AIBU to put 2 small pieces of beetroot on his plate?

[Sapeke1]

Week in week out I cook. Seven days a week with a roast on Sunday the same boring food with the same boring vegetables (peas, carrots) that my family will eat but TODAY I cut a BEETROOT into chunks and steamed it put most of it on my plate but I gave the everyone else 2 small pieces to try. My husband reacted like it was a sheep's eyeball or something, shouting "WHY HAVE YOU PUT BEETROOT ON MY PLATE?" and scooped it into the compost caddy thus undermining any attempts to encourage the kids to try this exotic new vegetable. Should I just stop cooking or what?

[RepentAtLeisure]

OP, please give your DH choice as an adult.

Stop cooking. He will then have all the choice in the world

[BertrandRussell]

Well, it would also, frankly, be nice not to be called "disablist" when calling an arse out on being an arse. Because in the case under discussion, there is zero chance of him being beetroot phobic.

[NeedACleverNN]

But how is there zero chance? He might not even know?

I didn't. I grew up thinking I was weird. Was only until lately that I began to accept that I have issues that could be a disorder. It's not phobia to me. I am not frightened of the food but I cannot force myself to eat it.

[BertrandRussell]

Because, as I said, they have been together long enough to hav had two children. It is impossible that they would not have been together in the presence of beetroot in that time.

But if you would rather he had an incredibly rare phobia than just be an arse, then fill your boots.

[NeedACleverNN]

Not at all. Just pointing out that there could be issues instead of there are some.

Preaching tolerance and all that and broadening minds to make others aware

[BertrandRussell]

And anyway, if by some million to one chance that was the case, he would presumably then have apologized and explained. And if he didn't, he's still an arse, just a beetroot phobic arse.

[dotdotdotmustdash]

YABVVVU. Beetroot is the DOF (Devil's Own Food 😆) along with celery and custard!

I've found my spiritual twin!

[user1465823522]

wow. your husband is a tool.

[randomer]

crazee idea......cook together? take it turns? One does the weekends?

[PresidentOliviaMumsnet]

Ahem

[exWifebeginsat40]

this has got really confusing. who here likes beetroot and who doesn't? i can't figure it out.

[pearlylum]

Plain steamed beetroot sounds boring, I would eat it but it wouldn;t float my boat. Raw beetroot is a salad is lovely, as is beetroot soup, roast beetroot with garlic, of course pickled beetroot.
I have a beetroot and chilli jam on the go atm, OH and I had some on Sunday evening with a baked camembert. delicious.

I love the way beetroot stains your fingers.

[venusinscorpio]

Shouting at someone is generally considered abusive behaviour. Giving them beetroot generally isn't. I appreciate there might be a teeny tiny minority of deliberate incidents where this would not in fact be the case, but I think it's fair to give the OP the benefit of the doubt here.

And clearly no one can expect a beetroot-free safe space or to go through their entire lives without encountering certain foodstuffs. And yes, even if they couldn't help themselves, you would expect them to apologise afterwards for such an extreme and upsetting reaction if the other person wasn't aware of the phobia.

I don't think this expectation is in any way disablist. Especially when you're probably much more likely to trigger someone's PTSD by shouting at them than by giving them beetroot.

[BennyTheBall]

I am just focusing on the fact that you cook 7 days a week, every week.

That sounds very tedious.

[finova]

Betroot is lush.
My kids really only eat sweetcorn, peas, broccoli, cucumber, carrots and beetroot willingly.

[venusinscorpio]

Clearly you have absolutely no understanding of sensory issues

Clearly you have no empathy for people being shouted at, which is universally recognised as abusive behaviour, something which giving someone a piece of beetroot to eat is not, except in very exceptional circumstances as discussed. Perhaps you, in turn, should educate yourself on the many other possible triggers for PTSD?

Your food phobia is yours to manage. You cannot help it, but you also cannot expect that you will never come into contact with beetroot, porridge, or pictures of beetroot or porridge.

[Queenbean]

Ficbia

You can't help your own reaction, but it's not reasonable to argue that anyone in any situation who is rude about food is rude because they must have sensory issues.

[pearlylum]

Beetroot and chocolate cake is heavenly. Works in the same way as carrot cake, making the cake deliciously moist and sweet.

[PresidentOliviaMumsnet]

Evening all
We understand that this AIBU but we would ask you all please to remember that Mumsnet's raison d'être is to make lives easier.
That if there's one thing that we can all do with, it's some moral support
Thanks so much
MNHQ

[pearlylum]

Beetroot and chocolate cake is heavenly. Works in the same way as carrot cake, making the cake deliciously moist and sweet.

[ExitPursuedByBear]

Good fucking grief.

I eventually opened this thread to say how much I love beetroot but