovely x

OP you are lovely, but your mate is a biaaaatchhh.

honestly op are u till going to be friendly with this person

Very very rude and ungrateful friend. What a lovely, thoughtful gift op. Wish I had a friend like you. Chuck it on eBay and get some money for it and buy yourself a nice bottle of wine and sit and enjoy it without her.

YANBU. Your letters are lovely.

It is clear that it takes time and skill to create something like that. I would love it if someone made those for me.

Your friend is rude and ungrateful to be so disparaging about your thoughtful and personal gift.

I think she was rude. Your letters look lovely and competently painted. I'd much rather have something handmade by a friend and would feel embarrassed not to have them on display.

wickedlazy that's an excellent idea. OP shove them on Etsy, and post the link.

There's a saying. With friends like that who needs enemies. I love handmade presents So much nicer than shop brought

Unbelievably ungrateful and rude. I would be chuffed to bits to be given a gift like that. You are obviously a very thoughtful friend

I love what you made! She sounds a really ungrateful and unpleasant "friend"
You on the other hand sound such a lovely thoughtful woman.

No she is very rude indeed. I think you should sell them on EBay or a local FB page and just enjoy the money you get from them. They look great.

Because cow, bitch, cunt , cow bag are misogynistic but go right ahead if that's ok in your world .
You can express your opinion that someone is thoughtless and unkind without resorting to misogyny

iminshock How on earth is calling someone a cow misogynistic?