I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

Yes Oblomov but I'd never dream of returning the gift and telling the giver that I bought a better alternative. So rude.

Spud, I wouldn't either. That was tres rude I agree.
But I still don't like homemade stuff.
Apart from cakes. Obviously.

Op your friend is very rude and ungrateful. The letters you made look lovely please find friends who value you

Your letters are priceless! A gift made with love and care is always worth more. If I were her I would have treasured that gift and smiled every time I saw them. Sorry op, this is your 'friends' problem not yours. You are LOVELY!

wow - I wouldn't want to be friends with her tbh, sounds ghastly. Your letters are lovely OP! A friend made me a gift with me and DH's names on for our weddings - she got his name wrong!! (I was a bit as it was spelt correctly on the wedding invitation I sent her) but I thanked her profusely just the same. Can't belive the rudeness of some people.

How bloody ungrateful, not to mention downright rude. If went to the trouble of making something (especially when the home-made effort was nicer, more individual than shop bought) I'd be a bit pissed off if it was returned. I don't think you're being over sensitive at all.

However bear in mind that as a 'creative, arty maker of things' it isn't always appreciated by the less arty and in future only make things for those who you know would appreciate them.

I'm not a big fan of homemade craft things but that letter is gorgeous. Your friend is a dick.

She's a friend!!!
Get rid.
She's no friend.
Your letters look super and made with love.
How dare she be so rude.

Do an extra G and stick them on your back gate.

Ok then that's me done trying to look on the good side, if hers are similar and yours suit the room then she's really rude!

Can I just slide in here to applaud Springers logical defence!
She's clearly a DC fan, and I don't mean darling children...

Wow they are lovely OP.
I would be so over the moon if someone did this for me/my child. Absolutely gorgeous.
You're very talented.

Your friend is bang out of order and ungrateful doesn't even cover it.

Thing is, I could understand if the gift had been discreetly put to one side.

But it's the obvious way that they were just given back to the OP, that's the bitchy act right there. Just so rude and disrespects the time and effort put into the gift.

So what if there was something wrong with it, gifts should be gracefully accepted.

She's been incredibly rude, especially to your face and to then go and buy almost identical letters just to rub it in.
I think with handmade gifts we take a risk that they won't be appreciated. I knitted a blanket for one friends baby and cross stitched the reading I was asked to give for another friends wedding. Both took a lot of effort on my part because I'm disabled and struggle with the motor skills required to do both these things. Both friends were lovely when I gave them the gifts but have never mentioned them again. I've never seen the blanket used or the framed tapestry displayed. Maybe they're shit and have been packed away, maybe not but at least they weren't rude to me.
So ditch her as much as you can in the circumstances. She doesn't care about you so don't waste any more time or effort on her x

It's absolutely beautiful. I'd have been thrilled if someone had made gorgeous letters like that for DD. What an ungrateful cow.

Next time you see her you should tell her that you have had so much interest in your letters you are now selling them for £X each and having trouble keeping up with the demand.

Seriously, drop her. You don't need charmless, ungrateful, mean-minded, churlish people like her in your life.

Can you imagine if you started up a business making these, became a massive success, all your products became really sort after. Wonder if they'd be to her liking then. She's a fool.

She's a mannerless cow with no social graces whatsoever .

They're really lovely; but even if they actually looked like they were made by a two year old, having them handed back to you is unbelievably gauche.

to the [opster who said havent we all received something we dont like

of course we have! but we dont hand it back saying well i bought professional ones so idont want yours!

*poster

They're brilliant, I wish I could do stuff like that. A handmade gift is so thoughtful and she was a horse's ass to be so rude and ungrateful. Sod her.

Suzy Lucy
I love your comment 'Ditch the bitch'.
Useful for lots of situations

My DS is a huge Avengers fan - particularly of Captain America, Thor and Iron Man. He'd love those. I'd buy them.

They are amazing op. My ds1 is an e and he loves captain America

She is no friend.

No friend would speak to a friend like that and make them fele bad on purpose. It is like she is 14 and being a mean girl in school.

I think your letter is lovely btw.

I was in a similar situation but the recipient was not quite so rude. I made something for someone (trying not to out myself) who said, "That's nice," and seemed pleased with it and put it on display for a week or so.

Then she saw something similar in a shop for 'only a fiver' so she bought it. Told me, "it's not as nice as yours though!" so why buy it then? And this daft bugger wonders why she's never got any money! I said nowt but obviously felt a bit miffed.