www.aspergerexperts.com
My DD is 23 and is an undiagnosed Aspie. I've spent her life trying to get her to develop her social skills, keep her room tidy etc which has just led to frustration and anger and a situation whereby we hardly had anything to do with each other. It was grim for us both.
The above site was started by two American guys with Aspergers. There is piles of free information on the site plus courses to buy.
Essentially their message is about unconditional love - accept your Aspie totatally for who they are; don't try to control/change/get them to do it your way - just accept them. This way of being towards my DD has changed our relationship enormously and she is now beginning to come out of what Aspergers Experts call Defense Mode. Life is so much happier now. This site is really worth a look and could genuinely change your life. I'm going to say I am not BU to list it here to get the information out there.