AIBU to be terrified?!

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C section tomorrow. First baby, am so terrified, I feel I might faint. Can anyone reassure me?! I'm worried about the operation and that I might not like the baby . Anything I should be doing?

Also, I didn't have that rush of love either, I actually remember being shocked there was a baby (quite what I thought was coming out of there after nine months I don't know!) and secretly thought she was a bit ugly and remember thinking I couldn't let on as DP was crying because she was so gorgeous. She's five months now and is my little sidekick, I love her so much and think she's the worlds most beautiful baby :) So definitely don't panic if you don't get the rush of love as others have said!!

What MerilwenRose said.
I was in shock after having dd. I knew dd had to be protected and looked after at all costs and she was my only priority but it took a while for it all to sink in and call it love.

I remember dd smiling at me for the first time and it was like being hit by a litlghtening bolt. I forgot in the haze of responsibility that this little person actually liked me.

Good luck today OP!

That's a good way of putting it I think - I had a huuuuuuge protective instinct but I wouldn't call it love. When it kicked it it was great though, I genuinely genuinely thought he was the most beautiful baby ever. I felt sorry for all the other babies.

The worst part for me was the waiting. Then the smell of the lunch cart because I didn't have breakfast (wasn't allow to). Then DP tucking into tea and chips in front of me whilst I was waiting for the op.

It's all pretty much chilled out once you're in though. They screen off the operating area, and the babe is out after 10 minutes. Then they close you up. Very routine (think 3 - 4 ops a day) (my son then decided to pee all over the nurses but that's a different story)

You will like the baby. My first baby I was scared that I would forget to feed him. He reminded me. I was also scared I was holding him wrongly, not changing him enough.

He still does remind me to feed him and he's 11!

The weirdest thing for me was the paralysis. I did try and and the Kill Bill mind over matter "wiggle your left toe" but that didn't work!

Honestly please don't fret about it. You'll be ok. And congratulations!

Good luck today.
You will be just fine.
I had my ECS yonks ago.
I had a magic milkshake which made me not care how the operation was going
Enjoy your new baby and congrats.

Good luck today! You'll love the baby, even if you're in shock to begin with! I certainly was, just felt surreal for a couple of days.

Good luck. Enjoy the newborn cuddles it's the best part of being a new mum

It's very common to worry about not liking or loving your baby. That's maternal instinct kicking in already as you want to be a good parent. I never got a huge rush of love that is often spoken of, yet I love my children fiercely and concluded that rush is actually euphoria and joy not love.

Newborn stage is very tiring but you will adjust. It's bloody easier than the trying to walk stage that we are at now! Even back then with the 3 hourly feeds (mine was prem). It was the easy stage.
I didn't get this 'rush of love' people say they get, which I was upset about and thought it was a sign that I wouldn't be a good mum. It was all a bit surreal and wasn't until I was discharged from hospital without my DS that it hit me what had happened and I couldn't stop crying. Then I knew I loved him and he was mine forever.

People come on here when they need to vent or ask for advice, most midwives are lovely and many eople recieve fab post-natal care (I did!) but you are less likely to hear about it!

I didn't have a c section but had a spinal block to repear my tear in theatre, they rolled me in all terrified and shakey but they gave me all sorts of stuff (technical!) and then i was all chilled out and chatting to the nurses.

Congratulations! :)

I've had four.

First EMCS, second EMCS with GA...

Third and fourth planned.

Take flannels... pack lots as when your body regains feelings you will itch like mad... and take vaseline for your nose, it will itch and get sore.
I breastfed all of mine in recovery. They latched perfectly. Take very large cotton pants, get a cheap massive pack from a supermarket as they are much more comfortable than the paper ones. Also think about a nightie and not PJs, much easier to put on.

Spend today planning your music playlist. My last was born to "one day like this"!

And good luck. xxxx

3 CS here, EMCS then 2 ELCS

ELCS were both great, really calm.

Only things I would add to all the advice above:

• dont look up into the lights, they are a great big mirror and might give you more of a view than you had wanted
• take your camera in. We have some lovely pictures from when DC2 was born.

As for recovery, I was back at work full time 6 weeks after DC1, 3 months after DC2 and 4 weeks (yes weeks) after DC3

Good luck, it will be fine.

My sister sounded a bit like this the day before her C-Section when I saw her a few hours later she was the most blessed out person I'd ever seen. She said that her son made her feel absolutely right - that it all fitted together perfectly.

Her C/S was great too and the midwives were fabulous.

You'll be fine. It'll be wonderful. Don't fret.

This is really important.

You might have a huge rush of love. You might not. You might want to cry and run away.

That's OK too.

Took me 4 months to feel that rush of love. Now she's my best friend.

I've had three Caesars too and they've all been fine, recovery great, driving with 5 days of first one (different country) and two weeks after the subsequent ones. It feels a bit nerve-racking walking into the theatre but once it's started its very exciting. (My blood pressure fell in the last two and the anaesthetists are so great and calming and at your end all the time to talk you through it - they said that caesareans are their favourite bit of the day).

I love him already and the procedure was brilliant. Am in a bit of pain now, but on oral morphine. Thanks to all that supported me through last night xx

Hurray! Congratulations.

Congratulations!!!

Keep on top of your pain meds and do what the doctors tell you! I thought I knew best after my section.... But I didn't!

Many many congratulations on becoming a mummy xx

Just remember if it really was awful- no-one would have more than one baby Even people who had less than perfect births go on to have more..

Congratulations!!

Yeah!
So glad it all went well.
Congratulations!

Yay. Congratulations. My two c section were also the best days of my life. Far better than my wedding day even

Yay! Congratulations! Enjoy the drugs

Congratulations OP! I thought my ELCS was fab, was out of hospital less than 48hours after the OP. Recovery wasn't easy but wasn't awful. Plus you've got a gorgeous snuggly newborn that makes it all so worth it enjoy the baby snuggles x

Congratulations