I'm so upset with dh

[Namechangenora40]

It's my birthday tomorrow but we decided to celebrate yesterday due to kids being at school and him being at work.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant so I know I'm being very hormonal.

On Friday dh picked the kids up from school and took them into town to chose my birthday present. He bought me a scarf and a £10 voucher for SuperDrug. He gave me these on Saturday unwrapped.
The dc were worried and upset as they didn't get me anything. He was literally in town for 20 mins. He said he would take them sainsburys to get me a box of chocolates today.

Today has came, and he's made so many excuses to get out of going, asking me "what do you actually need from sainsburys" making me feel like he doesn't want to go. So I told him not to bother, took myself to the toilet and cried.

I'm so hurt. I made such an effort with his birthday with the little money I have. We bought balloons, cake and everything. I feel like no effort has been put in what so ever. We went for lunch yesterday but I had to go halves. Even though I paid for his birthday meal and Father's Day meal.

I really don't understand why he's been like this, every year he's made such an effort on my birthdays, Xmas and Mother's Day. I felt like a princess last year.

I ended up walking out with the kids and hobbled to town (I have extremely bad spd). I managed to give the kids £10 each so they could buy me something which they loved doing, which he could have easily done on Friday! I texted him if he could pick me up and he said no. So I had to pay for a taxi home as I couldn't physically move from a bench because of my hips.

I'm so angry and hurt. I just wanted to feel appreciated. 😪

[hellsbellsmelons]

I'm so glad he stepped up and you had a lovely cake.
You need to tell him you feel more often.
You'll be just fine!!

[Skittlesss]

Glad you got a good birthday, but would suggest addressing the refusal to pick you up. Perhaps he doesn't understand how painful SPD is.

You need to look after yourself. No walking in to town like that. It won't do you any good at all. I had SPD from early pregnancy with my son... he has just turned 4 and I am still suffering with no formal diagnosis/treatment from the NHS as they just can't figure it out - seen specialists, had investigative ops and it's still here.

[Autumnchill]

Really pleased you got your cake and such a nice one!